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SlumSlut
Thank goodness I saw a message from someone on Facebook. It was a simple fix with the hosting service.

The admins and some of the mods have my contact info available in private messages. I suggest writing this info down on a piece of paper and putting that paper in a safe place for times like this. I'll update that info right now, but remember, if the site goes down, you won't be able to access any info stored on the site.

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moderators
Due to several mass spamming attacks currently ongoing signing up is now more of a process.

1. register.
2. receive verification email. It may end up in your spam folder so if you don't get the mail look there.
3. Moderator Approval. Since moderators aren't here 24/7 this may take some time.
Moderators have to check the control center under unapproved users to find the current pending members.
They then need to sort through the spammers to find real emails and user names. It can take up to 72 hours.
4. Make a post in intro thread. Many spammers sign up for an account and leave it dormant to use for later attacks. Accounts with 0 posts after a reasonable time 24-72 hours after mod approval will be deleted.

reasons you may not be approved.

1) your user name or email looks like one of the spammers.
2) It's obvious you are a parent.
3) It's obvious you are a troll.
4) you used a munged email so your verification email failed to arrive.
5) You used a throwaway email.

Before you sign up:

1) On this site the definition of Childfree is very strict constructionist. If you have brought a DNA replicant into the world you are not childfree, even if you have no contact with. This includes:

Adopted it out
donated sperm or eggs
are currently a step parent


2) If your partner has kids - no matter how old - You're not CF. Adult kids have a bad track record of showing up and moving back in. It doesn't matter if they are 30 seconds or 30 years old. They count as steps.

3) This site is not step friendly.

4) See point # 3.

5) Expect the members here to be aggressively defensive about this. In the meat world we are abused, undermined and pressured into deferring to parents all the time. This is our safe space. Your steps -and their drama - don't get to push their way in here.

6) See point # 3

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deegee
I tried to post this in the "Office" forum, but I am not allowed to. How would someone outside BF contact a moderator directly in BF? I was contacted by someone in another CF forum a few months who was having trouble signing in here. She recognized me from BF and told me about her BF login problems but was unable to get more than an automated reply. The moderators PM inbox apparently isn't checked very often, I have learned.

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Cambion
@mumofsixbirds, could it be a browser issue? I use Firefox never had any issues either at home or on other networks.

Also, this isn't really a problem, but I just wonder if it happens to anyone else. I'll be logged in at the top of the page, but then if I scroll to the bottom of a post to reply, it'll tell me I have to login to post. It's not a big deal, it's just weird.