Yoohoo! Anyone here have a CF sibling or relative?

From Seacreature's post about her SIL

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I wish there was someone in my family to identify with. I guess that is a luxury!

Sure is. There are no relatives I'm acquainted with who are CF or accepting of being childless. My siblings, decent parents though they are, have kids - Little Sister has 5. My older sister has two, but her her son has 6 (one was brought to the marriage by his wife). My in-laws - Dh's only sibling had 5 (must be a magic breeder # or something ) and, boy, have all of them gone to work breeding grandchildren and now g-grandchildren for my BIL and his wife.

I thought I might end up with a CF niece; my younger sister's daughter married a couple of weeks ago. I wrote a post about her health issues (she had to have an ovary removed last year) and how her now mother-in-law ( fundie) was hoping she'd be pregnant as soon as she spoke the wedding vows. Alas, Niece and her husband have already bought a house in the suburbs. Younger Sister said it needs some work but they picked it because "it's in one of the best school systems." Fuck-a-doodle-do

So, anyone here have a compatible CF relative? Is it as awesome as I'd hope?

One of my sisters is a fence-sitter, but her husband's wearing her down (sigh). I believe my other sister's CF, but I don't have a relationship with her, so it makes no difference regardless. It doesn't seem any of my cousins are CF, unfortunately.

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I have two distant relatives that never married or had children. So I guess that doesn't count. I don't know if my brothers are going to have children. They never declared themselves CF, and they seem to follow the rest of the Lifescript. So, they probably will.

My boyfriend's brother is married with no children. My boyfriend is under the impression that the guy doesn't care about having any. So maybe he won't.

I have 2 cousins who are CF. One is 55 now and the other is 63 so I know they arent' changing their minds on me. Thought I had 2 more cousins who were CF but....saddly... they turned to the life script. One after 12 years of marriage. They were just not interested in kids for many years. Then they joined a church. Suddenly... she's pignant and pops 2 in 3 years. The other cousin said she wanted to be free to travel and concentrate on her job. Well... they were also married for almost 10 years and I got a Christmas card saying 'S... is expecting in February' then she had another 2 years later. Those two cousins have since drifted off into their own worlds. They both live far from me. I just never hear from them anymore.

My one aunt has no children, but I don't know if that's her being CF by choice or childless. She also has been with the same guy for over 25 years, but never married him (he has a grown kid with his ex wife, but I don't think my aunt ever had to deal with it). But I think she always preferred cats to kids, which is why she has about 15 or 20 cats. Babysitting all my cousins and myself when we were growing up probably made her never want any of her own.

Another of my aunts I thought was CF until she came home one day with a toddler (aunt was in her 40s at this point). For a while, she seemed to be following the same lifestyle as the previously mentioned aunt (no kids, with the same guy for 20+ years, never married), but she kinda disappeared for 2 years and we assumed it was for work (she worked for an airline and therefore wasn't home much anyway). Nope, she disappeared to give birth and raise the loaf. Her daughter was an accident and, being a good Christian and not wanting to have a bastard and burn in hell, she married the father (not her boyfriend). And conveniently didn't tell her boyfriend about the affair or the child, just kind of abandoned him with no explanation.

And my late great-aunt never had children, but again, I don't know if this was voluntary or not. Same for my oldst cousins who are without children. But hey, since I'm not allowed to talk to my family, I suppose it doesn't matter who is CF and who isn't.

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Caffeinated Childfree

I have one somewhat vocal childfree cousin, age 35, and one childLESS sister, age 47, who has gradually realized in the past decade she probably is childfree as she did have a "choice" at one time to spawn, but didn't.. At any rate, neither want kids now and even if they did, their baby ovens got cut off several years ago. I also had one childfree great uncle, now deceased, but he had a great life after retiring from the military and he never married, lived in a cabin on the lake, and sold bait and tackle. He was ALWAYS in a good mood and kept a keg of beer on tap at all times. Of course he was always my favorite.

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If YOU are the "exception" to what I am saying, then why does my commentary bother you so much?
I don't hate your kids, I HATE YOU!

Not me. My brother is a PNB and my sister is a breeder, and I'm not particularly close to anyone else in the family.

My little sister is 30 and CF by choice. She dislikes kyds damn near as much as I do. The best part about it is that she is my ONLY sibling so no grandkyds for our parents. Our dad has always supported our choice not to spawn and our mother has finally learned to deal with it.

My aunt is CF as well. I am not sure that it is by choice or because she and her husband just couldn't have any but I have never heard her complain about it. They live very full and successful lives. They own a jewelry store, do barrel racing and he is a successful painter here in Texas. I doubt they would of accomplished what they have in life if they would of spawned.

My late uncle and his wife were childLESS but they never accepted it. She passed 5 years before he did. She had so many medical problems mostly due to how her parents didn't properly care for her as a child. She got inpig numerous times but it always resulted in still borns and miscarriages.

My grandmothers brother was not only CF by choice but also marriage free by choice. He was a highly successful party planner and was worth a couple of million. He never married because he was paranoid that some woman would just use him for his money. I can't say that I blamed him on that one. He did seem happy with his choice though.

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One of my sisters is a fence-sitter, but her husband's wearing her down (sigh). I believe my other sister's CF, but I don't have a relationship with her, so it makes no difference regardless. It doesn't seem any of my cousins are CF, unfortunately.

Hubby's gotta prove his dick works, huh?

I've got several aunts and uncles on my mom's side of the family who are CF. Out of 6 girls, two(including my own mother) have bio children, one of them has a child but it's her partner's bio kid, and three are CF. Out of the four boys on my mom's side, only one has bio kids, another one has two adopted kids and the other two are CF. My dad's side is another story though as just about all of them have their own kids.

1/2 brother is CF but I suspect it's more because he is super selfish and lazy and also weighs about 400 lbs (hard to find a date). As he is older than I am I suspect the famblee is about to die out. Mom seems fine with that. She does not have many illusions about her kyds.

I'm the only CF person in my family, period. Nobody else is CF. In fact, they're all breeders and breeder pleasers. I've been harassed, denigrated, insulted, and made to feel less than a real person because I refused to breed. I'm at the bottom of the totem pole, so to speak.

I've dealt with it a long time ago, including their jealousy. I just don't care anymore. Life is too short to worry about what other people think about such things.

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blueorchid
One of my sisters is a fence-sitter, but her husband's wearing her down (sigh). I believe my other sister's CF, but I don't have a relationship with her, so it makes no difference regardless. It doesn't seem any of my cousins are CF, unfortunately.

Hubby's gotta prove his dick works, huh?

Heh, I guess. They do seem more baby-rabid since his sister calved.

My sister is a fence sitter but more of a CF. I have an aunt who is CF and she is my hero

I am luckier than most.

Mother's side - one uncle who died sans kids and was obvious he didn't like them. One cousin who is very childfree and married to a wonderful CF wife.

Father's side, one great aunt who was CF but her husband had a couple of kids who lived far away. Two aunt's - one never married, one with a wonderful husband from England who raised pheasents, chucker partridges along with Irish and English Setters, one uncle (who I am named after) and a cousin.

Older brother is childless. He said he wanted kids after he bombed out of the Catholic semminary but could not cut the apron strings and still lives at home.

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"I fly because it releases my mind from the tyranny of petty things." - Antoine de Saint-Exupery

No. I am the only one that is CF. The ones that didn't or do not have children were/are childless.

My brother and SIL aren't CF but don't have kids yet and they aren't baby-rabid at all. I'd be glad if they did have kids, though, as I personally don't dislike kids, I just don't want any of my own. I know my parents would enjoy having grandchildren and I think my brother and SIL would be good PNBs.

Then on the other hand, my cousins are breeding like rabbits. One has had two kids in three years, two just had their first and the other's wife is inpig. EVERY SINGLE ONE has claimed it was an "accident" -- I don't see how that many accidents in one family is possible unless they have some genetic aversion to birth control that I don't know about.

I have two sisters and a brother. None of them have any children nor do they want any. We're late thirties & early forties so I can't foresee any minds changing.

It is nice. We are focused on our pets, careers and hobbies With us, it's just unspoken that children are just a big waste of money and energy.

My mother would occasionally inquire when we were in our twenties and early thirties if we were going to have any. But she never pressured us. Mostly because we girls never married.

My older sister is a breeder pleaser though. She's always buying some co-worker, relative or friend elaborate gifts for their kids. Then anytime someone has a new loaf, I get emailed or texted pictures of them. But since I stopped the obligatory oohing and awwing, the pics & emails have slowed down.

But other than that it is pretty cool!

I have two cousins who are in their 50s that are CF. My only brother and his gf are expecting their first, not sure how they will go as parents. Our mum isn't particularly thrilled at the prospect of a grandchild, but the blokes have always been the clucky ones in our family. At least we now live on the other side of the country so we won't have to deal with it on a regular basis.

My sister and her husband have always said they want to wait until their late 20's or early 30's to have kids. They are both 27 now and nothing yet... Hopefully nothing ever. I am the only person in my family that is CF, thankfully no one in my family is a breeder... Though I do worry about my sister because she is quite the breeder pleaser.

If my family has heard of being child free they've never let on. It's a foriegn concept for the most part.

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Another of my aunts I thought was CF until she came home one day with a toddler (aunt was in her 40s at this point). For a while, she seemed to be following the same lifestyle as the previously mentioned aunt (no kids, with the same guy for 20+ years, never married), but she kinda disappeared for 2 years and we assumed it was for work (she worked for an airline and therefore wasn't home much anyway). Nope, she disappeared to give birth and raise the loaf. Her daughter was an accident and, being a good Christian and not wanting to have a bastard and burn in hell, she married the father (not her boyfriend). And conveniently didn't tell her boyfriend about the affair or the child, just kind of abandoned him with no explanation.

well, THAT'S a lotta lives RUINED. and having the AFFAIR was ok, but having a bastard ISN'T? or ABORTING THE DAMN THING?? Oy vey!

" And conveniently didn't tell her boyfriend about the affair or the child, just kind of abandoned him with no explanation"

that's so... DICKY.

My aunt (dad's sister) has never married (she's around 50) and never had kids although she is living with a guy for a long time. Actually she was against marriage and she got a bit upset when she heard i'm getting married. She never said that she's CF but i guess so because she's not the clucky type and she's also very independent minded. Besides that i don't know anybody in my family who is CF or CL, everybody has 2 kids and my crazy sister told me she wants 10

My older brother is also CF. No grandkiddies for my parents. Luckily they don't care in the slightest. They've seen all the shit my aunt is dealing with now that my cousin has sprogged and it has reminded them of everything they hated about babies when we were young!

We occasionally get comments from my grandmother about when either of us will have kids or get married, but she's half-senile, and there's no malice in it. She just gets confused and forgets that she has asked us before.

My aunt has always been unapologetically CF, and I have admired her all my life. Out of that side of the family, she's by far the most intelligent, worldly and overall awesome of them all. She married a man several years ago who has three adult children; unfortunately, one of them moved back in with them recently after finishing a stint in the reserves, but he works and keeps to himself. The daughter wanted to move back in too--with her boyfriend--but my aunt put her foot down. The two don't get along, and my aunt's not letting the daughter bully her. She absolutely hates having stepchildren. She's said, in public, that it only solidifies her already certain decision not to have children of her own.

One of my two uncles on that same side of the family adopted a kid. The other had two of his own, and his young daughter (early 20s) has now sprogged twice. It's not something the family has been celebrating.

My father's side is breederific, as are my in-laws... but any of them know way better than to even try to bingo me.

My mom is a strange sort of CF too. I know, I know, you can't be CF if you've had kids, but I don't know what else to call it. Reformed? She doesn't want grandchildren because she doesn't want me being limited and ruining my life, nor does she want to be stuck helping to raise or care for them. She doesn't get excited for other women having kids, and has never, ever bingoed me or questioned my very early choice not to have them. I recognize how lucky I am in this respect, given how many others are treated by their own mothers.