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Here are the role models that influenced me.
1. B, who was a "maiden aunt" on my dad's side of the family. She never married and she lived with the family. I knew her when she was 50+. She worked at a department store in an underpaid, pink collar occupation, which was all that was available to most women at that time. Unfortunately for her, she didn't have the means to live alone, nor was it "respectable" for her to do so. (Note to self: Thank Todd I was born 40 years later than she was.) I actually didn't have much interaction with her and didn't care for her bossy personality, but I remember she was quite stylish. And I once heard her remark with pride that she weighed the same, 125 pounds, her entire adult life. At the time I remember thinking how unusual that was, having grown up hearing women complaining what childbirth did to their figures. She showed me a woman could still be stylish and interesting at 50, 60 and beyond.
2. I have to add my mother's aunt Josephine to this list. I was a child when she died and I don't really remember all that much. She was my mother's favorite aunt, never married, despite having tons of suitors. She left my mother's Midwestern town and at one time was the social director of the QE2. She owned a fashionable dress shop in Atlantic City in the off-season. My mom talked about being a child herself and her excitement of seeing Josie's travel trunks coming to her house, because that meant Josie would be arriving soon, and Josie traveled in style. My mom thought so much of her that my middle name is Josephine's surname and we actually look alike. (Note to self: need to frame her picture and hang it in a prominent place in my home.)
3. The indomitable Helen Gurley Brown deserves a place on my list. My mom had all her books, which I sneak-read voraciously. I remember reading through a chapter that discussed children. HGB boldly wrote that she never wanted children, but if a woman did want them, she should continue to achieve and do good things with her life. The combination of hearing this brave woman state she never wanted them, + advising women that even if they had them, they need not retire at home for the rest of their lives, was a powerful message.
4. a couple I met at a picnic when I was about 14. The male half of the couple was named Don. In retrospect, his wife may not have been completely on board with being CF, because she went around the party telling everyone that he didn't want kids and that was part of the deal with marrying him (let's hope he was snipped) . But he was fun and lively and I remember looking around and thinking, wow, it can be done.
5. Boss on my first job. Her name was Marianne. She was in her late 30's when I met her. She broke through a lot of ceilings and was stylish and smart and openly CF. She was a tough but was a fair taskmaster. She and her husband were restoring an old Victorian house and they did a lot of cool stuff on the weekends. I kept track of her for many years after. She never wavered in her CF decision. Marianne, if you happen to visit this website, I thank you and I salute you!