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Oh, I am so watching this. I just love the ultimatum the entitled SIL tried to give, that she would give the OP X amount of time before just penciling her in for a shift. larious
Re: Sooo, do you want the 1st, 2nd or 3rd shift schedule for helping me out with the baby :wtf (UPDATED) October 11, 2011 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 6,607 |
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I think I need to know more about this sign up sheet. You mentioned a couple of rules, like you have to serve her the baby in bed and you can't sleep in her house even if the weather is preventing you from leaving. Was she giving all these rules verbally or were they written somewhere? Is Grandma going to be punished if she takes a cat nap on her night shift? Will she at least give you a blanket so you can go sleep in your car during the blizzard?
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I think you should respond to her. I think you should also up the ante. It is possible that other people in this group are not excited about helping her. Spark the revolution. Send a copy of this letter to all of the people involved--all the relatives and all of her friends. You could even consider sending a copy to her doctor.
"Dear Sis-in-law:
I am in receipt of your schedule for your postpartum period. I told you previously that I would not be helping you out this time.
First, I am familiar with the recovery after a cesarian section from both a nursing and personal perspective. I had one with my third child, so I had two little ones that needed care in addition to the newborn. I do not believe that the amount of help you are requesting, 24 hours a day for 6 weeks, is necessary. Indeed, that amount of inactivity will lead to deconditioning and an increased risk of DVT. You should discuss this with your physician.
You made some comments about a baby shower. I would hope that the very expensive item I gave you at your shower 2 years ago is still serviceable for this baby. I put extra thought and money into an item that would really last. We will not be buying you another expensive baby item because you've redecorated or now wish to have said item in a different color. I noticed your hints about another baby shower and am not in a position to do this for you. While baby showers for subsequent pregnancies are not necessarily appropriate, I'm sure your friends would consider this if they felt so moved. I look forward to your meet-the-baby event.
I have previously explained that I would do for you exactly what you did for me after my pregnancies--nothing. I did help you after your last pregnancy, which is more help than you gave me after any of my 3 deliveries. You specifically said that it was my family's job to help me. Apparently I am only family when you want something. I have provided a list of resources for you if you need help after your delivery. You can purchase as much or as little help as you desire. This is also more help than you gave me with any of my pregnancies. Perhaps we should discuss repaying this help with some babysitting so that Husband and I could enjoy a night out.
There has been some confusion about making demands on my time and also misquoting me on my recommendations for others. I will not be available for any "shifts" after your cesarian section. I do not condone demanding this of your friends or family. I have not, nor will I ever, recommend committing someone to this without their expressed desire and permission.
Best wishes for a speedy delivery and an uneventful and quick recovery."
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I'm enjoying this - thanks Dorisan for picking the bones out and making it more easily readable.
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I'm enjoying this - thanks Dorisan for picking the bones out and making it more easily readable.
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Apparently there are some back stories to this relationship that make the MIL and SIL look like even greater masterpieces than is related in the scheduling post. This tale is becoming mildly viral and other folks are filling in what they've heard on other boards.
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WNM3 mentions ruined desserts? Well, she makes an excellent brownie with topping. When it was served to her in-laws, MIL would finger off the topping and eat that part herself before serving the brownie (sans topping) to the family. When it happened more than once, with MIL refusing to acknowledge how rude, tacky and just plain gross her behavior was, WNM3 quit making the dessert. Pissy MIL fit ensued.
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Wow, the husband is an on-call EMT who is prone to exhaustion-induced seizures? Boy, that's comforting. In any case, I'm glad to hear this lady isn't giving in to her bitchy SIL's demands. And oh noes, she's not allowed to help plan SIL'sgift-grabbaby shower? Oh woe is her! I'm sure her heart is breaking. eyes2
The husband's whole family sounds fucked up - if I were this lady, I'd sever all contact with the women on his side.
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No, I would sign up for a shift, bring a couple of strippers and maybe a dominatrix or two, and blare loud music the entire time (and maybe cum on the dinning room table a few times). When that is done me and my new friends would help ourselves to all of the food and booze in the place, invite a bunch of college kids over (with a few kegs) and have a good old party and wreck the house. I don't care if I have to spend a night in jail or some shit like that...Quote
i would sign up for bunch of shifts...
...and not show up or call. heh heh.
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I have been thinking about this one throughout the day because it's so incredibly rude it boggles my mind. I have NEVER heard of anyone I have known throughout my life demanding people sign up for "shifts", or even ASKING people to come over at certain times or for specific things, for that matter, after any personal medical crisis. The ones that came to my mind included chemo-therapy, surgery for amputations, heart bypass, tumor-cancer removals, and a heart transplant, among many other MUCH more serious and debilitating conditions all of which weren't elective either like loaving. The NERVE of this moo-cunt is undeniably the worst of all I have ever heard about.
I have always been very grateful for the smallest of thoughtful things people have done of their own volition over the years whether it was for me or a family member including dropping off a casserole to offering to stay with my mom while she was recovering for a few hours here and there to a ride to a doctor's appointment. NEVER in my wildest imagination can I even fathom the thought of posting a fucking sign up sheet and then following up via email when someone declined to volunteer. This bitch needs an awakening and I hope her SIL can fulfill that need in the same manner in which she has been treated which is as brazen and rude as possible.
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No, I would sign up for a shift, bring a couple of strippers and maybe a dominatrix or two, and blare loud music the entire time (and maybe cum on the dinning room table a few times). When that is done me and my new friends would help ourselves to all of the food and booze in the place, invite a bunch of college kids over (with a few kegs) and have a good old party and wreck the house. I don't care if I have to spend a night in jail or some shit like that...Quote
i would sign up for bunch of shifts...
...and not show up or call. heh heh.
larious
"you wanted me to COME over. What's the problem??"
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I have been thinking about this one throughout the day because it's so incredibly rude it boggles my mind. I have NEVER heard of anyone I have known throughout my life demanding people sign up for "shifts", or even ASKING people to come over at certain times or for specific things, for that matter, after any personal medical crisis. The ones that came to my mind included chemo-therapy, surgery for amputations, heart bypass, tumor-cancer removals, and a heart transplant, among many other MUCH more serious and debilitating conditions all of which weren't elective either like loaving. The NERVE of this moo-cunt is undeniably the worst of all I have ever heard about.
I have always been very grateful for the smallest of thoughtful things people have done of their own volition over the years whether it was for me or a family member including dropping off a casserole to offering to stay with my mom while she was recovering for a few hours here and there to a ride to a doctor's appointment. NEVER in my wildest imagination can I even fathom the thought of posting a fucking sign up sheet and then following up via email when someone declined to volunteer. This bitch needs an awakening and I hope her SIL can fulfill that need in the same manner in which she has been treated which is as brazen and rude as possible.
This Moo is demanding personal in-house service? What nerve. That reminds me of a similar experience.
A decade ago I had to have a minor surgical procedure done--nothing life threatening. I really got myself ready for it, mentally, physically, and logistically. I purchased foods that I knew would be easy on my stomach and I'd be able to eat within my diet specifications of the surgery. I cleaned EVERYTHING in my home. I made sure that all of my bills were paid, even paying the newspaper guy in advance so I wouldn't have to be bothered with weekly collections. I had plenty of clean towels, laundry, etc.
The ONLY thing I couldn't get was the medication I needed--for pain and post-surgical antibiotics, as these were prescribed on the day of the surgery based on severity. Do you think any of my breeder colleagues at the time offered to do a goddamn thing to help me? Thankfully one of my relatives was kind enough to go to the drug store and pick it up, as well as drive me home from the operation. (I was unable to drive for one week.) After years of participating in "money trees" for weddings, baby showers, birthdays, I received ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in return. Not even a card. And I participated in EVERYTHING when it came to giving to these folks.
The breeder crowd is the FIRST in line when it comes to gift grabs of any kind... yet they'll be completely ABSENT when your hour of need arrives. Young workers please understand this: These people don't give a shit about you.
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No one except my husband helped while I was recovering from my hysterectomy. Several people offered to, but i didn't need to take them up on it.
That reminds me - I also hate it when people offer to help you when they don't really mean it. Only, they don't EXPECT you to take them up on it. I found out who my real friends were - or rather, who my mother's "real" friends were - when my mother died. People said to me, "If you need anything - ANYTHING at all - let us know." Well, I guess "let us know" just IMPLIES an "offer" to help... but anyway.
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