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I was also a disappointment because of my artistic skills up until high school when my mother was told that I'd make millions being a professional artist, but then I wound up becoming a disappointment when I went to college for seven years and can't get or keep any job, let alone an art-related one.
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My mother actually expected me to be a clone of her. It never occurred to her that I'd actually take more after my father's side of the family, most of whom she deemed to be 'weird.' My career, marriage, and life were successful. She resented the hell out of that.
It is so strange when parents do not want their kids to succeed, or at least succeed on their own terms. Parents are supposed to worry about their kids failing, but some would prefer it just to say told you so.
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I'm pretty sure that my parents are disappointed that I won't be having kids. They really want the typical grandparent experience. The weird thing about that is that they'd never get the typical grandparent experience anyway, since their house is a filthy mess and nobody in their right mind would ever take a baby in there. I'm a grown adult, and I hate going in there.
Re: How have you disappointed your parents? March 28, 2016 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,964 |
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Cambion
I was also a disappointment because of my artistic skills up until high school when my mother was told that I'd make millions being a professional artist, but then I wound up becoming a disappointment when I went to college for seven years and can't get or keep any job, let alone an art-related one.
That is incredible! Do your own thing! Any idea how rare and special it is to have that much artistic talent? It is more rare than winning the lottery!
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I'm pretty sure that my parents are disappointed that I won't be having kids. They really want the typical grandparent experience. The weird thing about that is that they'd never get the typical grandparent experience anyway, since their house is a filthy mess and nobody in their right mind would ever take a baby in there. I'm a grown adult, and I hate going in there.
Same here. They were hoarders and mom was a chain smoker, which I loathed my entire life. If I'd had a kid, it certainly wouldn't haven't spent much time in their disaster of a house. And she would have been massively pissed off about it because her cigs were more important than just about anything else in her life. She kept her anger and defensiveness pretty well under control when she came to MY home and had to smoke outside, but you could still tell she felt entitled to stink up my home, as well.
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Cambion,
I recently read a book called Culture Crash The Killing of the Creative Class by Scott Timburg. I got it on Amazon. It's about how it used to be possible to make a living in various creative careers, but cultural changes in the past decade or two have made it increasingly difficult.
I think if I had felt free to do what I wanted I would have pursued something creative instead of science. Not that there is anything wrong with science, it just isn't really my thing. I chose it because it was the least objectionable of the very few things that were acceptable to my parents. And because supposedly there are tons of STEM jobs out there. But I have never found this to be true. I don't know if this is because of the ass- backwards city I live in (Tucson), or because employers just don't like me, or both.
Since I read the book I guess it is a good thing I did not try to do something creative. But it's damn sad. Your situation is even sadder. I'm sorry.
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I've had people tell me I should/could teach art, and considering my degrees, I could teach at university level. However, I refuse to. The reason is that I refuse to contribute to the doomed futures of art students and make them think for even a second that they'll ever find a job in their field. I'm sad to say it, but art should never, ever be a career. Art is a hobby, and hobbies don't make for good careers.
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What she really like to do was brag about me to others, but viciously tear me to shreds privately. Narcissists and 'some' people with BPD like to have it both ways.
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