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Hey guys, I’m not sure where to post this as the addiction at hand is not to alcohol but I really need advice. Me (22F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been together for almost 5 months now,

In the beginning of the relationship he expressed to me that over the last few years he struggled with an addiction to cocaine and that he had been clean for a few months. I was supportive in his recovery and tried to motivate him to continue with it as I also struggled with said addiction in my late teens. Over the months he has occasionally relapsed (sometimes going behind my back and lying to me to do so) - which is a part of recovery that I understand yet he has never seen a therapist/addiction counsellor, he has never gone to rehab and even was in NA for a while but was still using during it, despite collecting the chips.

It has gotten to the point of me saying hey I’m very concerned and uncomfortable with this habit and if you have no desire to try to get clean, then we must break up. He normally responds with saying he wants to get clean or that he’s going to block his dealers, but I don’t see the proof in the pudding. In fact about a month ago, he responded to me saying that with “I’m tired of everyone telling me I’m doing something bad all the time, I’m in my 20s I just want to have fun and I don’t care what anyone else has to say or feels about it.”

Which broke my heart and made me realize that he doesn’t want to get better at all. Now we reach September. He has returned to college while I’m working, he always wants to stay home alone, has lacked communication and never has money unless it’s for fast food (as I can see). I was roughly a week late for my cycle this month so I decided to test. The test turned out positive (the only phobia I have is of labour and childbirth) and I discussed with my boyfriend that I am going to go through with abortion due to financial/career goals and generally not wanting biological children. He agrees that this is a good idea and then proceeds to spend roughly 5 hours after school with his friend playing video games until 10 pm. At 10 he asks to come and grab some things at my house and I offer for him to stay the night as I feel this should be time we spend together supporting each other with the new found news. He declines this offer, stays for about 5 minutes and then says he wants to go home for school - sure cool. This morning I text him and say hey good morning love you have a good day at school, his immediate response was telling me that he got so stressed about me being pregnant because his ex went through this (even though he doesn’t have to do anything I’m handling it all myself) that he relapsed. Then says that he called in for school today when he can only miss 3 days in the semester or he will lose his apprenticeship. I am incredibly hurt and frustrated, I have no idea if I’m in the wrong to be so mad at him or if this is as insane as I feel it is.

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A Montana man who killed eight of his relatives, including four children, during a Sunday dinner at a home in Montana had been asked by his parents weeks earlier to move out of the property, according to a family member.

Brad Ireland told The Associated Press that his former wife and two children were among those killed by Alan Smith, 44, in a homicide that the Billings Police Department called an "unimaginable tragedy." Investigators said Smith died after suffering a self-inflicted gunshot wound.

The victims were identified by the AP as Ireland’s ex-wife, Megan Ghekiere, and their two children, Owen Ireland, 13, and Chloe Ireland, 7. Also killed were Ghekiere’s two stepchildren with her current husband: Landon Ghekiere, 15, and Charlotte Ghekiere, 12, as well as Smith’s parents, Dana and Barb, and his grandmother Evelyn.

"The one thing we do know is that Charlotte was the hero," Jennifer Mercer, a neighbor and family friend who set up an online fundraiser to help cover funeral costs and other expenses, said to the news agency. "Charlotte called 911 and she tried to save her family. And that’s something the family does want out there."

The Billings Police Department said it responded to a 911 call of an active shooting at 6:01 p.m. Sunday and heard shots fired from the back of the house. Minutes later, the property was fully engulfed in flames.

Firefighters ultimately fought the blaze until around 1 a.m. Monday, according to Billings Fire Department Chief Matt Hoppel. The home is in a subdivision outside of city limits that’s not required to have fire hydrants.

"Due to the condition and structural integrity of the residence, recovery and investigative efforts must be conducted carefully and methodically," the Billings Police Department said Tuesday, adding that, "we extend our sincere and heartfelt condolences to the families and loved ones affected by this unimaginable tragedy."

Mercer described the family as "very loving and close," and said the children all got along and that their parents remained amicable even after divorcing.

The Smith family was originally from the Seattle area. Ireland said that after he and Megan Ghekiere divorced six years ago, she moved to Montana with their children and met the man who would become her second husband, Adam Ghekiere, who was working and not at the home when the shooting occurred.

She and Alan’s parents, Dana and Barb Smith, soon followed, buying a house in Billings near their daughter’s home. Evelyn Smith, their grandmother, lived in a nearby retirement community, Ireland said.

Alan Smith, who also moved in with his parents in Montana, was described by Ireland as a "hermit" who spent most of his days in his room on his computer.

"No one knew what he did in there 24/7," he said.

Smith’s parents had asked Alan to move out weeks ago after he stayed with them for years, Ireland told the AP.

Alan Smith had attended Eastern Washington University but had been unable to find or hold a job, the AP reported. Ireland told the news agency that to his knowledge, Alan Smith had never been violent, though he could be verbally abusive.

Adam Ghekiere, who works at the airport in Billings, told the AP that he heard over a dispatch radio about an active shooting. After calling each member of his family, he raced across town to the Smith home.

When he got there, the house was ablaze, and two hours later, he learned his wife and children had been killed. His children weren't supposed to be there because family dinner was usually on Friday, he said.

"I don’t think he expected my kids to be there," Ghekiere said, referring to his brother-in-law. "Monster isn’t even enough to describe what he did."

A GoFundMe page said Adam Ghekiere’s 15-year-old son Landon, who was set to enter his sophomore year of high school, was "looking forward to getting his driver’s license this week and was a patient, protective, and loving big brother."

"Charlotte was 12 and preparing to begin seventh grade. Funny, precocious, and adorable -- with just the right amount of stubborn -- Charlotte had an angelic smile and loved posing for pictures," it added.