Re: My on-the-gound question: "Childfree" step-parents July 05, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,753 |
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laura
Hi all, I see that I should have posted my question here! Great discussion. Please keep it running and I'll track and at the end of month sum what pple said! ~Laura http://laviechildfree.com
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 05, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,975 |
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loavesstillsuck
I DEARLY wish he had about a hundred childfree brothers for all you single ladies on the forum!
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 06, 2011 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 2,348 |
Lavender Dreams
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 08, 2011 |
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kidlesskim
I was a step-moo from 1993-2005. At that time I did NOT consider myself childfree, although I seriously wished I had made a different choice in the matter of becoming a step-moo. I lurked on childfree sites at that time, but never posted on them because I didn't belong. Childfree means NOT having a hand in the raising of or caring for a child, IMHO.
that must have MASSIVELY SUCKED!
at least you escaped!
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 08, 2011 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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remaininteresting
I have a step son and consider myself child free. I didnt realize when i joined this group (TODAY) that it would be so elitest, but i digress..
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 08, 2011 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,145 |
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remaininteresting
I didnt realize when i joined this group (TODAY) that it would be so elitest, but i digress...
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 08, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,975 |
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remaininteresting
I have a step son and consider myself child free. I didnt realize when i joined this group (TODAY) that it would be soelitest,elitist,,selective, truthful to what the group actually claims to be, but idigresswill go on about how "mean" y'all are instead of reading the FAQ or listening to any of the intelligent and eloquently written posts by KidlessKim or Yurble
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 09, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,425 |
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Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 09, 2011 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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FreeAndHappy
I do think there's some grey area with truly adult children who have never showed abnormal dependency or dysfunction. I mean, if someone is 60 and marries someone with 40 year old children who don't need or expect parenting and don't see them as a 24 hour daycare for the grandkids, I'd still consider them CF, since there are no "children" in the picture.
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 09, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,975 |
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I do think there's some grey area with truly adult children who have never showed abnormal dependency or dysfunction. I mean, if someone is 60 and marries someone with 40 year old children who don't need or expect parenting and don't see them as a 24 hour daycare for the grandkids, I'd still consider them CF, since there are no "children" in the picture.
If that interpretation works for you. I still see it as a partnership where there would not be the true sharing of a couple. In some respects you would have to make sure that your interests are protected. Also, there is always the uncertainty of a hardship falling on the kid(s) or grandkid(s) that would cause them to turn to their parent and, perhaps, go against your own principles of how much support you feel should be granted them.
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 09, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,291 |
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I do think there's some grey area with truly adult children who have never showed abnormal dependency or dysfunction. I mean, if someone is 60 and marries someone with 40 year old children who don't need or expect parenting and don't see them as a 24 hour daycare for the grandkids, I'd still consider them CF, since there are no "children" in the picture.
If that interpretation works for you. I still see it as a partnership where there would not be the true sharing of a couple. In some respects you would have to make sure that your interests are protected. Also, there is always the uncertainty of a hardship falling on the kid(s) or grandkid(s) that would cause them to turn to their parent and, perhaps, go against your own principles of how much support you feel should be granted them.
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 09, 2011 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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blondie
Your kyds are your kyds until you die. Adult kyds freak out when their older parent marries because they worry about property and inheritance issues. CF means CF. I don't know why we are trying so hard to find gray areas and exclusions.
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Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 09, 2011 |
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Dorisan
If that interpretation works for you. I still see it as a partnership where there would not be the true sharing of a couple. In some respects you would have to make sure that your interests are protected. Also, there is always the uncertainty of a hardship falling on the kid(s) or grandkid(s) that would cause them to turn to their parent and, perhaps, go against your own principles of how much support you feel should be granted them.
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 10, 2011 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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FreeAndHappy
The idea of sharing everything as a couple is not at all attractive to me, so I think that with the same principles but being considerably older, a partner's life including truly self-sufficient older adult children wouldn't be different to me than that person wanting to spend time with nieces and nephews.
Re: "Childfree" step-parents July 10, 2011 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,031 |
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Re: My on-the-gound question: "Childfree" step-parents August 03, 2011 |
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Laura Carroll
Thanks to all of you who weighed in on the childfree step parent question--here is a summary of what people said:
http://lauracarroll.com/2011/08/hapyy-non-parents-day-and-reporting-back-july-on-the-ground-question/
Would love your thoughts on the August on-the-ground question at La Vie Childfree: What childfree stereotype have you been subjected to most in your life? How has it impacted you? How have you dealt with this?
~L
Re: "Childfree" step-parents August 03, 2011 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 715 |
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Laura Carroll
Thanks to all of you who weighed in on the childfree step parent question--here is a summary of what people said:
http://lauracarroll.com/2011/08/hapyy-non-parents-day-and-reporting-back-july-on-the-ground-question/
Would love your thoughts on the August on-the-ground question at La Vie Childfree: What childfree stereotype have you been subjected to most in your life? How has it impacted you? How have you dealt with this?
~L
I''m curious as to why you're hanging out here. You don't even like us enough to include Bratfree as a link on your site.