Yay! Husband decided he didn't want to breed

I can't find my original post but I am pleased to report that my vasectomied husband has decided that parenting is a poor idea. After a long talk with his psychiatrist (be is bipolar) and extensive blood work a medication change was put into place which seems to have stabilized him.
In fact, he is wondering what the hell he was thinking.

http://www.refugees.bratfree.com/read.php?2,393221,page=2

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Yay!

People who are diagnosed as Bi Polar shouldn't be breeding anyway. There is a good chance that if he did that he would pass it on to his offspring. I'm glad that he's finally come to a logical conclusion.


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They are having children for selfish and narcissistic reasons, or are simply irresponsible. Funny... Those are the terms often used to describe the CF

~Live, Laugh, Love~

Be happy but proceed with caution - breeders are like stock market - they can change in very unpredictable ways. The cat is out of the bag - just be careful - protect yourself.

Glad he's feeling better and his medications could be adjusted. Happy the scare is over and he realized it was the disorder speaking.

Hoping the medications help him and you have lots of happy Childfree years together.

Congratulations!

I remember that he is the one with irreversible vasectomy,
so that means that an adoption / foster care are off the table!

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Techie
Be happy but proceed with caution - breeders are like stock market - they can change in very unpredictable ways. The cat is out of the bag - just be careful - protect yourself.

You are right. But we can't be more careful than the snip. As far as finances, I am keeping my own nest. As far as this topic, I have told him that the next mention of breeding/adopting means a divorce. I won't live that way. We married as a CF couple and we will stay one or cease to be a couple. It sucks, but better unwed than bred (genetic or adoptive)

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Techie
Be happy but proceed with caution - breeders are like stock market - they can change in very unpredictable ways. The cat is out of the bag - just be careful - protect yourself.

You are right. But we can't be more careful than the snip. As far as finances, I am keeping my own nest. As far as this topic, I have told him that the next mention of breeding/adopting means a divorce. I won't live that way. We married as a CF couple and we will stay one or cease to be a couple. It sucks, but better unwed than bred (genetic or adoptive)

Growing up, I saw my older sibling breed. I remember telling my mother that I will not want to do that. Her response was: "Well, you may not want to do it but your wife definitely will". I took notes and remembered. I was somewhat rambunctious so when I grew up, I thought that I could make it different for me. I only dated women who absolutely refused to breed at the time that I met them. I made sure I never married because to this day my mother keeps telling me that I will never find a woman who does not want kids. Well, so far, every woman that I have dated has changed her position on kids and wanted to breed. Sometimes, I wish I could prove my mother wrong but it has been too long - she has won.

I am glad you have your legal affairs in order. For me, personally, avoiding marriage was a way to keep my stuff mine. Legally, my exes could not demand alimony or anything that I owned. For the most part, they got to keep what they had and I got to keep what I had without courts - works for me. For both men and women, being CF, you are a desired target for wanna breeds because you have no baggage.

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Yay!

People who are diagnosed as Bi Polar shouldn't be breeding anyway. There is a good chance that if he did that he would pass it on to his offspring. I'm glad that he's finally come to a logical conclusion.

Word. I have anxiety passed on from my mother AND ptsd from growing up with my autistic sister. (who had trouble breeding but conceived me AND my autistic sister via fertility meds fuck u very much mother), and my anxiety can be very debilitating, cant imagine bipolar disorder. And until they come up with a med that wont make me put on weight, I have to do without meds. Its not just vanity, I have to keep my figure for my work (escort). Im short 5ft3 all it takes is 5lbs and it shows!

But what does that matter as long as my mother got HER birthing experience!

ladybug, no matter the situation, I have yet to be proven wrong on breeders and wannabreeders are selfish to the nth degree.
it is even in my signature.
I see the misery engendered by mad brood sows, the horror they inflict on everyone and it appalls me, all to obtain the bloody bahbee. they will never, ever, get their heads out from between their own legs, out of their gonads.
I simply cannot wrap my head around the sheer selfishness, but we all know it, don't we.

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CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!

people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong

Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children.

The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.

Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.

People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke

Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.

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ladybug, no matter the situation, I have yet to be proven wrong on breeders and wannabreeders are selfish to the nth degree.
it is even in my signature.
I see the misery engendered by mad brood sows, the horror they inflict on everyone and it appalls me, all to obtain the bloody bahbee. they will never, ever, get their heads out from between their own legs, out of their gonads.
I simply cannot wrap my head around the sheer selfishness, but we all know it, don't we.

But noooooo we CF are the selfish ones, my parents were going to adopt a korean baby orphan until they found out they were pregnant with me, then backed out of the adoption. Honestly I would've been ok never being born.

My mom had 2 miscarriages before me, one after me, then had my autistic sister. She got pregnant once after my autistic sister but finally developed some common sense and aborted that one.

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Word. I have anxiety passed on from my mother

This happened to me & my siblings. We're all anxious, depressives and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.

Anyway, evilchildlessbitch I'm glad things have worked out. It must be a relief!

Keep fighting the good fight

@ Ladybug

Yeah, short people issues
I'm only roughly 4'8" so I know what you mean when a few pounds makes all the difference, especially when you come from a family of heavier people. I'm overweight (and working on it) and it seems every pound I loose I feel better about myself.

A lot of these breeders or wannabreeds don't get that anxiety and bi-polar can be passed down. Then the poor children are inflicted with it and it is a horrible thing to have to deal with. I suffer from depression myself, as well as anxiety so I would be prone to postpartum depression, total full on anxiety attacks and probably be traumatized by the whole birthing experience - NO THANKS!

And she didn't learn after your autistic sister? Ugh...


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They are having children for selfish and narcissistic reasons, or are simply irresponsible. Funny... Those are the terms often used to describe the CF

~Live, Laugh, Love~

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@ Ladybug

Yeah, short people issues
I'm only roughly 4'8" so I know what you mean when a few pounds makes all the difference, especially when you come from a family of heavier people. I'm overweight (and working on it) and it seems every pound I loose I feel better about myself.

A lot of these breeders or wannabreeds don't get that anxiety and bi-polar can be passed down. Then the poor children are inflicted with it and it is a horrible thing to have to deal with. I suffer from depression myself, as well as anxiety so I would be prone to postpartum depression, total full on anxiety attacks and probably be traumatized by the whole birthing experience - NO THANKS!

And she didn't learn after your autistic sister? Ugh...

She stopped having biological children herself, she had an unplanned pregnancy after my autistic sister but had an abortion. However 6 years later she adopted my youngest sister (with how needy my autistic sister is I think my parents had no business taking on another child, tho its better than having another biological kid.) She just thinks I should have one. Erm no.