The "I got bingo-ed" thread

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togspled
I just got twisted bingoed by my mother. "I hope you have a kid who is retarded and disabled and has ADHD" apparently this will make me realize how hard it is to be a parent to a special needs kid and make me more tolerant and accepting of the lesser intelligent.

I hung up on her and won't pick back up.

WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK??

that's not just wishing something bad on YOU, that's wishing a horrid life on a kyd!

guess she doesn't really love kyds, as SHE WANTS THEM TO SUFFER!

Arrrgh!
If I get the "Oh you don't want kids...you obviously had an emotionally traumatic childhood" bingo one more time I will seriously kill someone.
Oh yes! That must be it! That's why I don't want to make the same choices as you...because I'm not as well rounded and "together" ..
For the record you egotistical cunt...I had a fantastic childhood. I traveled the world from very early on in life and you know what? I kinda liked it. I liked it so much I think I want to keep doing it.
I also had all the freedom in the world and guess what? I LIKED THAT A LOT TOO. See where I'm going here?
The only way you can feel good about your shitty existence is to delude yourself into thinking that you're somehow better than everyone else. You're not. You're an obnoxious asshole.
If I cared enough I might actually pity you.


Sorry guys.....needed that rant badly!!!!!

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togspled
I just got twisted bingoed by my mother. "I hope you have a kid who is retarded and disabled and has ADHD" apparently this will make me realize how hard it is to be a parent to a special needs kid and make me more tolerant and accepting of the lesser intelligent.

I hung up on her and won't pick back up.

Wow, she must really love kids to not only wish hardship like that on her own child, but to wish a child with such problems into existence. I'm sorry, your mother is a bitch.

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togspled
I just got twisted bingoed by my mother. "I hope you have a kid who is retarded and disabled and has ADHD" apparently this will make me realize how hard it is to be a parent to a special needs kid and make me more tolerant and accepting of the lesser intelligent.

I hung up on her and won't pick back up.

I can't believe anybody would wish those things on someone totally innocent. That's so fucked up I'm at a loss for words.

Wow, togspled.

You could reply: "Whatever the case, if I had a lapse of judgement and actually sprogged at least my kyd wouldn't have a fucking spastic cunt for a mother."

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togspled
I just got twisted bingoed by my mother. "I hope you have a kid who is retarded and disabled and has ADHD" apparently this will make me realize how hard it is to be a parent to a special needs kid and make me more tolerant and accepting of the lesser intelligent.

I hung up on her and won't pick back up.

Wow. Looks like you have a Martyr Mommy on your hands.

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togspled
I just got twisted bingoed by my mother. "I hope you have a kid who is retarded and disabled and has ADHD" apparently this will make me realize how hard it is to be a parent to a special needs kid and make me more tolerant and accepting of the lesser intelligent.

I hung up on her and won't pick back up.

Wow. Looks like you have a Martyr Mommy on your hands.

You have no idea. She fancies herself a mini Mother Teresa, except I'm sure Mother Teresa never bitched all day about how the house wasn't clean enough to meet her OCD standards

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togspled
I just got twisted bingoed by my mother. "I hope you have a kid who is retarded and disabled and has ADHD" apparently this will make me realize how hard it is to be a parent to a special needs kid and make me more tolerant and accepting of the lesser intelligent.

I hung up on her and won't pick back up.

Wow. Looks like you have a Martyr Mommy on your hands.

You have no idea. She fancies herself a mini Mother Teresa, except I'm sure Mother Teresa never bitched all day about how the house wasn't clean enough to meet her OCD standards

That might be accurate. Teresa was known for getting off on the suffering of others, even to the extend of keeping people in pain and poverty so she could keep appearing important by "helping" them.

I get bingoed all the time. Being 45 years old and looking younger than my age, I hear people say that it's not too late, bla bla bla. To which I reply, "It was always too late for me to have babies; I never wanted them." You'd think that I kicked them in the face or something - the looks I get, the GASPS, and head-shaking. How DARE a female never want a pweshus widdle baybee? What the hell is wrong with this woman? OMG, she must be a minion of Lucifer! OMG, she should be shot!

I've also pointed out that I am menopausal, having had a hysterectomy a few years ago. And then I get the, "Oh, you poor thing!" POOR THING MY ASS! I love it that I can't have kids! I love it that I never bred! I tell them, "Oh, it's okay; I never wanted kids in the first place, so I'm fine with that." Again, the gasps and looks of utter disbelief...

It pisses me off because it seems that just because I have a fanooter and tits automatically means that I am supposed to breed. And I am SUPPOSED to love babies. And I'm supposed to think that pregnancy is a beautiful thing and women have a "special glow" about them when their pignant. None of the above.

I guess that us CF will always have to deal with the dirty looks, the bingoes, the disbelief that we are CF, along with the nasty treatment we get from breeders or those who feel we should follow "Life's Script." All I can say is that at the end of the day, no matter what is said to me, I am still CF and LOVING IT!!!

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I'm so glad that I have no goddamned kids - it gives me more time to spend with my pets, who will always love me unconditionally.

Getting bingo-ed will never end, will it? The one I seem to get the most (and I just got it this morning) is, "You'll change your mind because I was crazy enough to change my mind." Excuse me, but I'm not that crazy. I don't even like kids and know for a fact I don't EVER want any! Why do people assume that because they changed their minds, I will, too? How stupid is that?? I'm so tired of it! I can't wait to get myself sterilized and then I can tell them that I CAN'T change my mind, even if I wanted to!

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Getting bingo-ed will never end, will it? The one I seem to get the most (and I just got it this morning) is, "You'll change your mind because I was crazy enough to change my mind." Excuse me, but I'm not that crazy. I don't even like kids and know for a fact I don't EVER want any! Why do people assume that because they changed their minds, I will, too? How stupid is that?? I'm so tired of it! I can't wait to get myself sterilized and then I can tell them that I CAN'T change my mind, even if I wanted to!

Then they'll say "you could always adopt". OH.. and then there are the post fertility bingos. "Aren't you sorry??"
or "Now who will take care of you when you're old?"

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Getting bingo-ed will never end, will it? The one I seem to get the most (and I just got it this morning) is, "You'll change your mind because I was crazy enough to change my mind." Excuse me, but I'm not that crazy. I don't even like kids and know for a fact I don't EVER want any! Why do people assume that because they changed their minds, I will, too? How stupid is that?? I'm so tired of it! I can't wait to get myself sterilized and then I can tell them that I CAN'T change my mind, even if I wanted to!

Then they'll say "you could always adopt". OH.. and then there are the post fertility bingos. "Aren't you sorry??"
or "Now who will take care of you when you're old?"

Or they will call you useless human being or shove in your face phone numbers of doctors who do reversals.

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starlady
Then they'll say "you could always adopt". OH.. and then there are the post fertility bingos. "Aren't you sorry??"
or "Now who will take care of you when you're old?"

Or they will call you useless human being or shove in your face phone numbers of doctors who do reversals.

I want the tubal implants. You can't reverse that! As for the post-fertility bingos... Boy, am I looking forward to that. NOT! It really does never end, does it? And who will take care of me when/if I'm old? Probably the same people who will take care of them! NURSES and whatnot! I can't believe people seriously have kids just for that. And they call US selfish! The nerve...

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smithsfan
It really does never end, does it?

Don't say that! I die a little inside when I think of how many more years I might have to put up with such patronising horseshit.

My latest bingo was last night, I mentioned i'd just had my implanon/nexplanon changed (And I know some people don't get on with implants but I <3<3<3 mine!) I mentioned that my arm hurts like fuck but I was mostly babyproof and got a whole lot of 'You don't know what you're missing!!' rubbish from my old boss. I tried to be diplomatic because you know how parents take everything personally and say 'I'm sure yours is a great kid but I gots other things to be spending my hard earned minimum wage on like... Peroxide and leopard printed things. ^^' but of course they don't ever let up...

The next response was 'Oh of course they cost a lot but my little MAY-UN is just soooo cute.' (For the record, he looks like he'd slash your throat in your sleep in a fucking heartbeat.) You'll say the same one day!'

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I really should start betting large amounts of money with people who say that. I'll be quids in once I hit my thirties and get these motherfuckers tied/essured.

it never fucking ends does it? another forum I have participated in for years (and the folks know me well) just bingo'd me.... "well, do you think babies are all mapped out and planned?" Well... YES... yes I think that is the right answer for bringing new life into the world. Just because you piss on the stick and it turns blue or whatever does not mean you have to follow the fucking lifescript. And what about BIRTH CONTROL? Because you know I've been fucking for a good many of my 37 years now and never got knocked up once!

sorry for the curse filled rant, but OMFG does it ever end?

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sorry for the curse filled rant, but OMFG does it ever end?

At the rate things are going, when they're lowering your body into the ground, someone will say, "You know, it's not too late for lux to have a baby. We can take a cell and mix it with another cell and find a surrogate mother--there's enough estate to pay for it all."

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lux5
sorry for the curse filled rant, but OMFG does it ever end?

At the rate things are going, when they're lowering your body into the ground, someone will say, "You know, it's not too late for lux to have a baby. We can take a cell and mix it with another cell and find a surrogate mother--there's enough estate to pay for it all."

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LOL!!! Yep... wouldn't put it past some people who insist that we all must replicate. After my hysterectomy my father found out that I still had ovaries....OMG His first words were "You can still have a little bayybee"
CRAP!! (I am guessing that he was thinking surrogate.. or maybe he really didn't understand the female annatomy) What part of "I don't want any" don't these people understand?

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It really does never end, does it?

Don't say that! I die a little inside when I think of how many more years I might have to put up with such patronising horseshit.

My latest bingo was last night, I mentioned i'd just had my implanon/nexplanon changed (And I know some people don't get on with implants but I <3<3<3 mine!) I mentioned that my arm hurts like fuck but I was mostly babyproof and got a whole lot of 'You don't know what you're missing!!' rubbish from my old boss. I tried to be diplomatic because you know how parents take everything personally and say 'I'm sure yours is a great kid but I gots other things to be spending my hard earned minimum wage on like... Peroxide and leopard printed things. ^^' but of course they don't ever let up...

The next response was 'Oh of course they cost a lot but my little MAY-UN is just soooo cute.' (For the record, he looks like he'd slash your throat in your sleep in a fucking heartbeat.) You'll say the same one day!'

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I really should start betting large amounts of money with people who say that. I'll be quids in once I hit my thirties and get these motherfuckers tied/essured.

At first, I read a portion of the above, "...peroxide and leopard printed THONGS." HAHA, I need to go to bed. I also need to stop at Target for a few things, since you reminded me.

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sorry for the curse filled rant, but OMFG does it ever end?

At the rate things are going, when they're lowering your body into the ground, someone will say, "You know, it's not too late for lux to have a baby. We can take a cell and mix it with another cell and find a surrogate mother--there's enough estate to pay for it all."

I'd laugh... except you are so right on it could probably happen!

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Yeah, my boyfriend doesn't quite get that yet. See, as a young guy, he's not really used to people openly challenging his decision not to have kids (not that it doesn't happen to guys, I'm just saying that apart from the casual suggestions of his mother, no one has really bothered him about it before.) It probably didn't even occur to him that it was something that was going to cause a stir. But since the conversation about a young woman getting fixed, one who wasn't even present, things quickly went south, much to his shock.

truth!

as a guy, I can certainly say I haven't been exposed to NEARLY the amount of KYD related questions gals have to endure. also, when asked why I don't want kids, I simply say I DON'T LIKE THEM, and that ends the topic. you'd TRULY have to be over the top NUTZO to tell someone who DESN'T LIKE KIDS to HAVETHEM ANYWAY.

This has never happened to me - if I make any negative comments about owning offspring I ALWAYS get the classic bingo: "You were one once too". I have even gotten this recently from both of my closest coworkers (who both have broken famblies). I would love to know the magic incantation that shuts the conversation down, but I haven't found anything like that yet.

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This has never happened to me - if I make any negative comments about owning offspring I ALWAYS get the classic bingo: "You were one once too". I have even gotten this recently from both of my closest coworkers (who both have broken famblies). I would love to know the magic incantation that shuts the conversation down, but I haven't found anything like that yet.

"Yes I was and it sucked balls. I hated kids even then. If I had to do it all over again I'd pull a Phoebe Prince."

Never a saw a face go whiter faster, especially since I dropped it on a Mormon.

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This has never happened to me - if I make any negative comments about owning offspring I ALWAYS get the classic bingo: "You were one once too". I have even gotten this recently from both of my closest coworkers (who both have broken famblies). I would love to know the magic incantation that shuts the conversation down, but I haven't found anything like that yet.

"Yes I was and it sucked balls. I hated kids even then. If I had to do it all over again I'd pull a Phoebe Prince."

Never a saw a face go whiter faster, especially since I dropped it on a Mormon.

Last night my uncle died, so I was at my family's house. My cousin's girlfriend was asking me about my being CF. She was really respectful. My cousin, on the other hand, told me that he thought that people who don't want kids are selfish and that I need to "grow up." Riiiiight...This coming from the man that can't hold down a steady job and has multiple kids that he can't take care of...yet I need to grow up. Can anyone tells me how the fuck that works?!

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Last night my uncle died, so I was at my family's house. My cousin's girlfriend was asking me about my being CF. She was really respectful. My cousin, on the other hand, told me that he thought that people who don't want kids are selfish and that I need to "grow up." Riiiiight...This coming from the man that can't hold down a steady job and has multiple kids that he can't take care of...yet I need to grow up. Can anyone tells me how the fuck that works?!

Breeder logic. Gotta love it.