The "I got bingo-ed" thread

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golddiggingants
I'm not sure if this is a directly a bingo, but definitely a case where someone couldn't leave well enough alone. Someone posted on their facebook page "remember, if plan A fails, remember you have 25 letters left". I responded with "now available at (name of well-known pharmacy here)". Someone else replies "and if that fails, you'll be a parent", which I ignore. The friend who posted it said something that I interpreted as asking what I meant, and I said I was talking about plan B. The original respondent reiterates that plan B is the last option, "and if that fails..." I respond "plan D&C". Strangely enough, this person didn't reply. Why can't people just leave well enough alone? (I don't even know this person!)

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CFBitchfromLA
As you get older and move away from the traditional calving season, you still get the bingoes but they are different. Some of the bingoes come from grandbreeders and are the passive-aggressive kind like, "You must feel lonely now" or "I feel so sad that you'll never know the joy of children/grandchildren". Of course, this is followed by a half hour of constant bitching, moaning and whining that the baybees aren't being raised correctly or the grandbreeders are shelling out tons of cash or whatever. Another set of bingoes come from the geezer breedermoos who give you the "never say never", "I can refer you to a good fertility specialist" or "It's not too late!" Again, this is followed by a litany of complaints over the cost, inconvenience of following the infertility schedule or a self pity party about being too old to keep up with the brat.

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blackpearl
This is not actually a bingo but i have to spill it out...i wrote in another post how a work colleague harassed my husband about our cf-ness and "suggested" her brat rabid niece. Well...well....she stopped it and even more as i understood she came so pissed off at work yesterday. The reason? Her son! Apparently he had some exams to do but instead he got shit drunk and of course missed them. That woman was so mad that the whole morning she just bitched about kids and how ungrateful bastards they are.

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Kelli
An indirect bingo from my mom while we were stuck in the car for an hour or more, "But theres no feeling of love in the world like holding your own baby."

I was holding our new kitten as she said this, simply fondling over Smokey and briefly mentioned how she could ever compare a bratty kid to a kitten. And suddenly she spouted out the above crap while going on and on about how she "doesn't" regret having kids.

That feeling of "love" is simply selfishness for your DNA replication and not caring about the kind of shitty world the kid is born into. You just want to experience the feeling and not truly care about the kid.

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blueorchid
Update about my Bingoing friend with a 12-year old daughter; I saw her over the weekend and again, she started with the, "I still think you and DF should have kids" crap. I responded with, "I've always appreciated that you understand and accept that I'm CF and that having children isn't my path in life." She stared at me blankly for a second and said, "Well, I still think it would be so cool if you had kids!" FACEPALM. I said, "Well, it isn't up for discussion and I don't know how much clearer I can be about that." After a few seconds of awkward silence, she changed the subject.

Ugh, so sick of it. I may have to cut her loose. I hate to do it, but if I kept saying to her that I think it would be so cool if she no longer had a kid, or I really think she shouldn't have had one, I can only imagine the fallout. It's so disrespectful. All these breeders want to do is make sure we're in the same position as they are.

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happysammy
I was thinking of you on Friday, when I visited a friend of mine who is a single parent of two young boys. She's always been fine and apparently accepting of my happy CFness, but went into an unexpected bingo-frenzy and hit me with just about everything you can think of in the space of 10 minutes.

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happysammy
I was thinking of you on Friday, when I visited a friend of mine who is a single parent of two young boys. She's always been fine and apparently accepting of my happy CFness, but went into an unexpected bingo-frenzy and hit me with just about everything you can think of in the space of 10 minutes.

That usually happens also to me...people who are apparently fine with my CFness break down at one point and throw so much bingoes i can't even keep up with my bingo card
To be honest i kinda lost trust in people who "seem" fine with it because until now everybody who seemed fine broke down one way or another.

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happysammy
Oh FFS, what more can you say to these deluded fools?!
I admire you for trying it though, such a shame it didn't put a stop to her nonsense. You're right about the double-standards, there'd be hell to pay if you were reverse-bingoing her. Only you can decide if the friendship has enough value to you to make it worth putting up with that nonsense, you certainly couldn't be any clearer about it.

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happysammy
I was thinking of you on Friday, when I visited a friend of mine who is a single parent of two young boys. She's always been fine and apparently accepting of my happy CFness, but went into an unexpected bingo-frenzy and hit me with just about everything you can think of in the space of 10 minutes.
It was all the usual stuff which I patiently replied to, but she just kept coming back with more, and basically waving aside my point of view.
I had to leave as I was out of time, but I'm seeing her next Sunday. I'm going to give her a proper lecture about how inappropriate and offensive some of those assumptions are. If she can't accept it, I won't meet with her again, but I'm hopeful that I can get her to accept that not everyone feels the same way she does. We'll see.

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blueorchid
Ugh, so sick of it. I may have to cut her loose. I hate to do it, but if I kept saying to her that I think it would be so cool if she no longer had a kid, or I really think she shouldn't have had one, I can only imagine the fallout. It's so disrespectful. All these breeders want to do is make sure we're in the same position as they are.

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Snark Shark
it WOULD make your point though, to use that as an example.

"Maybe one day, you'll dump your daughter off with CPS!"

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felisdomestica
'married people HAVE to HAVE kids. do you know what's children role in a family? children strengthen up the bond between married people! children make married couple stay together, they stick the family together! that's why married people need to have kids!'

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blueorchid
GAH! I'd have bitten my tongue right in half trying not to rip into her.

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felisdomestica


'married people HAVE to HAVE kids. do you know what's children role in a family? children strengthen up the bond between married people! children make married couple stay together, they stick the family together! that's why married people need to have kids!'

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yurble
I got the "if you don't have kids, what are you going to do with your possessions when you die?" Do I look like I have one foot in the grave? And is it really that hard to find a way to dispose of what you've accumulated over a lifetime?

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juliewashere88
What she means is that kids are a good tool for trapping partners, making them stay out of obligation or necessity rather than because they actually want to.

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yurble
I got the "if you don't have kids, what are you going to do with your possessions when you die?" Do I look like I have one foot in the grave? And is it really that hard to find a way to dispose of what you've accumulated over a lifetime?