I just don't freaking get it... :S

I have this new co-worker who is a good guard. He is almost 50 and very reliable. We got to talking when the fellow mentioned that he is drawing a pension from a concrete company due to being quite young when he started that job. After retirement, his wifey said she wanted him out of the house and on to another job or to learn another field. Of course, the wifelet is a stay-at-home moo! They have a daughter who is age 14.

My co-worker tells me -- while laughing by the way -- how his wife just shops....shops...shops! She will throw good towels away every six months saying they are no longer "good". Clothes get carted off to the Salvation Army at the same rate. Her joke about the towels is that they are in the landfill. Same goes for food. She overshops and tosses bread and other stuff away on a weekly basis. The man tried to tell her to buy less food so there is less waste but she refuses to listen. It kills me how these househo*'s waste so much when so many people have NOTHING!

The clincher is that this guard met her when she was a divorced moo with two sprogs. This man had no kids at the time and took on these two as his own. As soon as his daughter was born, the wifelerette stayed at home and has not worked since. This man is a good person. We talk about on this site of how FREAKING HARD it is to find a good man but the single moos scoop them up and then use them up like no one's business.

I do not understand why this man lives at a friend's during the week to work a job as a security guard that does not pay that much. He will drive home Friday night after work to his five-acre home in Ocala. Jeez...the man PAID for his home. The wife did not contribute a d@mned thing to what they have so she has no right telling this man to stay away during the week. I just don't get it! Anyone have any answers?

Sounds like the new co-worker needs to borrow a set of balls from one of us.

And as for the haus frau, she should be thankful that somebody wanted to take her and all her baggage.

Who the hell wants an entitlement-minded breeder moo with 2 kids?

WTF??? Throwing away TOWELS after only SIX MONTHS? Jeebus, Catdaddy insists on using these mangy, raggy-assed towels that are older than dirt, You can hold these up to the light and SEE THROUGH them, that is how bad they are. He's had them longer than I've known him (10 years). I bought nice towels a few years ago, but he won't use them...he doesn't like thick towels. So I use them. FINALLY, I have talked him into going shopping this weekend for some new ones that he likes. He has FINALLY admitted that maybe he should buy some new towels.

But tossing them after six months? What a WASTE! It sounds to me like this moo is not happy in her marriage, and is using shopping as a source of comfort. The fact that she doesn't seem to want this guy around attests to that fact. But she is not willing to divorce him, as she'd lose the walking wallet.

This guy needs to grow a spine and cut off the gravy train. Put wifey-poo on an allowance, cut off her access to any credit cards, etc. He could divorce her, but he is probably afraid she'd take him to the cleaners for brat support, alimony, and even take the hosue away from him. I think he feels that he is financially better off living the way he is now, rather than going for a divorce. And he probably is. But he still could cut off wifey-poo's access to the money.

I am a SAHW myself. I have full access to EVERYTHING...bank account, credit cards, etc. When I first met Catdaddy, I was working, and I kept working until shortly before we got married. I was working at a crappy job, and he encouraged me to quit, if that was what I wanted. He said that since I was supporting him while we were still shacking up (he was unemployed and trying to finish his electrical engineering degree at MIT), that it was his turn to take care of me.

It was hard for both of us at first. He's made a good salary since he got the degree, so finances were never an issue. It was hard for me to not have my own income, as I've worked at least part-time since I was 15. And it was hard for him to open a joint bank account and let me use his credit cards, as his first wife spent every dime he made, and then some.

But I am happier over not having to work at shit jobs anymore, and he now sees that I am NOT like his ex-wife, I don't waste money on stupid shit. It works for us. We have very similar values about money and debt and such, and we love and respect each other. That's why it works for us.

India, your co-worker really needs to grab the bull by the horns and do something about this. This is just unacceptable behavior on the part of his wife. Since he's the only one earning any money, he has the right to control the purse strings. I hope he'll do so.

I am like Catdaddy, Catmommy. I actually have towels from my former marriage. The satin decoration is completely worn off one towel. The bunny chewed through a "Palm Springs" towel my mom sent me from her vacation back in 1992. Even when I was a stay-at-home in my former marriage, I never wasted money. If I wanted something, I would take on an assignment with Kelly Services where I was listed so I could make a purchase without having to explain it to the husband.

Just like my EX-friend with the Thai housewife, my co-worker's wife probably would love a divorce but knows that life as a divorced moo would really s*ck the second time around. At age 50, this broad is not going to meet some cutie on the beach as she did with my co-worker some 25 years ago when she was still sort of pretty despite those two sprogs.

I think my co-worker does laugh about it all because the reality is so awful. The man did study to be paralegal but is having a hard time finding work in that field since the lawyers want experience. Never mind his tenure with the concrete company where he is drawing a pension. Often times, jokes and laughter mask the sadness a person feels. I know because I have been there. I am sure I will hear more tonight since I am going in even though the flu still is yucky...

i been digging out one of the rooms here.. its got old towels 10 years old, i put them there one day.. and forgot about them, complained icouldnt find any.. so i bought new ones.. i found my old school uniform, 20 years old.. no way in hell would i throw towels that are 6 months old.. if a towel becomes a little ratty, i use it to dry the dogs. they dont mind.. and food, yes my mum does buy food we dont need, but she was brought up in a starvation time the 2nd world war. so she stockpiles stuff.. tins etc.. if bread goes a little moldy, we chuck it out for the birds and wildlife..

some people just should be allowed money..

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He is an enabler. Since stupid moo is depentdant on his income, he needs to lay down the law on conserving money. I don't get it either why these moos snag these guys..

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Most of these men, like my ex-friend married to the overseas single moo, are huge enablers. They do not realise that they have the power in the marriage but kowtow to the screams and demands of these women. It is awful! How these single moos snag these guys is beyond me. I can see why some of the men become SOB's after marriage to one of these pieces of work...

My co-worker also told me the other night how his wife will order pizza for her and the daughter. Before the man gets any or if he does not want a slice, the SAHMoo will THROW the rest of the pizza in the garbage can! The majority of stay-at-home wives are a very wasteful lot. Another man I know with a greedy and demanding SAHMoo for a wife is demanding that she take him shopping for things to take on the cruise. This woman already has a closet full of garmets and designer cosmetics. It is very easy to spend another person's money when the sweat equity has not been put out on a job to earn that $$$$. Marriage is not a financally prudent thing for a man to do since most women will not work after the two words of "I do" are said -- even if the wives have a profession that pays well. Men find out the hard way that their spouses act like nothing more than petulant children who only whine and demand for more things..."I need more things...."

Another rant-o-la on this topic. I am friends with this one friend again. His wifey has a computer in the house. But...the househ* is demanding a laptop. The b*tch does not work so it is not as if she needs it to earn income for the house. All she does on her computer is the photo editing junk or e-mailing friends/family from her country. This is a woman who has squandered her husband's earnings on gambling when living in a state where there are gambling casinos run by the Native Americans as well as running up credit cards to fill her closets with clothing. And...she drives a newer car while Financially Conservative Hubby drives an old van from the 1980's. Oh...I can rant on and on...

Good grief! I have towels that are older than my nieces and nephews. I bought a beautiful set of very expensive Turkish cotton towels back in 1981, and I still have them. They have lasted and I could never justify spending money on something perfectly useful.