I remember going to Dairy Queen for ice cream with my mother when I was about 5. The memory is dim so I don't remember making a mess or not. I do remember when I was 9 going to a sit-down restaurant called Sambo's. Mentally I was maybe 5 or 6. There was never a mess made, although I have a less than G rated story about something left behind by a customer before us...
I reached behind a sign showing menu items and pulling out a used condom, telling my mother about the "computer finger" in my normal speaking voice. I happily told Mom and because my voice naturally carried, the rest of the restaurant that my little friend's mother had a drawer full of these computer fingers. Very calmly mom told me to put the computer finger back where I found it. I did but the damage was done.
The above wasn't neglect, as my mother was raising a child with Aspberger syndrome and it takes much longer for Aspies to learn certain niceties such as an indoor voice than so-called 'normal' children.
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