Hey all, happy belated Thanksgiving! We opted out of the big, extended fambleeeeee gathering this year and it was a great decision! Had a quiet, relaxing CF day with a simple and delicious dinner we threw together in the evening. Didn't have to hear a bunch of wailing bratlings or stories about kyds from my cousins I have nearly nothing in common with, or just sit there being ignored. It was fabulous! I'm not saying "never again" to the famblee parties, but I'm becoming with time less and less attached to my family of origin and more interested in nurturing my existing friendships and making new ones so I'll have a circle of friends I can consider a chosen family (already have several but people live far away and are busy so I don't get to be as social as I wish I could be).
I'm getting to the point where even aunts and uncles I really super like who I used to be close to are drifting away from maintaining any sort of bond with me because they have all their own grandbrats they're all smitten over, so not much quality visiting happens anyway. I did get a few "we missed you guys," over Fartbook, but I'm not sure how very sincere it is. If they truly missed me, wouldn't they reach out to ME once in awhile? Nobody contacted me this year to say, "Thanksgiving is at Aunt So-and-so's, and we're thinking of eating around 3" or whatever. It doesn't surprise me since my extended famblee is a bunch of breeders and we're CF, so not as "interesting" because we don't have little booger factories to bring over and have everyone fawn over. Nobody really reaches out to me in my extended family at all, to just get together to do whatever. I think that's how a lot of extended famblees work. I find the whole concept to be a big lie. I felt a little guilty at first, then I was like, "nah, it's all good," and enjoyed my day and got over it.