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myrna minkoff
"Think very carefully, parents, before dropping your childfree friends because you think you don't have anything in common with them any more. You might just need all that free time and flexibility that the CF have to help you in a time of need. Your CF friend is far more likely to be the one hightailing it across the city to get to you when the shit hits the fan than your parent friend."
this could have been written by a breeder. I don't know about you but I have very little "free time" to help breeders who only contact me when they need something.
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Re: Attention parents: this is why you need childfree friends December 14, 2014 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,964 |
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myrna minkoff
"Think very carefully, parents, before dropping your childfree friends because you think you don't have anything in common with them any more. You might just need all that free time and flexibility that the CF have to help you in a time of need. Your CF friend is far more likely to be the one hightailing it across the city to get to you when the shit hits the fan than your parent friend."
this could have been written by a breeder. I don't know about you but I have very little "free time" to help breeders who only contact me when they need something.
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Re: Attention parents: this is why you need childfree friends December 17, 2014 |
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Wow, so this lady collapses and not one of her "friends" with kids can find the time to check on her? Because they're too busy with their kids? Sure, your friend is having a health crisis and may die, but little Billy's soccer practice is so much more pressing.
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yummynotmummy
Breeders THINK they can trust other breeders. But really, the only thing other breeders are into is their own spawn. And this is the lesson my friend has had to learn. Now, she's home from the hospital, still in pain waiting for her gallbladder to be taken out altogether (they just removed the stone) and she's getting fuck all visits or help from these mummy friends. And her husband has gone on a business trip, leaving her with 3 kids by herself when she's in a ton of pain.
Re: Attention parents: this is why you need childfree friends December 17, 2014 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 7,825 |
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yummynotmummy
When I say free time, I don't have that much of it. But one of the advantages of being CF is that I have a more flexible life than parents do. And I like it that way.
I might choose to use that flexibility to help others, but then, I also might not, if they take advantage, or ASSume that I will pick up any pieces when shit hits the fan in my friends' lives.
Breeders THINK they can trust other breeders. But really, the only thing other breeders are into is their own spawn. And this is the lesson my friend has had to learn. Now, she's home from the hospital, still in pain waiting for her gallbladder to be taken out altogether (they just removed the stone) and she's getting fuck all visits or help from these mummy friends. And her husband has gone on a business trip, leaving her with 3 kids by herself when she's in a ton of pain.She was hinting about me coming over and helping with the kids, but I said to her she needs to tell his useless arse to take some holiday or parental leave or something, because it's not fair to expect her to cope with that or put on her friends to take care of the kids he chose to have and he allowed to live with them full time. Fuck that. It's one thing going to see her in hospital, but another providing childcare for her lazy prick of a husband.
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brattymcpants
Yummy, I think you have been a good friend to this woman, however, I also think you have done a disservice to the childfree through your post. We may, by and large, be more reliable than the breeders as we don't have the obligations that come along with raising children; however, that does not mean that we have the time and willingness to run to parents' aid when no one else will. You are confirming breeder's long standing sentiment that frustrates many of us here time and time again - that because we don't have kids to attend to, we can drop everything to help them when no one else will. I don't want that kind of pressure. I don't want my time to be portrayed as something to be monopolized at the disposal of others because I choose not to spawn. You are correct that childfreedom allows more flexibility, but I don't think its fair to portray it as something that is positive because it can potentially be of aid to them.
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twocents
I am aware of the principle behind our pov. Whether we choose to help someone else out, whomever they may be, should be our decision. There are times where someone can really be behind the 8 ball through no fault of their own.
It is the expectation that we should drop all and help someone else cause we have no balls and chains: that is what chaps our hides.
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