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bell_flower
This is a can't-look-away, extremely long article in the New Yorker about a couple who adopted 20+ kids, some of whom were disabled and sick.
Their intentions were generally admirable, and kudos to them for wanting kids nobody else wanted. HOWEVER, my general impression was horror: they had little money and they sound like animal hoarders, but with humans. They didn't have the resources to care for them, and is a home really better than no home?
My other, overriding thought was: intelligent design, my ass. These people attempted to pick up the slack caused by human Pez machines: stupid people, drug addicted people, amoral people who shit kids like turds, dump them into the social safety net, and walk away, only to keep making more. Many of these kids they adopted bred similarly. Why is forced sterilization such a bad thing?
It's just a damn shame that the default for humans isn't sterility.
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20 kids is too many to give each the love and attention they require, even if they are all healthy children. I'm not sure at what point it becomes impossible to provide emotionally, to say nothing of financially, but 20 is way past that limit.
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JoJo
Why on earth did all the girls keep getting pregnant? Didn't they ever discuss birth control with them? Or is that against their religion?
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But then Flory got pregnant at nineteen. Geeta got pregnant. SueAnn got pregnant again and quit college. Geeta got pregnant again. Alysia got pregnant. Flory got pregnant again. Alysia got pregnant again.
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JoJo
Why on earth did all the girls keep getting pregnant? Didn't they ever discuss birth control with them? Or is that against their religion?
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Why on earth did all the girls keep getting pregnant? Didn't they ever discuss birth control with them? Or is that against their religion?
A lot of intellectual disabilities aren't just "dumbness" but reductions in planning capability and other traits required to make good choices about reproduction. For instance fetal alcohol syndrome leads to poor impulse control. Add to that the fact that people with more severe mental disabilities are much more likely to be sexually abused or taken advantage of, and I'm not surprised things ended this way. If they were higher functioning, they probably still lacked some critical thinking skills, and if they were lower functioning, they easy prey to any creep who came their way. Pregnancy is almost inevitable, unless the bits aren't functioning.