Cafemom: "Making my husband sleep on the couch!"
Posted by thundergirl85
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Cafemom: "Making my husband sleep on the couch!" August 20, 2014 |
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My husband and I have hit a snag in the sex part in our marriage...things have been really stressful with this pregnancy, not to mention uncomfortable, so sex and other sexual aspects of marriage are a rarity to us anymore. I honestly think he's not attracted to me anymore because he never trys to initiate anything with me even if I drop some obvious hints, some of which could be considered initiative.
Well today he comes home from work and says he's not feeling good (said he has a sore throat and congestion) I'm not surprised since our two year woke up the other day with a runny nose and feeling like poo. ANYWHO getting straight to the point is tonight I tried to get a piece of ass...I mean kissing on him rubbing on him even trier sucking his dick. He tells me he's not in the mood and I say whatever because he's never in the mood. I told him if he's so sick he can go sleep on the couch so he huffs about it and goes to sleep on the couch.
A couple hours go by I get up to get a glass of water and I'm pretty dang annoyed so I walked over to where he's a sleep take a drink of water and spit water on him and asked if that helped his imaginary fever.
***Normally being sick doesn't irritate me BUT he sits there and tells me I'm over reacting when I tell him that certain foods he's eating make me nauseous or when my nerve in my back gets pinched and I can't move around alot or when I move around to much and start contracting OR when I had a bad UTI and he told me that it can't be that uncomfortable (might I add that I was almost 7 months pregnant at the time) Basically to me it's annoying as fuck that I have to cater to him when he's sick with a freaking cold but when bigger things are going on with me and my body I'm over reacting. I don't ask for marathon fucks just a wam -bam -thank you -ma'am
And no I don't care if I seem like a bitchI'm tired of getting turned away. Its not very often that I actually feel like having sex and when I do he's always got an excuse. We have nine weeks till my due date (and chances are I'll have him early like I did my first so we're looking at 7ish)
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Re: Cafemom: "Making my husband sleep on the couch!" August 21, 2014 |
What yurble said. Parunting makes everyone more mature, right? 
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He turned down a blow job?
Concur, or he's so completely disgusted with her that their marriage needs some serious help.
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eyes2He turned down a blow job?
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He's getting it somewhere else
Concur, or he's so completely disgusted with her that their marriage needs some serious help.
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Re: Cafemom: "Making my husband sleep on the couch!" August 26, 2014 |
Gee who wouldn't want to bump uglies with this delightful sow. It really is no wonder duhs abandon ship so often though I do wonder what she was like preinpig. Surely this all didn't just suddenly appear after the baby bump, there had to have been some signs, right? I don't really know.
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Re: Cafemom: "Making my husband sleep on the couch!" August 27, 2014 |
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Dorisan
Aside from the specific details, here you have a relationship with unmet needs, lack of- or passive aggressive communication, self-pity and lots of anger. I bet when they were dating, she gushed to friends that they talked for hours, trusted one another with their deepest thoughts, had great sex and couldn't wait to make a life-long committment to one another.
And then they had a kid and it all went down the crapper.
And people tell me I'm missing out on so much because I didn't want to be a parent? Yeah. Right.
When it comes to many married people, I just don't get it.
They get up in front of their church, God, the law, their friends, and all of society and proclaim their undying devotion to each other. They hold an event which has a cost rivaling a new luxury car, complete with expensive decor, dress, a photographer, a videographer, and a fully catered buffet and bar for everyone. The event is so expensive, that invited guests are supposed to give them a gift which will cover the cost of "their plate."
And then, once all of this is over, just a few years--or even months down the road, they treat each other like dog shit, complain to those same wedding guests how awful their husband/wife is,
Some guys at my work refer to their wives as "the boss," or "the ol' ball & chain," and it's always in a nasty, negative context. They say, "Well you know how [my wife] is. Total pain in the ass." It really irritates me in that they're the ones who married these women under their own free will. Whether or not their wife is a bitch is immaterial. I can't believe people talk so negatively about someone they supposedly agreed to love "'til death do us part."
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Re: Cafemom: "Making my husband sleep on the couch!" August 27, 2014 |
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StudioFiftyFour
Some guys at my work refer to their wives as "the boss," or "the ol' ball & chain," and it's always in a nasty, negative context. They say, "Well you know how [my wife] is. Total pain in the ass." It really irritates me in that they're the ones who married these women under their own free will. Whether or not their wife is a bitch is immaterial. I can't believe people talk so negatively about someone they supposedly agreed to love "'til death do us part."
Right there with ya. And it's almost always the ones with kids. The childless/CF ones don't seem to have the problems, or at least don't let them splash over into their work world. Kids really are a live hand grenade in a marriage.
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Re: Cafemom: "Making my husband sleep on the couch!" August 28, 2014 |
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StudioFiftyFour
Some guys at my work refer to their wives as "the boss," or "the ol' ball & chain," and it's always in a nasty, negative context. They say, "Well you know how [my wife] is. Total pain in the ass." It really irritates me in that they're the ones who married these women under their own free will. Whether or not their wife is a bitch is immaterial. I can't believe people talk so negatively about someone they supposedly agreed to love "'til death do us part."
Right there with ya. And it's almost always the ones with kids. The childless/CF ones don't seem to have the problems, or at least don't let them splash over into their work world. Kids really are a live hand grenade in a marriage.
If it gets to the point where one's partner is publically disclosing their dissatisfaction, the CF couples know they can (and should) end the relationship without a lot of fallout. The childed couples -- well, from what I've seen, the women (especially if they're SAHMs) feel they can't make a go of it without the husband/wallet, and the men don't want to be stuck with child support and possibly losing access to their kids. Or they have the misguided notion that they should stay together "for the sake of the children." So they muddle through for at least the remainder of years that the children need both parents, then have a rancorous divorce. Or they stay together because of inertia and spend the rest of their lives making one another miserable.
Seems like you can't win for losing when you have kids. Damn glad I didn't go down that rutted path.
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