moo enlightens us on what were missing

http://www.renegademothering.com/2013/06/11/public-service-announcement-to-the-childless-people-wondering-why-were-such-losers/




While I commend her for getting out the door to see her child free friends, she wrote in great detail what it took to get out the fucking door, no thank u!!!!!!!!

I don't get where she thinks CF people want to be more important than her kids in her life. I think she might be making this up or projecting what she wants to see so she can write another martyr post.

I WANT my friends who have kids to spend the MAX amount of time with their kids, so that the kids learn how to be a half way decent human. Also I want them to be watching their kids 24/7 because I don't want another animal murdered cuz some stupid moo "only looked away for a second". And I don't want some child to die a horrific death because the Moo can't be arsed to remember she has a innocent kid in her SMOOOV.

When my boyfriend and I have other couple friends who have kids, we don't ever ask them out anymore. We will go to b day parties at their house or maybe bring a pizza over to their place for a quick dinner, but that's it. We never would bother them with asking them out again.

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- The wisdom of the late Michael Jackson
"The mother of the year should be a sterilized woman with two adopted children." - Paul Ehrlich

Love this! Hope some fence-sitters read it and take it literally and decide to not breed.

I laugh only because my friends with kids could have written this. I have witnessed it firsthand and that is about as honest as it gets.

Not my life.

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I want to pick up a bus full of unruly kids and feed them gummi bears and crack, then turn them loose in Hobby Lobby to ransack the place. They will all be wearing T shirts that say "You Could Have Prevented This."

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I laugh only because my friends with kids could have written this. I have witnessed it firsthand and that is about as honest as it gets.

Not my life.

I thought it was written more as an exaggeration. Yikes.
I guess maybe some people enjoy this or other hectic paces of life. I do not.

And yet, if they stopped inviting her, she'd be whining about losing friends.

Dear Martyr Moos, we invite our childed friends out because we like them and want to spend time with them. Some appreciate some time away from the kids and conversations that are NOT about diapers and vomit (yes, parents like that DO exist - pretty much every mother in my family has a good social life and their kids are still loved and taken care of , believe it or not). If you'd rather stay home and experience the adventure of doting around your teething baby, nobody's holding a gun to your head. Just don't complain about losing touch with your friends. Friendship is a two-way street.

You want your friends to rub your udders and plan every single get-together around your loaves, yet you tell them that they're being unreasonable because they expect themselves to be more important to you than your kids. Guess what - they don't. They are not the ones who expect their friendships to continue flourishing even after one of the parties is not invested in it. Do everyone a favor and just stay home with your loaves if that's the case, or pick friends of the mombie kind, I bet they'll have playdates and exchange diaper tips with you.

I don't have low self-esteem. That's a mistake. I have low esteem for everyone else.
-Daria

Unfortunately, sometimes even when the kids grow out of the loaf stage and are old enough to stay at home alone for a couple of hours, their mothers still want to drag them everywhere. I've mentioned my friend before whose son is 11 and she still brings him when she wants to hang out with her friends (we're all in our 30s). So instead of this kid playing with kids his own age, he's hanging out with people 3x his age and bored. I last met my friend for coffee a couple of weeks ago and of course she brought her kid and he brought his laptop to play games while we talked. I found that to be rather unfair for him.

After her immediate family moved out of the state, she never bothered finding a community of other mothers with kids of a similar age or viable babysitters and instead opts to drag him along to adult get-togethers and wine tastings and the sort. If she's not hanging out with us, she's only out with her kid. She has nothing to talk about that isn't about her kid because she doesn't do anything without him. I don't know if it's a reaction to the fact that the father dipped out as soon as she told him she was pregnant (she let him essentially have a "paper abortion") and so she wants to make sure this person that she created won't develop independence and leave her or something. She wants to date again, but she can't because she refuses to leave her kid at home (and she lives in a house with two other adults. Now, adult roommates should never be considered as live-in babysitters, but the female roommate is the landlord, essentially, and knew her state as a single mom when she interviewed for the room, so I'm sure she had the expectation of being at least asked every now and then to watch the kid).

These women who refuse to leave their kids at home and allow themselves to be a person outside of being a parent only hurt themselves in the long run. Dragging the kids everywhere doesn't prevent them from growing up to be hopefully independent adults to have their own lives away from their mothers. And when the kids do leave the nest, these women have been left behind by their friends and now have to do the legwork in either reestablishing former friendships or pursuing new ones. A difficult feat because they're the ones used to sitting back and expecting the friends to do all the work to keep the friendship going.

I don't know; I've entered my 30s and I've realized the importance of cultivating friendships with other childfree people. I'm not averse to being friends with parents, but they need to be able to be a person outside of being a parent and not drag their kids to adult activities like brunch or wine tastings.

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"Bitch wants a baby, so we're gonna fuck now. #bareback"
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Oh whatever. Abortion doctors are crimestoppers."
- Miss Hannigan

There's nothing worse than having a sprog tagging along on girl's night out, and it's happened to me several times. Basically this woman who brings her daughter is a friend of a friend and the only breeder in our group. You can't talk about anything interesting or adult-oriented and the kid naturally vies to be the center of attention. I've taken to "accidentally" dropping a few words like cumstain and douchebag in her presence, hoping moo will take the hint.

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There's nothing worse than having a sprog tagging along on girl's night out, and it's happened to me several times. Basically this woman who brings her daughter is a friend of a friend and the only breeder in our group. You can't talk about anything interesting or adult-oriented and the kid naturally vies to be the center of attention. I've taken to "accidentally" dropping a few words like cumstain and douchebag in her presence, hoping moo will take the hint.

Next time put in the planning "Chipindales" or whatever the nearest male review is.

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Miss_Hannigan
There's nothing worse than having a sprog tagging along on girl's night out, and it's happened to me several times. Basically this woman who brings her daughter is a friend of a friend and the only breeder in our group. You can't talk about anything interesting or adult-oriented and the kid naturally vies to be the center of attention. I've taken to "accidentally" dropping a few words like cumstain and douchebag in her presence, hoping moo will take the hint.

What does the stupid moo not understand about a girl's night out? You have to make her uncomfortable (accidentally works!) else she'll think it is acceptable to everyone and keep toting the kid along.

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paragon schnitzophonic
Dragging the kids everywhere doesn't prevent them from growing up to be hopefully independent adults to have their own lives away from their mothers.

If anything, they're likely to run away from Clingy Moo as soon as they're old enough and financially able to move.

I don't have low self-esteem. That's a mistake. I have low esteem for everyone else.
-Daria