Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. December 31, 2017 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. December 31, 2017 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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Peace
If we want women to have complete bodily agency and full participation in society, then attitudes like this must stop. That includes constant bingoing women who don't want kids.
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. December 31, 2017 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 3,842 |
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. December 31, 2017 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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Peace
What's next, forced pregnancies by government agencies?
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. December 31, 2017 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 01, 2018 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,199 |
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The only thing that has ever worked for me was to discontinue the relationship. No amount of reasoning, counseling, happy CF couples or anything else that may come to mind, none of that ever worked. Once a breeder decides to breed, they do not usually stop. I have seen a few lucky cases where a breeder turned CF, but I think I have seen more PowerBall winners than breeders who turned CF.
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 01, 2018 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 298 |
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Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 02, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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bell_flower
I don't understand advice that advises you to overlook a fatal compatibility flaw and keep dating for years JUST IN CASE you feel the same way years down the line.
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 02, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
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bell_flower
I don't understand advice that advises you to overlook a fatal compatibility flaw and keep dating for years JUST IN CASE you feel the same way years down the line.
And of course, it is only where kids are concerned, because "you might change your mind!" that the advice comes from people who aren't widely considered deranged. Only misguided 'love conquers all' types will advise you give it another five years when it is a religious incompatibility "because you might change your religion!" or goals mismatch "because she might start taking an interest in her career" or attitude disagreement "because someday he'll stop partying and start saving!" And what all this advice has in common is that it completely disrespects one person in the equation, by assuming that they will change so as to become a completely different, acceptable person.
It's reasonable to expect that there will be changes and compromises on small disagreements, but continuing a relationship on the assumption that a person will fundamentally change in a major way is delusion.
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 03, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,231 |
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 03, 2018 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 3,454 |
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blackpearl
It's easy for men to want kids.
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 04, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,231 |
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blackpearl
If he pressures a woman to have kids he’d better be ready to pay.
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 04, 2018 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,364 |
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 05, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 1,231 |
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Techie
I have a suspicion that the guy in this case, he is not able to pay. He is looking for someone to have his kid and pay for it all herself.
In my personal experience, there are always women who want to breed. They just want a man to contribute financially. This guy here probably does not have 2 dimes to rub together, so he resorts to playing dirty.
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 06, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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kittehpeoples
I don't think anyone has ever told me I'd make a great parent. I've still had people criticize my being CF, though. So what does that tell you?
Re: Don't want a baby but your boyfriend does? You're too young to decide. January 07, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
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cj
The “make great parents” line is a popular one and works because of the implied flattery.
I don't think anyone has ever told me I'd make a great parent. I've still had people criticize my being CF, though. So what does that tell you?