Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 06, 2017 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
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cfuter
If the economy is really causing this, I feel for them a bit. But I'm my personal opinion, I don't believe the whole thing. The adult kids I see don't seem to care about moving out, and don't even get like retail job in the meantime to have their own pocket money like a real adult. The postponement of adulthood seems to suit them well because this generation of parents doesnt want to be the bad guy, so they let the kids float around, and enjoy the pleasures of adulthood w/o any of the responsibilities. It is just an extension of the hover aspect of parenting and the kids are very comfortable with it My friends kids sit in their basement on the internet all day and night and don't even go out and socialize, contemplating taking a semester off AGAIN, so they can be on the 15 yr college program. Some of these adult kids literally don't seem to have even one friend other than virtual ones they meet online. All the while judging their parents on their blogs, for not being ultra-liberal bullshit, while their parents think they are liberal, but they just don't don a pussy hat and don't protest stuff that doesn't need support. Very judgy but they don't want to be judged. They can have opinions, but face it, if you haven't launched in ANY way since high school and don't even hold down a Dunkin Donuts job, who are u to judge anybody? But the parents enabled this since the 90s in my opinion. I saw it coming then. So glad for my choices tho. Thank Dog.
Re: Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 06, 2017 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
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craftyzits
You are correct that there is a lot of 'launch failure' in young adults today, although I do think that the economy is causing a great deal of trouble.
We are in a jobless recovery. We have all the high prices of boom times, yet we have fewer and fewer jobs at lower wages every day and that is for the young adults actually able to score that job. Youngsters are fighting their elders who should be retiring for those entry level jobs that are advertised. Even a good degree from a good school is no guarantee of getting a decent wage. Yet rent is skyrocketing in most areas.
The lack of jobs is being caused by two factors. Decent jobs are being sent overseas where the desperate will take pennies to work. The other and more pervasive job thief is automation. Algorithms are taking over white collar jobs now, such as telemarketing.
Re: Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 07, 2017 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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cfuter
I don't understand why they just sit in the basement tho and don't do anything. You can still work at the mall, local insurance office, or domino's pizza while you're still interviewing for your real job, and not suck every dime off the parents. I know there are plenty of those jobs as I literally see a help wanted sign everywhere I go on the street and they are on the same businesses for 6-12 months thus far. And the lack of socialization kills me. I knew a number of losers back in my day, they still went out and had friends and dates of some sort. They didn't lay around day and night in a basement reading magazines instead of reading the internet since it didn't exist. Sure they watched TV, but they got SICK of it and went OUT.
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I don't understand why they just sit in the basement tho and don't do anything. You can still work at the mall, local insurance office, or domino's pizza while you're still interviewing for your real job, and not suck every dime off the parents. I know there are plenty of those jobs as I literally see a help wanted sign everywhere I go on the street and they are on the same businesses for 6-12 months thus far. And the lack of socialization kills me. I knew a number of losers back in my day, they still went out and had friends and dates of some sort. They didn't lay around day and night in a basement reading magazines instead of reading the internet since it didn't exist. Sure they watched TV, but they got SICK of it and went OUT.
Your area then must be unusual, as there are lines around the block in some areas for a solitiary simple McDonald's burger flipper job. Malls are dying like flies, half are expected to close. It's so bad that there's a subculture that tours and films 'dying malls'.
The Malls Are Dying
Malls R Dying
Re: Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 08, 2017 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,231 |
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Re: Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 09, 2017 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
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trust me, my niece's apartment did not RENT for $2K. But you need first and last month's rent, security deposit, in their case, cat deposit, and possibly even utility deposits to get in. In my semi-rural area, just 15 years ago,you could get at least a 1 bedroom apt for under $500 a month,. But now there is nothing under 800-900. And yet fast food and desk clerk wages are still the same
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trust me, my niece's apartment did not RENT for $2K. But you need first and last month's rent, security deposit, in their case, cat deposit, and possibly even utility deposits to get in. In my semi-rural area, just 15 years ago,you could get at least a 1 bedroom apt for under $500 a month,. But now there is nothing under 800-900. And yet fast food and desk clerk wages are still the same
Right, I see how this isn't gonna cut it for your niece, but I'm talking about at least working at some type of job while they are still living with their parents too. Many are not.
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Re: Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 20, 2017 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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yurble
I pretty much blame the breeders. One, half of them didn't teach their children to do anything for themselves. Two, all of them failed to consider what the future was going to be like, with 8 billion people and increasing automation.
The younger people I know, who are motivated and working or trying to find work, can't even afford rent, and on top of that they have their parents' generation telling them all the time that they are lazy and entitled. I can see why many don't bother, especially if their breeders taught them no life skills at all.
I do think a good many young people are absolutely worthless, but it's pretty easy to see where they got it from: their stupid asshole breeders. No sympathy whatsoever for those breeders who are stuck supporting their children forever.
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mr. neptune
That brings up another thing I do not understand in our world: Nepotism. Why would I want to work with my family? But maybe that's because I can't stand my family.
Re: Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 23, 2017 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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blackpearl
Where i live (and i'm sure other countries) happens that lots of jobs are already arranged which means that the opening is announced on different employment sites but they already have a person to fill in the job. The whole recruiting process is just a formality.
I attended a job interview on Friday 340 km (about 211 miles) from where i live. There were 30 applicants and i was among the 6 selected for the interview. The person who got the job was a local who worked there on different projects earlier. This is one example, and this is a very normal thing in my field. DH was telling me that where FIL was working they employed only relatives or their kids, no outsiders. When i was studying, i applied 4 summers in a row for a job at the local food factory and i never got any. A neighbor told me: "My dear, if you don't have any parents or other relatives there, you don't stand any chance".
Re: Adult kids cost parents ANOTHER quarter of a mil December 24, 2017 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,841 |