Dear Abby: Idiot breeds with abusive husband, spawns abusive kid January 11, 2017 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,970 |
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DEAR ABBY: In the beginning of our marriage there was physical abuse and marital rape. I stayed anyway. Because you're a retard.
Over the years we had two children. WHY?! Why would you knowing introduce kids into an abusive relationship? Though I suppose it might mean that Duh is too tired to beat his Moo-wife after he beats his kids, so breeding a new punching bag might be a practical solution to abuse for a breeder who "can't" leave. My husband, “Seth,” and I don’t communicate because he has refused to talk about any issues we have. That's because "Seth" doesn't think there are any issues. You're his willing victim, so things are goin' great as far as he's concerned. During the last few years, my youngest son also has become physically abusive to me. Gee, I wonder where he learned that from. And since Moo can't say "no" to her husband when he slaps her around the house, she sure as hell won't say it to her brat when he does the same thing.
I tried to leave many times but failed until last December when, because I had a heart attack, I finally moved in with family. I did it for the sake of my health and my sanity. So being sexually and physically abused by your kids and husband while working two jobs and doing all the chores wasn't enough to make you wise up and leave, but having a heart attack was? I'm surprised she left after the heart attack, honestly.
Seth now wants to talk about our issues. He suggested that I come back home. No, he wants you to come back home when you're more vulnerable than ever so he can abuse you again. He'll get into your head and make you feel like you need to stay with him because he's "a changed man." Then he'll just pick up where he left off.
He has several medical problems, so I was taking care of all the household chores and working two jobs. No wonder she had a heart attack. I have a feeling she's probably relatively young and having to carry an entire household while being abused by the members of said household was too much for her to handle. My children will not help with the chores unless I scream and yell for hours. Well, when you breed with a piece of shit, the offspring of such a union are also generally pieces of shit. I'd have burned the house down when they were all sleeping.
I no longer love my husband. He wants to romance me and try to make me love him again. He is also very controlling. He feels I “owe” him a chance to prove that he loves me and can change. He never loved you to begin with, dumbass. An abuser cannot love anyone other than themselves. She owes him nothing. He's had ample chances to prove he can change — far too many, in fact. I guarantee she'll still go back to him because that's precisely what abused women do all the fucking time: go running right back to their abuser because apparently they miss seeing the world through a black eye or two.
Am I wrong for leaving and letting go? I’m very confused. — LETTING GO IN FLORIDA
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Re: Dear Abby: Idiot breeds with abusive husband, spawns abusive kid January 12, 2017 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 379 |
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twocents
what was abbys response? doubt it was 'stay' although I still hear that such advice is offered in various and sundry places.
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Abby
You owe this man absolutely nothing! If you allow Seth the chance to romance you into coming back to take care of him, you will wind up exactly where you started.
Your son abuses you because that is what he saw his father doing -- and you allowed it. If you stand your ground now, it will show your son that abuse is not to be tolerated. I hope you will teach him that lesson because it is an important one for him to learn.
Re: Dear Abby: Idiot breeds with abusive husband, spawns abusive kid January 12, 2017 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,363 |
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paragon schnitzophonic
Whatever the reasons why these women don't leave, they no longer matter once children are in the picture. At that point, you have a duty and obligation to leave so the kids aren't be raised in an abusive environment. Yes, it is highly dangerous to leave, but breeders talk and talk about how they sacrifice and would lay their lives on the line for their kids. Now when it's time to put up, they shut up and pretend they never said anything.
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Re: Dear Abby: Idiot breeds with abusive husband, spawns abusive kid January 13, 2017 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,198 |
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The author said she couldn't count the number of times she'd watched women go back to their abusers with little kids in tow who were crying and begging not to go back. She said the moos' response was often to tell the child to stop begging because "You're making this hard for Mommy."
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twocents
I wonder if anyone has ever thought that this is some asshat method of forcing women to breed in order to get help:
Re: Dear Abby: Idiot breeds with abusive husband, spawns abusive kid January 15, 2017 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,970 |
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bell_flower
Over the years we've had women stop by here who were being abused, yet when they call shelters, they are told there is nothing for them and women with chyldrun are the priority.