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- The Patio General Discussionhttp://www.refugees.bratfree.com/list.php?7Sat, 25 May 2013 03:02:13 -0400 Phorum 5.2.9a http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300601,300601#msg-300601 Sexist Pat Roberts Foams at his mouth, again. 😡 (no replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300601,300601#msg-300601 WaterLily The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 19:53:53 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300599,300599#msg-300599 Sometimes, I forget who the teenager is (5 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300599,300599#msg-300599
My mother is a drama queen and acts like an entitled brat. If she calls you, for example, and you don't answer, she will continue calling! And no, there's no emergency. There never is! She'll call every line she has connected to you just because she wants to ask you some stupid question. I don't mind calls just to say hi, but she is ridiculous! My uncle got a so annoyed, he blocked all of her numbers on the house phone and she has no idea why. Really, lady? You call an insane amount of times like you have some kind of damn emergency when you don't and you can't understand why someone would block you to prevent you from calling? She once called twenty times within two hours. Unless someone's dying, there's no need to call like that and if someone is dying, call 911!

It just annoys me. She refuses to believe she can do anything wrong. She also takes offense to the tiniest thing. She once asked me when graduation was and I said June 26th. She called the school office (why didn't she do that in the first place?) and found out it was June 24th. So I was mistakenly two days off, yet she calls back yelling at me and accuses me of lying. Sometimes, I forget who has "-teen" at the end of their age here. She's gotten so annoying, even my sister (who was always the easier kid because she almost always obeyed Mom without question) barely wants to put up with her anymore.]]> brown-eyed diamond The PatioFri, 24 May 2013 23:16:17 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300562,300562#msg-300562 Feeling awkward :/ feel free to move if I've posted in the wrong place (3 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300562,300562#msg-300562
I'm in a quandary.

I've been with my husband for over 6 years, though we've only been married 6 months.

Throughout our relationship, his family have always treated me with respect and have never made me feel inadequate.

Every now and then, his maternal grandparents will give us some money - usually £30-£50 each - as a treat. In the past I have asked my husband if they can really afford it, but I've been told they're quite well off and apparently they go on holiday almost once a month.

This weekend we're going to London and they gave us two envelopes (one for me and one for my husband). We thanked them and then went into town to get some last minute bits and pieces. We decided to open the envelopes when we got home.

My husband opened his envelope first and seemed very surprised at how much was in it. When I asked him why he looked so stunned he said "open your envelope and you'll see". In my envelope was £50, and in his was £100.

This is the first time they've ever given us different amounts, and while I'm still appreciative for their gift, I can't help but feel upset at the difference. I know I'm being silly, and I won't say anything because it's inappropriate, I just needed to vent.

Thanks ya'll.]]> lurker-derp The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 15:59:17 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300527,300527#msg-300527 Humpers And Being Mean (1 reply)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300527,300527#msg-300527Really, really hate them.

You know when you go to a forum or a group because you like the thing the forum is made for (a book, a movie, what you want). You try to make a logical criticism of some part, and everybody start to mooh and low about that.

I hate this behavior. I want to talk, to engage in a good criticism of a work. And instead I got endless gushing on how gooood that is. Yes, the movie/book/blog/etc may be good, but everything is up to criticism. If it is logical criticism.

Guys, you know me a little (it is almost a year I am around): am I mean? Too arrogant?]]> t. The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 13:34:00 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300427,300427#msg-300427 Irritating trend in tv shows - Magic Autard Syndrome (1 reply)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300427,300427#msg-300427
For example, I love the show Hannibal, but they made Will Graham a borderline Aspie or some other shit. :rolleyes2

I can't stand any movie or show that makes this syndrome in to some super power. PFFT

Over all, I have avoided any show like this like the plague. Like I the Law & Order with the one character who is "special" even though I enjoy the other Law & Order shows.]]> Dingo8YourBaby The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 09:06:39 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300408,300408#msg-300408 PSA for the GED (in the USA) (1 reply)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300408,300408#msg-300408

DEAR ABBY: I have worked in the field of education for more than 40 years, with the last 25 years serving in adult education, helping students complete their high school equivalency diploma.

Big changes are impending worldwide in this very important educational service. Starting in 2014, the cost may go up. Up until two years ago, the classes in our community were free. The testing cost $7.50, which paid for a printed diploma. Since then, the cost has gone up -- first to $25 and then to $35.

Now the GED program has been bought by a for-profit organization and the costs will go higher than ever. Furthermore, it will no longer be possible to take the test using pencil and paper. It will all be done on computer.

Please encourage the thousands of adults who do not have their high school degrees to make a life-changing decision for themselves and their families now! -- JOY IN A CLASSROOM DOWN SOUTH

DEAR JOY: I am sure many readers will thank you for this important heads-up. Readers, the changes Joy has described will go into effect on Jan. 2, 2014. According to the media representative for the GED Testing Service in Washington, D.C., the costs of the tests will be determined by the state in which it is administered. It is currently between $0 and $250, and in 2014 will "marginally increase or decrease" according to which state you live in. (Decrease? Forgive me for being doubtful ...) Criteria for passing or failing the test will remain the same.

Readers, any of you who are not computer literate should start now. Do not delay. If you are uncomfortable with technology and have a friend or relative who is knowledgeable, more information can be obtained by visiting www.gedtestingservice.com.]]> Dorisan The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 12:52:16 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300327,300327#msg-300327 It's all in a name (5 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300327,300327#msg-300327
I just read the most inane blog on how "feminist" it is to change your name after marriage.

First of all, I can't give a flying shit if you change your name or not. I personally have a hyphenated last name, but I never use my married name. Ever. It doesn't make me any less married or anything. I have it for "family" purposes, but I just prefer to have my own name. Anyhoo..

Some bint was going on and on how "feminist" it is for women to take their husband's name. After all, IT'S A CHOICE AND IT'S HER CHOICE, SO THEREFORE, IT'S FEMINIST. She also sited some "research" on how 90% of women take their husband's names and 50% of America think it should be LEGAL for women to take their husband's names.

I don't understand why women are always trying to equate "my choice" with "being feminist". These cunts would have zero choices in their lives if it wasn't for the historic women's movement. Now, because they can CHOOSE to take their husband's name or stay at home or cook and clean or be financially dependent - well, golly. That's FEMINIST because THEY CHOSE that life.

She also doesn't support women who have "professional" names and "family" names. She thinks that they should all have ONE family name - and be proud of it. It was her CHOICE to get married and take her husband's name, you know. So, she is extra feministy proud.

Here's my take on it. Just choose a fucking name, and stop making a political case about it. Use the same name for work, home, etc. Who cares what it is? It's not more feminist to do one thing over another. Just pick your name and remember that there was a time when women COULDN'T retain their maiden names. It wasn't a choice, and there was no medium for women to go and bitch about it. They just did it.

Yes, feminism is about our choices as women. Our choices to be who we were intended to be. And if for these Moos, their life was intended to re-create traditional gender norms and mores, well good for them. No one else has to listen to it, though.]]> surgicalvetnurse The PatioSat, 25 May 2013 02:35:09 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300284,300284#msg-300284 Badly Out-Numbered: Sausage Fests and a Trip to Bonerville (8 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300284,300284#msg-300284I figured this would be better for The Rest Room, but since I'm not allowed to post there, it'll have to go here.

I've drudged up more Tales From ~~The Crypt~~ Out-Numbered, the creepiest duhdy blahgger I've encountered yet. (Note: The blog post titles have not been altered in any way...what you see is the original title!)

The first blog roasting on the docket: From Chicks to Dicks

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The tesosterone is talking, shhhhh!
My life is like one big vaginal roller coaster ride.

I am constantly surrounded by girly stuff. Sometimes I feel like I'm a pair of panties away from turning into a hairier version of the Little Mermaid. Just slap a pair of seashells on my tits and I'm finished. I need to man it up. I need to fight back. I need to...

Run away!

Don't all duhs experience the vaginal roller coaster ride whenever they fuck their moo wives? As far as being surrounded by girly stuff, maybe if you would allow your daughters a fire truck or two, and stop sticking to stupidly rigid gender roles, you wouldn't be bitching so much. Oh, and please don't stick shells on your tits...I might never eat again.

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Jack-Off Jason
That's exactly what I'm gonna do. This weekend, as a matter of fact. I'm going on my annual "Dudes Only" camping trip. Once a year, a bunch of us sorry sacks, pick a place in the middle of nowhere and disappear. Most of us are married with kids. A high percentage of us have little girls. It's a pretty hard core sausage fest. If we were a movie, we'd be a Dick Flick. It's a weekend to take back your manhood and heal.

Brown chicken, brown cow. A bunch of us get together every year and bitch and moan about the lack of masculinity in our respective houses...then we do Og bonding things!

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We Ogs do stuff
We sleep in tents and build fires. Sometimes we sleep in tents that catch on fire. We eat sausage, beef jerky and skirt steak. We drink Pabst Blue Ribbon from a can. We smoke cigars and stuff. And that's just for breakfast. We take to the river and battle nature. We shit in the woods and don't shower for days. Sometimes we don't even shit for days and shower in the woods.

Big fucking deal...I can eat meat too, and I don't need a penis in order to do so! :yeah PBR? You call drinking that piss water being a manly man? :eh?? You duhs should be used to being around people who don't shower for days; you're married to them!

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Bacon for the sausage fest
I packed a case of canned bacon. That's 12 cans. Each can has 50 slices of bacon. That's 600 slices of canned bacon. Suck on that. What ever doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. Unless it kills you. I'll take my chances. I can think of worse ways to go.

You paid $160, plus shipping, for that case of bacon...I hope it was worth it! But, later on, you'll bitch in another post about how broke you are; try to keep that in mind before buying canned bacon.

And with that...on to the Bonerville post!]]> popcornculturejunkie The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 12:16:49 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300023,300023#msg-300023 A whole new world (10 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,300023,300023#msg-300023
Unfortunately, they are things that I could have spent an entire life being okay with not knowing that they exist.

Mrs. Empty Nester attends a convention every year. Which one says you? The RT Booklover's Convention, which is supposedly some huge showdown of romance/erotica "writers" and readers. I looked it up online, and there are all kinds of workshops for the person looking to break into the genre, all kinds of fan workshops, things for teenagers, etc.

Mrs. EN has a Facebook album devoted to her time spent at these conventions. I got up an hour and a half ago to get ready for an interview, and all I've done is sit here and scream with laughter at these pics.

Seriously, I have never seen so many obese soccer Moms gathered in one place. The Moos at this "convention" can keep a sex toy business open for a century. OMFG. Everyone in sight is jacked up.

Well, everyone needs some sort of convention I guess to meet like-minded folks. I'm not sure that a hotel full of oversexed, suburban mothers is my thing - but hey, Dog bless.

ETA: I can't even tell you how I am DYING to try and post some of those pics here. They would be all time favorites.]]> surgicalvetnurse The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 12:47:37 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299956,299956#msg-299956 Am I an asshole? (4 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299956,299956#msg-299956 yorkielover The PatioTue, 21 May 2013 04:42:23 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299571,299571#msg-299571 Miley Cyrus: Achy-Breaky Hot Mess (12 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299571,299571#msg-299571really looks like ass these days.

Celebrities have no taste]]> popcornculturejunkie The PatioWed, 22 May 2013 13:18:31 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299523,299523#msg-299523 Moos invade queer website... (13 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299523,299523#msg-299523
There is one that I still like to visit, though, because it's remained somewhat interesting and it has a forum for queers in my area.

Someone who I believe is a troll, started the infamous "What percentage of women do you think is bisexual/bi-curious"? thread. That thread does downhill really fast and always gets locked.

This one was no exception. Actual queer women immediately started calling for it to be locked, but not before a handful of women, a few of them Moos, chimed in with some real delights:

"DISCLAIMER: I love men. I love peen. I love everything about peen. You could say that I worship peen. That being said, I had ONE experience for my husband before kids, and I REALLY didn't enjoy it. While I had the experience, I would consider myself 100% totally straight". (why are you on this website, asshole?)

"I think that there is nothing more sexual than a stiff prick and good, hard PIV sex. PIV sex is doubly amazing because you always have the option of creating new life! I think more women than not feel this way". (another one - why are you on this website?)

"I experimented in college, but I believe that you cannot compare a man's body to a woman's. A muscular men's body, with that smell? Mmmmmmm, amazing." (go smell your man and get off of this website)

I fucking hate when these bitches come out of the woodwork. First of all, if they are peen lovers and straight, why are they on a queer website? Second, why do they think that queer women want to read about their worship of peen and baby batter? The majority of women on this site are lesbian (no offense to bisexual or other queer identified women). I cannot tell you how many of these dumb cunts come out to say that realistic dildos will never compare to an actual cock, and they don't understand why women would want to use dildos, anyway when they can have the real thing, etc.

I am convinced that they are there to flirt with butches and then tell them how disgusting they are, and how men are superior.

And I don't know anyone who WORSHIPS genitals. Seriously. I like myself some cock, same way that I like myself some pussy (sorry if that's TMI). But for as much as I love sex, I don't fucking go around telling people that I worship someone's genitals. WTF?

I hate people.]]> surgicalvetnurse The PatioTue, 21 May 2013 10:25:10 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299520,299520#msg-299520 Bingo-ed For Not Liking A Popular Singer (34 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,299520,299520#msg-299520
Anyway, there was a topic about Mariah Carey. One of the posters said that she really didn't like Mariah Carey's music because of how she sang. Unsurprisingly, this poor poster got bingo-ed to death by the crazy fans saying stuff like "Are you crazy? She is the best singer of the world!", "Your just jealous because you aren't talent like she is," and other crap. The poster was still admant about not liking Carey's music, but the fans still bingo-ed her.

Another example is with Beyonce. A few years back when I was in high school, I was at one of those stupid prep rallies. Everything was okay until a Beyonce song came on. Girls around me stood up and started to dance! One of the stupid kids noticed that I wasn't dancing and asked me why I wasn't. Told her that I wasn't in a mood for dancing and I didn't like Beyonce's music. Another girl overheard me and said "Your just jealous that you're not as talent as she is!" Since I didn't want to argue, I decided to leave the gym. This was my last time watching another prep rally.

What really gets me is the fans not wanting to hear your side of the story. But then again, Mariah Carey and Beyonce have a lot of breeder and breeder-pleaser fans, so I'm not surprised.

Anyone has a similar experience they would want to share?]]> empresskitty The PatioFri, 24 May 2013 12:23:46 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298593,298593#msg-298593 Spousemoo - "I'm Not Recognized At My Hubby's Military Retirement" (33 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298593,298593#msg-298593

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Navywhore
My husband of 25 years calmly told me that there is not really a place for spouse recognition in the retirement ceremony. He wants to know if they did recognize me, what would I have to say at his retirement?

As far as I was concerned, it was a retirement for OUR entire family. This is the letter I wrote to him that I want to share with you:

To my Groom,

I’m retiring from the Navy, too. Today  I want you to recognize the accomplishments, the trust, the friendship, the humor we had that made your career, our marriage, and our life possible.

This bitch has got to be shitting me up the ass. At least one commenter has it right:

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can't be serious
My husband doesn't expect to walk across the stage and receive recognition from my college for not leaving me while I pursued 2 degrees. Why should the Military recognize me for playing my position as a supportive wife? I'm quite sure my spouse would have gotten his accomplishments with or without me. When someone is self-motivated come hell or high water they will get there and if you get in the way they will replace you, people do it everyday! This takes riding a coattail to the extreme and I'm embarrassed. But I can see that this will be another long drawn out thread of spouses agreeing and strongly disagreeing. So I'll just say I will just respectfully disagree and get back to chasing after my own accolades.

I'm actually at a loss for words right now. :X

http://spousebuzz.com/blog/2013/05/navy-wifes-letter-to-her-husband-at-his-retirement-ydu.html]]> law The PatioTue, 21 May 2013 13:26:58 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298420,298420#msg-298420 Celeb Careers Ruined By Sprogging :( (18 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298420,298420#msg-298420
A similar thing happened last year: a French death metal band that I'm into (or was), went on a brief hiatus because their vocalist - you guessed it - got inpig. But after she had the thing, she went back to band, they made their third album and went on tour. Some months after that, she announced on the band's website that she was leaving. She didn't disclose the reasons for leaving, but she didn't need to. It's obvious she's giving up making music, touring and having legions of fans to play maman. It sucks.

So, anyone else had their idols sprog and fuck up their careers?]]> strange aeons The PatioFri, 24 May 2013 22:10:58 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298385,298385#msg-298385 Spousemoo - "Gabrielle Reece Recommends Submission" (6 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298385,298385#msg-298385
http://spousebuzz.com/blog/2013/04/the-key-to-successful-marriages-submissive-wives.html

In her book “My Foot is Too Big for the Glass Slipper,” volleyball star and model Gabrielle Reece shares the marital challenges she faced with her husband, professional surfer Laird Hamilton, and how they were able to work their way back to each other after filing for divorce. She believes that her marriage improved in part due to the fact that she and her husband adopted more traditional gender roles.

You don't fucking say. Her "marriage improved" when she started treating Og like the king of the castle and serving him because it's "feminine and empowering" to do so? Maybe the name of her book should have been "My Brain Is Too Small To Think Straight."

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Gabrielle Reece
“So if I’m the woman and he’s the man, then yes, that’s the dynamic. I’m willing and I choose to serve my family and my husband because it creates a dynamic where he is then in fact acting more like a man and masculine and treating me the way I want to be treated."

Riiiight. As long as you act in ways that your overlord approves of, you get a cookie.

What happens if you don't?

:hammer

Also, why are these moocows treating a model/volleyball player and her surfer dude husband as if they are reliable sources of information? Why don't they ask the homeless drunk guy on the street for marital advice, he's got the same level of expertise. :dunce]]> law The PatioFri, 17 May 2013 13:41:25 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298248,298248#msg-298248 Moving to Denver...Tips? Friends? CF-friendly places? (4 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,298248,298248#msg-298248
Thanks for any advice!]]> thebitchisback The PatioSat, 18 May 2013 23:21:09 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297786,297786#msg-297786 No one will answer - Why so many people? (6 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297786,297786#msg-297786
Last Tuesday was a sad day for the nuclear power community. The owner of the Kewaunee nuclear plant in Wisconsin was shut down for the last time because the owner company decided to decomission the place. There was nothing wrong with Kewaunee, just that the electricity it made was more expensive than burning natural gas. One of the reasons Kewaunee was more expensive is that nearly 600 people worked there.

Am I the only one to ever ask: What did these people do all day? Why couldn't the place be made more automatic so that it could almost "run itself"? Even if just 300 people were there it would help. But I don't dare ask on other boards because "think of all the familes, we are all going to lose our jobs! I have kids!"

Well, now almost 500 will be gone once the place is now in "Safestore". But why wasn't there any attempt to go with fewer people? Do employers feel they have to keep people with familes on?

But then, I am mean. For example, I think private security is a "make work" program for active alcoholics so what do I know? Especially since I have no kids!]]> mr. neptune The PatioMon, 13 May 2013 20:34:01 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297564,297564#msg-297564 PA punishes domestic abuse victims for calling 911 (7 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297564,297564#msg-297564
http://www.aclu.org/blog/womens-rights-lgbt-rights-racial-justice-criminal-law-reform/shut-or-get-out-pa-city-punishes

The article talks about a lady who contacted the police when her boyfriend began battering her, but due to the city of Norristown having a disorderly conduct policy that includes sending the police to renters' homes, the police are only allowed to respond three times before the tenant must be evicted. Because calling the cops when your crazy boyfriend is beating the shit out of you is "disorderly conduct." According to the article:

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The ordinance specifically includes "domestic disturbances" as disorderly behavior that triggers enforcement of the law.

Because gods forbid the police get off their asses and do their job. So this made the victim in question too scared to call the police again, even after the same guy stabbed her in the neck and hit her with a brick. However, someone else DID call 911 on her behalf and she faced eviction because of it. Housing court refused to cave to the city's demands to evict the woman, so the city went so far as to condemn the woman's building so they could force her out.

This got turned over, but then the city passed an almost identical law that would fine landlords for tenants who contact the police over domestic disturbances three times within four months. Of course if you go and shoot or stab your attacker, you might go to jail, depending on whose on the jury.

In short, Norristown tells you to just bend over and take domestic violence with a big smile on your face, and anyone who witnesses or hears it needs to just STFU too. Just more instances of punishing the victims.]]> Cambion The PatioWed, 15 May 2013 12:15:41 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297484,297484#msg-297484 Granny Dumping (5 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297484,297484#msg-297484 peace-n-quiet The PatioMon, 13 May 2013 16:24:48 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297425,297425#msg-297425 Posting to a message board while doing shots. Hilarity ensues :D (1 reply)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,297425,297425#msg-297425
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Also, it's a good thing I read some stuff alone. I got to laughing so hard I blew snot. Very embarrassing :rollsmile]]> Dorisan The PatioFri, 17 May 2013 20:36:04 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296695,296695#msg-296695 Going back to college after a long absence...thoughts? (13 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296695,296695#msg-296695
I know being CF is a huge advantage in this department, as I won't have to worry about brat-care or getting away from noisy and distracting kyds to do my schoolwork. :D I need to work on the personality quirks I have which make success much more difficult for me. My academic success prior was marred by my tendency to have low self-motivation and procrastinate. I know a lot of other people have the same problem and still push through and overcome those challenges, so I have to figure out what it will take for me to do the same. I want to start only when I have the tools I'll need to succeed, because when I do go back, dropping out will not be an option this time.

I still have to figure out my financial aid situation and how I'll balance work and school. I don't think it would be wise to completely quit working. I also want to pick a practical and flexible degree program which will give me a higher likelihood of finding work post-graduation and begin paying off any loans I might need to take out. I don't see myself doing a baccalaureate program at this point in my life, but I figure I can definitely handle an associate of applied science in a practical field. If I find after some time that I want to apply my degree towards a bachelor's degree, it will be an option, but as of now I'm thinking I'll stop after the associate's. I'm not making a final decision until I figure all that out, but I know that a degree is an asset in most cases. Two years of really hard work and some stress in exchange for a potentially better future sounds good to me. :)

Being an older student is definitely different, however, and I wanted to ask those who spent several years out of college and then went back to give me some feedback. How was it for you adjusting to being a student again? How did you create a work/school/life balance that allowed you to be successful? What did you do during the difficult parts of your journey to push yourself through and not give up?]]> cosmictraveler The PatioThu, 23 May 2013 14:02:49 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296644,296644#msg-296644 Fucked over by breeder scum.... (15 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296644,296644#msg-296644
On Friday, the lead tech sent me a really nice text saying that I was doing a great job, that everyone loved me, and that they were happy that I was there. I come in early, stay late and they like my personality.

On Saturday, I was working with one of the girls who basically ignored me and taught me nothing. Everyone wanted to get out of there, so they were doing everything really fast and no one was taking the time to show me anything. I called the lead tech to tell her this. She was like - Oh, Saturdays are really hectic and I guess everyone wanted to get out. Don't be discouraged.

On Monday, I was slated to work from 9-1. Again, it was another day where everyone was hustling to get done, and no one showed me anything, or would let me do the things that I already know how to do. All I did was stand around, and get in people's way. I had an appointment that afternoon to take my cat to an internal medicine specialists because she has a mass in her abdomen. She needed an ultrasound and biopsy. At 1:15, I had finished up what I could, and went to leave. Everyone looked at the clock because a surgery was still going on. The lead tech was like - oh that's right, you have an appointment with the IM doctor. I

Today, I wake up to find that my cat's biopsy site had been oozing all night and her abdomen was bruised. I call the lead tech and ask her if I can bring my cat in. She was like - don't worry about work - bring the cat to the emergency clinic. This was at 6:30 a.m. At 12:30 p.m., I get a message from the vet that he no longer needed my services. WHAT? He wouldn't give me anymore information. I sent an email to the lead tech, who wrote back that the vet didn't like that I didn't come in today (even though she told me to not come in) and he didn't like that I make "all these appointments after work" which means that I can't stay and work overtime when they need me. I was like - if you put me on the schedule from 9-1, then I expect to leave sometime around one. If you need me to stay later, then extend my hours. The answer - "oh, we don't know when things are going to be crazy, so we can't give you definite days when you will stay late. Just assume that everyday is a late day and don't make plans."

This is typical breeder bullshit. 5 people work in this place, and they are all breeders or wanna-breeders. In typical breeder fashion, they have no life outside of work. Work is their "social time" and they spend as much time as possible there.

Sorry, I have a life and shit to do. I can't stand around for 3 hours after my shift is over so that I can clean the OR because no one else wants to do it. I was hired to do a specific job, not be the fucking janitor - which was what was happening. Everyone had this attitude that I had to "prove" myself to them to be trusted. Really? Then let me do my fucking job, instead of making me the janitor and kennel person. How are you going to trust me to do my job when you never let me do it?

So, I left a job that although it could be Hell on earth, at least the people really liked and respected me. There was none of this "proving myself" shit. They let me work from the get go and I did everything. No one ignored me and treated me like a fucking staff custodian. They were genuinely interested in my opinion about things. I barely spoke at the new job because no one really cared what I had to say. It was all the fucking vet bloviating and everyone nodding their heads in agreement.

I am so fucking mad. I don't know what to do. Honestly, I am at a point where I would rather not work than deal with this bullshit. I'm so disgusted.]]> surgicalvetnurse The PatioSun, 12 May 2013 10:55:34 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296516,296516#msg-296516 Advance Directives- Need Help (3 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296516,296516#msg-296516
I don't want anyone being able to make any decisions for me- especially doctors.

How do I word this? If I'm unable to make any medical decisions, how do I write this to reflect that?

Any advice would be welcome.

Thanks!]]> glynnis The PatioWed, 08 May 2013 05:06:04 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296076,296076#msg-296076 Is "selfish" what they say when they can't think of anything else? (15 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296076,296076#msg-296076post that listed common things asexuals hear from other people. One of the responses was "You're just being selfish."

What?:S How could they possibly say being asexual is selfish? Is this just a remark tossed out when they have no idea what else to say?]]> brown-eyed diamond The PatioMon, 20 May 2013 10:43:36 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296020,296020#msg-296020 Anxiety about airport security, need advice (26 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,296020,296020#msg-296020 chevygirl54 The PatioThu, 09 May 2013 15:02:29 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,294931,294931#msg-294931 Go pay this thief a visit. (4 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,294931,294931#msg-294931
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Destiny-and-Possibilities/229460083854414

Go over and let this thief know what you think of plagiarism.]]> Dingo8YourBaby The PatioThu, 02 May 2013 06:41:36 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,294321,294321#msg-294321 Vintage ads featuring sprogs (Warning: NOT PC) :wtf (2 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,294321,294321#msg-294321Old fashioned sprog ads

Funny side note: my captcha has VD]]> popcornculturejunkie The PatioSun, 28 Apr 2013 00:17:37 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,293949,293949#msg-293949 George Jones died (2 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,293949,293949#msg-293949Possum]]> Dorisan The PatioFri, 26 Apr 2013 19:35:56 -0400 http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,293099,293099#msg-293099 "___ Grade" vs. "The ___ Grade": A Regional Thing? (7 replies)http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?7,293099,293099#msg-293099the second grade."

I tried looking this up on Google five or six different ways to see if it is regional, but none of the results matched what I was looking for.]]> randy johnson's mullet The PatioSat, 04 May 2013 03:49:26 -0400