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Then he started going on and on about how "when people have a family, their priorities change." So I asked him why he doesn't consider the two of us to be a family. Then he goes off on the all too familiar "famblees require kyds" tirade and ends up asking me why I hate people who have families so much and why I have such a hang-up about kids.
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You dodged a bullet. A BIG ONE!!
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I have been with Erik for three years now, and we got engaged over Christmas in 2011.
And now I am done with him.
I was seeing signs of breeder in him, and I came here to post about it, then I spoke to him and he assured me he never wanted children.
Well, last week, we got in a fight because he has all these friends that he goes out with, and I do not. I have never been one who had a lot of friends, and the couple close friends I do have are childed (not moos in any sense of the word, but they still have obligations that preclude going out with me). I got sick of him going out every Friday night with a guy that I do not like (he has cheated on his wife multiple times, and has a very sexist attitude about relationships).
So I confronted him about it, and I just asked him why he can't spend a Friday night here or there home with me instead of going to the bars with his boorish friend (I didn't phrase it that way).
Then he started going on and on about how "when people have a family, their priorities change." So I asked him why he doesn't consider the two of us to be a family. Then he goes off on the all too familiar "famblees require kyds" tirade and ends up asking me why I hate people who have families so much and why I have such a hang-up about kids.
(I do not have any hang-ups about kids, first off. I just value my personal freedom too much to be tied down by kids. Also, I don't hate people with kids. Three of my closest friends in life have children - and I actually enjoy being around their children!)
Then he tells me that he wants them and that if I loved him, I would want to have kids with him.
OH HELL NO.
First off, just because he is 34 doesn't mean he can talk to me (I'm 24) like a child. When we fight, he often talks down to me like I'm unintelligent. Second, I can't believe I almost married a breeder. He might say that he hasn't been hiding these feelings, but to me, they don't just appear overnight. My choice to be child-free wasn't overnight! And third, I refuse to be romantically tied to anyone who wants me to compromise my child-free status in any way. I will never date anyone who has kids (even grown kids) or wants kids. EVER.
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I have been pretty absent for the last week because I gave him his ring and got my own one-bedroom apartment within walking distance of my job, completely across the city from him.
I made it clear from the start that I am never having kids, and even got Essure almost a year ago. If he is not on board with my decision, he can go find some ignorant wannamoo to marry.
Now, tonight, I am going to go out and celebrate my singledom!!!
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I am sorry you had to go through this. But you did dodge a bullet. It would have been harder and more expensive to escape if you had married him. This is a little OT, but why do men date these young girls and then treat them like children? If she's grown enough to fuck, then she is not a child. And if you do view her as a kid, then you shouldn't be fucking her. Breeder men have zero brains in their heads. All they see is young pussy shoving out their heirs. Or a trophy to put on their arms.
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