More maternal regret April 12, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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mumofsixbirds
One woman was miserable with her first kid, and then went ahead and had another. So typical.
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One woman was miserable with her first kid, and then went ahead and had another. So typical.
Yeah, that's the part that always gets me. They say they hate motherhood and they have two or three or even more kids. I have no doubt that they list their great capacity for logical thought and problem-solving on their resumes under mooternal experience when they try to re-enter the workforce.
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I do think it's a good thing for these regretful moos to speak up about it, because it does give validation to CF people for making a wise choice, and may help some fence-sitters make the right choice for them.
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I think one reason people continue to load on more kids, is that our society virtually worships (ok, not only parenthood) but also the pose of being "just SO BUSY!". Commercials on TV pander to that, magazines feature articles about it, etc etc. No one coyly brags about enjoying free time to play with their dog, read a book, etc etc. People are supposed to kiss your feet when you sigh tiredly about how you haven't a single free moment.
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Now, they all thought I was living the life of luxury and had all the time in the world simply becuz I didnt have a sprog. Can you believe it?
The worst day of your life is luxurious, compared to what your life would be like if you had a sprog. Maybe that's what they realized!
Re: More maternal regret April 15, 2018 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,199 |
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Without parenting I understand how it is possible to be disgusted by someone and love them at the same time. Wish more people would be honest with others about the realities of parenting and that it is a choice, not a requirement. And there is nothing fundamentally wrong with people who can both love and dislike another person, it is normal.
A positive attitude and happiness are great qualities to have but this fairy-tale business needs to be left behind with childhood. The sacred cow/fairy tale of parenting needs to be destroyed along with the idea that becoming a parent will make a person happy who isn't happy or feels unfulfilled. When the fairy tale is destroyed by reality it is just way too convenient for the parents to take out their frustration on the most vulnerable.
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The interviewer missed the chance to ask the really important question, other than why the woman had TWO MORE KIDS after the first one: What was this woman's mindset prior to having kids? Was she ambivalent, but did it anyway because "it's what you do," or she wanted to please her partner or her parents or it would be different if it were her ownTM and all the other rationalizations fence-sitters use to talk themselves off it?
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One woman was miserable with her first kid, and then went ahead and had another. So typical.
Yeah, that's the part that always gets me. They say they hate motherhood and they have two or three or even more kids. I have no doubt that they list their great capacity for logical thought and problem-solving on their resumes under mooternal experience when they try to re-enter the workforce.
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Yeah, that's the part that always gets me. They say they hate motherhood and they have two or three or even more kids. I have no doubt that they list their great capacity for logical thought and problem-solving on their resumes under mooternal experience when they try to re-enter the workforce.
Lots of this can be blamed on lax attention to birth control.
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Just stumbled up this reddit question. You'll notice 3600 replies. I'll just never know why people sign up for this, or have 2 after being miserable w/ one. Also, of note, how the males deal with it, by trying to hide from the kids. So, just as we suspected, busy industrious men, are hiding from their kids. Kids are the problem, even if it isn't "their" fault.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/89zya9/serious_parents_who_regret_having_children_how_do/
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Here's some Paternal Regret
http://www.bbc.com/news/education-43703221?platform=hootsuite
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