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If you rely on love and show care, affection and physically embrace your child when they need you – and when they don’t, too – you will inevitably grow closer. If your child has done wrong, the non punitive approach is to uncover the reason behind it, take the child out of the situation if needs be, explain that you understand their feelings but also why they can’t behave like that and then show them how to resolve things. At the end of it all, you show that you aren’t angry by giving them a tight hug.
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Soon after I adopted my 7 month old kitten I found her on the dining room floor chewing on one of my vitamin pills. I had gotten it out and put it on the table under a napkin, she found it and thought it was a cool thing to chew on. I grabbed her and yelled at her. I did not hurt her but I made sure I scared her. Afterward I felt really bad for scaring her, but it worked. She is now 8 years old and has not chewed on a pill since then.
Sometimes kids and pets have to be disciplined for their own damn good. Letting them get away with dangerous or shitty behavior does a lot more harm in the long run. Anyone who does not understand or believe that should not have custody of any sentient being.
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Soon after I adopted my 7 month old kitten I found her on the dining room floor chewing on one of my vitamin pills. I had gotten it out and put it on the table under a napkin, she found it and thought it was a cool thing to chew on. I grabbed her and yelled at her. I did not hurt her but I made sure I scared her. Afterward I felt really bad for scaring her, but it worked. She is now 8 years old and has not chewed on a pill since then.
Sometimes kids and pets have to be disciplined for their own damn good. Letting them get away with dangerous or shitty behavior does a lot more harm in the long run. Anyone who does not understand or believe that should not have custody of any sentient being.
Exactly. You can't be too harsh, but you have to startle them just enough. I have a parrot who can be potentially destructive if left to roam all over the house. I sternly tell him "NO" when he starts making a go at something he shouldn't be chewing, and he's learned to back away when he hears it. I also taught him "turn around" so the tempting door/magazine/lipstick/iphone is at his tail instead of right by that shredder of a beak.
Cthulhu forbid I ran wild as a kid. If I so much as put a toe out of line my mother would scare the living daylights out of me, and it wasn't by yelling. It was the silent treatment. Worse and more effective than any amount of screaming or grounding. Taught me the meaning of "behave".
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Soon after I adopted my 7 month old kitten I found her on the dining room floor chewing on one of my vitamin pills. I had gotten it out and put it on the table under a napkin, she found it and thought it was a cool thing to chew on. I grabbed her and yelled at her. I did not hurt her but I made sure I scared her. Afterward I felt really bad for scaring her, but it worked. She is now 8 years old and has not chewed on a pill since then.
Sometimes kids and pets have to be disciplined for their own damn good. Letting them get away with dangerous or shitty behavior does a lot more harm in the long run. Anyone who does not understand or believe that should not have custody of any sentient being.
Exactly. You can't be too harsh, but you have to startle them just enough. I have a parrot who can be potentially destructive if left to roam all over the house. I sternly tell him "NO" when he starts making a go at something he shouldn't be chewing, and he's learned to back away when he hears it. I also taught him "turn around" so the tempting door/magazine/lipstick/iphone is at his tail instead of right by that shredder of a beak.
Cthulhu forbid I ran wild as a kid. If I so much as put a toe out of line my mother would scare the living daylights out of me, and it wasn't by yelling. It was the silent treatment. Worse and more effective than any amount of screaming or grounding. Taught me the meaning of "behave".
I do nearly the identical thing with my bird! It works like a hot damn. He used to go into the ashtrays and try to chew the butts. I told him NO very sternly a few times, now he never goes near the ashtrays. I don't say it gently, either. The problem is now he mimics me saying NO and will repeat it back to me in a defiant little manner. It's kinda funny, arguing with a parrot! That's one argument you will NEVER win, haha.
I don't believe in spanking either, as it can quickly escalate into abuse. My mother used to beat me for the stupidest shit when I was little, and I was a really good, quiet kid. I think that this gentle discipline thing is a crock of shit, too. There has to be something in the middle that works. Take away privileges, ground them, tell them "NO" in a firm, loud voice when they do shit that's bad. And God forbid, don't reward them with a hug and affection after they've been a little shit! That's the worst thing you can do...reward bad behavior.
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