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If you are considering not having children, you may be a bit reluctant to admit it. Couples who choose not to have children often face intense societal pressure and scrutiny. Withstanding that pressure requires inner strength and conviction – but to have that conviction, you must first be sure that it is a life you want to embrace, with all of its benefits and drawbacks.

Many people’s primary objection to becoming a parent relates to all of the responsibilities and obligations that come along with it. Parenting is a 24-hour a day, 7-day a week job. You may not want to endure the many common and painful parenting experiences, such as your child’s tantrums, your child’s tantrums in public, and your own tantrums when you feel overwrought, exhausted, and unable to take a break from your child who needs you. Then there are the issues that come along with older children, especially teenagers. While you do not need to give up your interests and passions, your ability to pursue them will be affected. And, you will also have fewer resources to put into yourself, as raising children will consume your time, money, and energy.

Another reason some people are hesitant to become parents is that they were raised in a less than loving family. Many who began life in such difficult circumstances fear that they will be abusive like their parents. Others have struggles that they think would make them a bad parent, such as having a temper or sensing that they are not nurturing enough. The truth is that such a background often does affect people, including their parenting. But how it affects them is not a given. They might have an inner drive to be a better parent. Or, they might be motivated to heal the hurts they carry, spurring them on to be a healthier person and a better parent.

Some people decide that they don’t want to raise children because doing so is just not of interest to them. Their decision is not because they face overwhelming fears or are injured by their own childhood. Their interests simply lay elsewhere. They have passions that carry them in another direction, such as championing a cause, pursuing a career, or simply enjoying other interests.

While all of the above are reasons for choosing not to raise children are reasonable, being a parent clearly has its rewards – or no one would choose to do it!

Aside from the many tender and purely joyful moments that come with parenting, it also offers a sense of meaning. There is no question in most parents’ minds that they are engaging in an important and meaningful “project” as they care for and attempt to shape their children. They take pride in their children’s accomplishments, enjoy their successes, and support them with great compassion through their failures. Without this focus and these challenges, their life would undoubtedly be easier; but they might feel lost, aimless in life, or unfulfilled. (For this reason, people without children often benefit from investing themselves in something that offers a sense of purpose.)

Many parents find that raising a child helps them to become better people. They learn patience and focus more on becoming their best selves so that they can be a good role model. Having a child also offers a chance to have a legacy. In shaping your child, you help to influence the future of society.

If being child-free does seem appealing to you, think it over. Make sure that it is a choice. People who put off making the decision to have children can be left regretting their indecision and inaction in their later years. While you can’t know what each path holds for you, you can make the best decision for you given what you know now.

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While all of the above are reasons for choosing not to raise children are reasonable, being a parent clearly has its rewards – or no one would choose to do it!

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While all of the above are reasons for choosing not to raise children are reasonable, being a parent clearly has its rewards – or no one would choose to do it!

You go you walking uterus! I applaud you!

If doing drugs eventually killed people, nobody would choose to do it, right? Why do so many people try drugs? Peer pressure. Why do so many people breed? Peer pressure. One can stop doing drugs. One cannot do anything if they had a kid that is being overwhelming.

Fucking without protection creates pregnancies. Social stigma that is so against abortions creates babies. I say it is time to drop the political correctness and say it how it really is. A good portion of pregnancies are unintended and unplanned.

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ondinette
Here's what I don't get. If a person does not want to be a parent because they had a bad childhood, don't have the right temperament, or have no interest in children; WHY DO PEOPLE THINK THAT'S A BAD THING? Aren't they doing the intelligent and responsible thing by not creating an unhappy dysfunctional family? Dog knows there are way too many of those already. How exactly are fucked up families good for anybody?

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Another reason some people are hesitant to become parents is that they were raised in a less than loving family. Many who began life in such difficult circumstances fear that they will be abusive like their parents.

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Many parents find that raising a child helps them to become better people. They learn patience and focus more on becoming their best selves so that they can be a good role model.

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Aside from the many tender and purely joyful moments that come with parenting, it also offers a sense of meaning. There is no question in most parents’ minds that they are engaging in an important and meaningful “project” as they care for and attempt to shape their children. They take pride in their children’s accomplishments, enjoy their successes, and support them with great compassion through their failures.

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Many parents find that raising a child helps them to become better people. They learn patience and focus more on becoming their best selves so that they can be a good role model.

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While all of the above are reasons for choosing not to raise children are reasonable, being a parent clearly has its rewards – or no one would choose to do it!

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Aside from the many tender and purely joyful moments that come with parenting

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Many parents find that raising a child helps them to become better people. They learn patience and focus more on becoming their best selves so that they can be a good role model.

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Aside from the many tender and purely joyful moments that come with parenting, it also offers a sense of meaning.

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freya
I knew a man who wanted to have kids to give them a better childhood than he had.

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mrs. chinaski
Those people project themselves into the children