"Glamorising" the CF life hurts childless feelings June 16, 2019 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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80 percent of unmarried women are childless, and of those, 81 percent plan or hope to have children one day.
This is not how the phenomenon is portrayed in the media. Magazine cover stories and news articles tout the so-called “childfree” life, assuming all childless women have chosen this fate, waving some sort of feminist flag. But the truth is, these women are not “free” of the children they yearn for. Motherhood is a burden that we would give anything to bear.
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Some on the right assume that feminism has tricked us into believing that we could have it all, leaving our wombs bereft of life and our lives bereft of meaning. On a recent episode of his podcast, even professor Jordan Peterson, for whom I generally have great respect, has opined that only motherhood, and the sense of responsibility it imbues, can enable women to development into adulthood. But this implies that childless women live in a kind of existential limbo, seen neither as children nor adults; neither cared for nor caregivers; neither fully formed women nor life-informed adults.
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Re: "Glamorising" the CF life hurts childless feelings June 16, 2019 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,970 |
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Wanna-Moo
While my dream of twin daughters did not come true for me, it turns out my intuition wasn’t completely off. As the Yiddish proverb goes: “We plan, and God laughs;” I am blessed with not one, but two sets of twin nieces. My dream came true for my brother and sister-in-law, twice, and I could not love all my nieces and my nephew more if I tried.
Re: "Glamorising" the CF life hurts childless feelings June 16, 2019 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
Re: "Glamorising" the CF life hurts childless feelings June 16, 2019 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
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Cambion
I've yet to see a decent article on childfreedom where it unashamedly comes out and says that some women voluntarily choose to not breed because they don't want kids. Pretty much every article I've personally seen on CFdom does the precise opposite: labels us as childLESS and how we only think we don't want kids, but we'll see the truth eventually because everybody loves and wants babies.
Can someone show me these glamorous childfree articles? Because I've never seen one. Usually it's something written in a negative tone or with breeder-pleasing undertones. And I give no fucks about how my lifestyle affects someone who wants children and can't have them. Will me feeling guilty about one of the few things in life I have control over somehow help the infertiles get pregnant?
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Cambion
If you don't have something you don't want, then yes, you are "free" of something you consider a burden. Not everyone thinks the same things are burdensome because everyone's different. Why is this so fucking hard to comprehend? For some people, sugar-free is bad because they like real sugar and non-sugar sweeteners taste awful and are more expensive. But for others, sugar-free means they get to actually have dessert instead of watching everyone else enjoy it while they stare longingly.
It sucks when you can't have something you want, but that's kinda how things go in life.
Re: "Glamorising" the CF life hurts childless feelings June 19, 2019 | Registered: 5 years ago Posts: 106 |