Some of my reasons

Thank you all for the warm welcome ! I thought I would give some of my reasons for deciding to be childfree.

1. I like quiet. I don't think I could handle someone being in my face 24/7 demanding my undivided attention. And having to constantly entertain them. I could not handle the noise, the whining and the screeching.

2. I am not patient. I don't like to repeat myself over and over again.

3. The financial matters.

4. This may sound selfish but, I don't want to lose my figure, and the whole pregnancy deal actually repulses me.

5. I like to pick up and go whenever I please.

6. I never had that motherly instinct. I never felt the need to reproduce.

7. Honestly I just don't like kids.

8. Again this might sound selfish, but I like to see the benefits of having or doing things. So I asked myself the question. How would having kids benefit me, or make my life better. Well I couldn't see it. They would only make me miserable.

9. My dog is my baby!

10. I don't want to lose my identity. And only be known as somebody's mother.

11. Having children in alot of cases ruin marriages and relationships. Whether it be financially, emotionally, or sexually.

12. I guess I was not meant to be a mother...and I'm perfectly okay with that!

So I am thankful for what I have. A wonderful fiance, a beautiful apartment, good friends...and I don't need a kid to complete me !

Sorry for the long post !

Those are many of my reasons too (except it would be cat babies for me). And believe me, it's not selfish at all to want to keep your figure. I wouldn't want to sacrifice a nice body for something that screams and makes me miserable. Sounds like life is treating you well...hooray for childfreedom!

Whatever works for one person, given it does not harm another, should be enough validation.

Anyone calling someone "selfish" over a benign choice such as being childfree is just jealous because they've chosen to make a mess of their lives and have kids.

Childfree life ROCKS. I am thankful every minute of every day that I am CHILDFREE!!!!!

Those are mine also. Additionally,....


1. I don't want to have a mom hair cut or constant scrunchie 'do. Almost every moo succumbs to this, no matter how beautiful her hair was before.

2. I like taking showers, washing and doing my hair, make up, and looking decent. All moos tell me they can't find time for this, even tho I don't understand why duhd can't watch the kid for 15-30 mins while moo gets ready.

3. I like having my nails done, and not have them ruined.

4. I like listening to my satellite radio all day, which constantly has many dirty words on it and touchy subjects not appropriate for little ears.

5. Altho I'm not a fashion plate, I like my clothes clean and flattering.

6. I like adult things like going to bars, swearing, movies, parties, dropping everything and going out, vacationing, reading books and the newspaper, walking the dog, relaxing, spending time with my hubby and other adults.
Moos tell me they all stop doing this post sprog.

7. I don't like soccer games, tee ball practices, school plays, gymboree, and other crap that every kids stops the minute they are an adult. You would think if they took athletics seriously, they would continue to exercise as an adult. A few do, but not many, so I can only assume the kids really aren't into it.

8. I like doing my job correctly and not trying to sneak out all the time.

9. I get up early when I want and how often I want, which actually is earlier than most moos, or earlier when moos have the choice. But it is MY choice not because of some brat.

10. I like to exercise....as often as I can...sometimes every day.

11. I eat healthy foods and usually don't buy crap.

12. I like to have many opprotunities to have sex, loud sex. W/o having to make a "date" w/ the hubby.

13. I like knowing that if I want to quit my job tomorrow and start taking classes or something so I could educate myself to do something else I could. I don't have to wait for sproggy to grow up.

14. If I want to lay on the couch all day and accomplish nada on the weekends, I could. I never would have to fear the next call for "mooommmmieeee, I need youuuuu".

I could go on and on, but I will give you guys a break. We all know we were the smart ones and dodged the babbyee bullet

I heard the most rediculous thing the other day. I got engaged a month ago so the BINGOING begins! At work I get asked constantly "when's the baaaaby? when's the baaaaaaaby?" I made it very clear that we are not having ANY, EVER. So of course everyone looks at me like I am not normal. I give all these reasons. I have a pretty decent comeback for every BINGO. When they ran out of reasons to tell me why I need to have a baby I hear. "DON'T YOU WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOUR BABY WOULD LOOK LIKE?" I nearly fell over. So I say, well do you want it if I don't like what I see?

Congratulations on your engagement, Sonja! Too bad you get bingoed. So, when's the baby? Just kidding!

My reasons are exactly the same as yours to remain cf.

Later on today, I'll pick up my mother at work, and we'll go to the movies. It's so hot outside, that we'll hide in an AC movie theater. I'm just afraid to get bingoed again, like it happened last time I took her out, for mothers day. She'll be retired in 2 years and wants me to have a kid, because she'll be bored doing nothing all day. Hell no! She told me several times pregnant women were ugly. Why would I want to be ugly? I don't want to ruin my body. It's not perfect, but it's mine and I don't want it deformed by a worm growing inside of me and feeding off me. I like my tranquility and be able to do whatever I want, whenever I want. Now, I'm contemplating taking courses this fall. The choice is so vast! But I can do whatever I want, the sky is the limit, because I am cf!!! Hurray! I'm thrilled with my life the way it is, because I can make it what I want. If I had kids, all my education and dreams would get flushed down the toilet!

Mrs. Ogre


Good Luck with school ! I think the bottom line with being CF is the FREEDOM!!

I am with you on many of the reasons, Sonia! I never felt the mothering instinct. As a little girl, I hated playing with baby dolls. Even now, I feel that baby dolls are such an insulting toy for female children because it basically teaches girls "their place" in life. Baby Alive was the big ta-do in the 1970's. The doll drank out of it's bottle and ate like a "real bay-beigh"...and it cr*pped it's diapers just a live infant. What an awful thing to give a child as a toy. It only reinforced how this was c*nt work that a woman must do once adulthood hit.

CF Uter, I agree about the freedom to enjoy sexuality. Regardless of the "experts" claiming that moo-wives must make "sex dates" with the hubbies to keep the marriage alive, I would tend to believe that this would kill any desire. Unfortunately, we all live on schedules and tight time due to work and other responsibilities regardless if a person is childfree or with children. Yet, making a sex date seems to me that there is very little priority with the relationship. Like it was mentioned in a thread re: affairs, sex and desire will wane from time to time. However, that is no excuse to not show affection or caring in another way.

I'm with Soniaj and cfuter on my reasons to be childfree. Iwouldn't want some parasite to ruin my figure, nor my life.

Baby Alive... I never had that one, but I had one called Chew Susie Chew, that came with red food. When it "pooped" it looked like it was bleeding out of it's ass. Nice...

Welcome, Sonja! I also agree that most of your reasons mirror mine. The pressure society puts on us to breed is insane. The phrase "to each their own" doesn't apply to breeding those babies.