http://www.truewifeconfession.com and childish men April 23, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,702 |
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freya
Have been reading lots of confessions @ truewife and what I see, repeatedly, are women with husbands who very much behave like children: some have issues with lack of hygiene, some don't do anything around the house, some don't interact with the children, some play video games, some aren't capable of putting clothes in the hamper or regular maintenance on a car and a few special ones do these type of things and don't contribute income either. But most of them have jobs and are more than likely 100% capable of contributing around the house. None are disabled and incapable of helping out. These same couples always have kids. I've looked and looked but haven't found any men claiming the same about their wives. A few guilt ridden women have said they feel like their husbands contribute much more than they do.
I understand if you live alone you can probably get away with most of the stuff above under certain circumstances but isn't this childish behavior a red flag? Why do these women live with this and then have kids with childish men? Do they see him acting childish when they are married and magically think he will mature once a baybee appears?
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happy hiker
Everyone deserves some time to themselves for Chrissakes.
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happyhiker
Before my boyfriend moved in with me I printed out daily, weekly, monthly and seasonal cleaning lists and we negotiated who would do what. Same with the finances. It has worked out great. He does play video games, but I honestly don’t understand that common complaint. I like to sew and I find it much more enjoyable when he is occupied in the other room. Everyone deserves some time to themselves for Chrissakes.
Re: http://www.truewifeconfession.com and childish men April 25, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,702 |
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yurble
I'm not entirely sure why all items belong on that list. Some just sound like moos being controlling. Like who cares if a guy has a hobby of playing video games? Sure, if he puts his hobbies before chores and necessary expenses, it's a problem, but then it's a problem regardless of what the hobby is. And as for maintenance on the car, it's not as if being a guy comes with an aptitude for cars, yet listing it as a complaint makes it appear like an expectation. If neither of them can do it, they'll just have to take it in to a shop.
They got what they settled for, so why complain now?
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stillwaters
This is exactly why I'm going through a divorce. When my ex and I got married we were adulting nicely, buying a condo, hiking, exploring the world, even having SEX.
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M06B
I think in many cases, these women sluice loaves, and then 'infantalize' their husbands by telling that whatever they're doing is wrong. I wonder if the duhs in some of these cases are tired of always being told that whatever it is they're doing is wrong, she can do it better, or she tells him to not do it anymore, since she does a better job.
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randomcfchick
I do think there's some of this going on out there, too. Sometimes the wife assumes the role of household manager once the baby arrives, isn't satisfied with the husband doing things differently (but still effectively) or being less than fascinated with the baby 24/7.
stillwaters and freya, I'm sorry you're having to deal with your respective situations. Some people stop putting in effort when they're married, like it's a bait and switch. Or they get sucked into addictive/compulsive things, and morph into different people. I hope you both find/have the lives you want.
freya, I think there's truth to what you said about unspoken, preconceived notions about marriage. People pick up on relationship patterns VERY early in life on a subconscious level...I myself am trying to unlearn some annoying relationship habits that I'm 100 percent sure I picked up from my own parents. On a large scale my marriage functions very differently from theirs, but I still have some odd, unhelpful relationship habits.