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Clever Former Wordsmith Retorts:"Duhs?" Wow. You pack of clever wordsmiths..
.I suppose having once been a "clever wordsmith" himself, which according to his own bio he no longer is since he traded in his press pass for a life of apparent duh-drudgery, he has plenty of time on his hands to surf the net and troll. Since he doesn't think any of us are nearly articulate as he, I'll just use this clever duddy's OWN words and make my sub standard literary commentaryHaving kids is like any other endeavor in life -- there's good and bad. I write about both and I've never shied away from criticism.
I wouldn't call adding to over population an "endeavor" NOR would I label anything as common as the result of not using reliable birth control as a particularly intellectual "endeavor" either, although I would imagine there is "good and bad" associated with it. This guy, like millions of others like him, simply caved to the selfish urge to create a "mini me" self replicant and didn't take the time to think it through how he would have to suffer for his oh so self serving "endeavor". While the "bad" is plain for all to see from this flailing father's own words, I fail to see the "good" in it other than perhaps it gives an otherwise productive 33 y/o man the opportunity to lazily sit back, do nothing, and pretend parenthood is happy life choice for him. After all, he's the one who entitled his blog entry, "Sometimes Being a Parent Sucks". As for "..never shied away from criticism...", I'd say his trolling on a childFREE site and making derogatory commentary, with his pudgy fists out in bully style, to a bunch of strangers would pretty much prove that statement woefully incorrect.But with so many perfectly valid reasons to criticize me, you dolts pick my decision to start a family? It's just as stupid as someone who criticizes you simply because you choose not to have kids. If you'd wander outside your pathetic little bubble for two seconds and get some perspective, you might realize that.
Yes, we DO SEE plenty of "perfectly valid" other reasons to criticize you, you clever self deprecating martyr, but why even waste time searching for any additional reasons when you make yourself such an easy target? You posted clear reasons right on your own blog and with your readily available commentary RIGHT HERE, on our site. You have made yourself easy fodder for our entertainment. What's with this imagined thing about you being criticized for "starting a family"? WHY do you people think you are "starting a family" when you self replicate? Do you not have parents, siblings, grand parents, a spouse, inlaws or other relatives BEFORE your quest to fill the world with your stellar DNA? Were you a homeless man without family and no memory BEFORE you slipped up and impregnated someone? If not, then you ALREADY HAD a "family".
Hence, by reproducing you didn't "start" a family, you simply sired a child into your existing family. I have never understood why people used that phrase, "start a family" as if it's some sort of lofty thing to do, when in fact it's a self serving and rather common venture and not worthy of any fanfare and certainly not praise. As for the "bubble" you claim we are in and our lack of perspective, I can't think of any bubble which could suck the perspective out of someone much more than the cocoon you have woven for yourself. And for the record, raising a kid isn't easy or fun all the time. Or even half the time. But not only is it worth it, it's also possible do it without losing yourself in the process or forfeiting everything you used to be and used to love. Your asinine assertions that kids represent dropping a nuclear bomb on who you are and life as you know it is frighteningly inaccurate. But by all means, keep talking about something about which you know absolutely nothing.
Which, of course, you know all about since you left your thriving profession of a news reporter to take on the daunting task of managing a daddy blog instead along with a life filled with sleepless and sexless nights, which are YOUR words, not ours!larious
And thanks for the pageviews. Keep em coming
You are SO welcome! I'd imagine even 2 or 3 extra "page views" of your captivating Daddy-Blog would fill you with hope since your days as serious reporter are LONG gone. If you are 33 now, this means you gave up your career at age 27, probably only 3 or 4 years out of college! I am certain this impressed that "hot" wife of yours, who no doubt is still working towards a valuable career alongside men who don't wear clothes that could double as a McDonald's fry station supervisor, like your pudgy, soft bellied, pasty faced, picture depicts. I suppose one of you has to earn a living. Will started eating solids at just a few months old. He’s off the charts for height. He began walking at just 9 months old and talking wasn’t far behind. In fact, Will has been ahead of the curve when it comes to just about everything.
So why I am surprised by the fact that he has apparently hit his Terrible Two’s at 18 months old?:
As enticing as that sounds, I think I will pass.I have to be honest with you guys, I can’t stand him right now. My son is awful and at various points over the last few weeks, I have openly hated him. Call Child & Family Services if you must, but it’s the truth.
I realize kids can be trying, but you "hate" him? Isn't that a bit of a strong feeling to have for your own little boy? It isn't HIS fault he was born!My angelic child has gone from sleeping completely through the night to waking up 2-4 times a night. The entire reason he started sleeping through the night in the first place was because we let him cry it out. It was tough, but it worked. So naturally we tried letting him cry it out again when this rough patch began, but to no avail.
You just let the poor kid scream all night long and don't even check on him? Wow, what a GREAT dad you are!He’s not just crying when he wakes up, he’s SCREAMING! He’s doing the out of breath, wailing, body racked with sobs kind of screaming for more than an hour. MJ can sleep through that, but I can’t. So I’m left with two options: 1) Let him cry it out and listen to him cry it out without sleeping, and 2) Go get him and bring him into bed with us until he calms down. Because I need sleep, I’ve been opting for the latter. Except when I put him back in his crib he wakes up again an hour later and the whole process starts all over.
Now that sounds VERY entertaining and a fun way to spend the night! Listening to a kid scream out a lung OR dragging him into the marital bed. The worst part is that no matter what you do, the wailing is incessant AND your wife turns a deaf ear to it because she knows you are the patsy, since you "stay at home" now and type away on your Daddy-Blog all day. She isn't sleeping through it, trust me! She's just lying there waiting on YOU to go take care of it since you don't do anything else and can nap away all day long in between soap operas,much like the typical stay at home Moo. Your wife must be so proud. But it’s more than the sleep issue. Will is an evil little child right now. His entire existence at this point is to test his parents and see what he can get away with. He knows right from wrong. He knows what he is and isn’t allowed to touch. But he starts doing exactly what he shouldn’t be doing in order to test us and see what we’ll let him get away with.
It’s maddening and exhausting. More descriptive words not generally used by happy people.Not to mention the sheer emotion at this age is out of control. Everything is life or death to Will right now, and he reacts like his life is ending when we tell him no. For instance, he constantly wants his little stuffed monkey. However, we don’t want him to rely too much on it so we’ve cut back his monkey time to naps and bedtime. But during the day when he makes the monkey noise to let us know he wants his toy, we tell him no, that monkey is sleeping. Well as soon as he hears “no†he goes ballistic. He literally splays himself on the floor and starts sobbing uncontrollably. He screams so hard his eyes look like they’re going to bulge out of his head. It’s as if he will not survive another second if he doesn’t get what he wants. :smn
And this is how it is for every single solitary thing in his life right now.
It’s beyond tiresome. To say the least!:headbrick
I know most moms get postpartum depression in the immediate days and weeks following birth. And I grant you, that’s a tough time. But I wasn’t affected by it. I think it’s because in my mind, it was a baby who had no knowledge of right and wrong or how things worked. Yeah it was tough and I was sleep deprived, but newborns are so helpless. But now? Now that kid knows some of the difference between right and wrong. He’s no longer a helpless little baby. So when I tell him no and he proceeds to slap me in the face and then giggle, it makes me crazy.
No, Aaron. As effeminate as a man like yourself might have become, it's a medical and biological fact men don't suffer from Postpartum Depression and other "female" disorders and conditions. Did you check your balls to see if you had a vaginal tear after the birth too?Having young kids does suck. I don’t feel like a bad parent for saying that, because it’s true. You’ve just given up all your independence and free time. You get no sleep. You rearrange your life in ways you don’t even like. You get less sex. You don’t go on vacations or have romantic weekend getaways. And you don’t have a moment off or to yourself for years.
Mmmmm, while all of that REALLY sweetens the pot for your claim of it being, "all worth it", somehow I remain unconvinced, but maybe that's just me. I tend to be rather odd like that when giving up independence, freedom, free time, sleep, my career, sex, vacations, and any semblance of romance being shattered, that it makes me a bit skeptical about it being, "all worth it". Perhaps it is, one day in a few decades, but it sure doesn't look like much fun now, THAT'S for sure! God, and you have only just begun to, "start a family"! You'll be 60, at this rate, before you can enjoy any iota of a life! What happened to that part about you didn't let having a kid consume your life are we suppose to believe? Somehow, amidst all your complaints, I have forgotten.In short, raising young kids is like playing golf. First of all, it’s an expensive undertaking. Second, unless you’re a scratch golfer, that is one frustrating sport. If you’re an average joe on the golf course, you spend most of your day cursing your terrible shots. But then, you hit one that is beautiful, straight and ends up on the green. And that shot — that one perfect moment — is enough to keep you coming back to the course in the future.
That one dangling carrot is all you have, I am afraid. Like a hole in one, those Kodak moments are extremely rare, but no one knows that better than you!:Violin
i'm a 33-year-old father and husband born and bred in Massachusetts. I have a beautiful son named Will, a gorgeous wife named MJ who is far too hot to have married me, a dog I love and two cats I put up with. I'm a smart-ass former newspaper reporter with a penchant for turning a phrase, who decided to go corporate and is now enjoying life as a content manager for a website.
It sounds like you "settled" all around, from the "putting up" with pets you don't want to ending your career on this ridiculous quest to pen a Daddy Blog and be a stay at home dad without a reliable paycheck. It's no wonder you are thrilled you have a few extra "page views", even if they aren't from any of your no doubt COUNTLESS fans. This blog is not just another "daddy blog." Sure I write about my son, but these pages are a record of my life. I don't just highlight the fun milestones like first steps, I also chronicle the "other stuff." The fights, the torment and the doubt that inevitably come with being a husband and father. It's not always puppy dogs and rainbows, but it is very real. And often there is beauty in the sadness, redemption in the struggle.
I don't understand why you'd thrive on rooting around for a shred of "beauty" in a pile of "sadness" or be constantly searching for a lone thread of "redemption" with struggles you created for yourself! What did you DO you feel so awful about you find the need to seek redemption through self imposed suffering, I wonder?Thank you for checking me out, giving me a try and sticking around for the journey. If you'd like to contact me you can email aaron_gouveia (at) yahoo (dot) com.
What do you mean by, "giving me a try"? Do you have a donation button I missed? SURELY you don't expect anyone to PAY to read your garden variety daddy struggles when there are literally THOUSANDS of "woe is me" parenting blogs on the World Wide Web to be seen for free?d
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If YOU are the "exception" to what I am saying, then why does my commentary bother you so much?
I don't hate your kids, I HATE YOU!