Why do people always think potential partners with adult kids are suitable for the CF?

Sorry to bring up my profession again but it is relevant to the point of this post. I have found a male escort to do double sessions with (as many clients have expressed interest in a man joining and his clients wanted a woman), hes handsome and we have good sexual chemistry and have become pretty good friends so far.

Hes a bit older than me and has a 23 year old daughter (as fun and handsome as he is this automatically relegates him to fuck buddy/and in my case business colleague,wont lie the sex is awesome)that still lives at home. He and his daughter are apparently really close. But he states that we can only get together when his daughter is at work (she does overnight shifts in a group home however she is aware of his profession) because in his words she is extremely territorial of him and doesnt like her daddy hooking up with women.

Their relationship, their home their rules I respect that. But I have to admit its pretty damn ridiculous that a grown 23 year old woman is so concerned with her daddies sex life (my parents are still together but if they werent i wouldn't want to know nor care about any details of my parents sex life). I could understand if she were a minor child but shes a grown ass woman. I can tell he caters to her every whim, he even said he has to keep things super organized because shes OCD and gets mad if things arent perfectly neat n tidy and wants her daddy to be a celibate monk.

And THIS ladies and gentlemen (and lurking breeders) is why we do NOT date/marry moos duhs EVEN when theyre children are grown, we here on BF are smart enough to know that we arent in the free n clear when sprogs are adults.

However my BI/cuckold clients will love him, so it'll increase my business plus hes good n bed so hes here to stay for those purposes. Plus neither of us are looking for serious relationships anyway so the arrangement works for us.

I just made this point to show why we do NOT date anyone with kids even when they are grown.

Jesus... that sounds like an Electra Complex to me. She doesn't want her daddy to be with any other women, and she practically controls his every move it seems. Sounds like she's interested in incest kink ifyaknowwhaddamean.

That said, you don't have to apologize for mentioning your job. That's fairly common here. We all have workplace issues, whether it's a bed or a desk it's all the same. We're all getting fucked! ROFL!

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catharsist
Jesus... that sounds like an Electra Complex to me. She doesn't want her daddy to be with any other women, and she practically controls his every move it seems. Sounds like she's interested in incest kink ifyaknowwhaddamean.

That said, you don't have to apologize for mentioning your job. That's fairly common here. We all have workplace issues, whether it's a bed or a desk it's all the same. We're all getting fucked! ROFL!

Eh i apologized because i have been guilty of bringing it up too much on here in the past.

But yeah, i keep my mouth shut because its not my place and not my business as he is just a colleague and friend. His daughter is deaf but i do wonder if their some degree of aspergers/awtardism coupled with over indulgence as from what i hear if her she seems super OCD and doesnt like changes in routine.

I mean, your feelings are your feelings on the subject, but I do agree with you about not saying anything as I wouldn't either. From what you stated, it seems weird and I would NOT date someone with kids. That's just too fucking much. Children, whether they are small or grown, are still people and people can still suck. I don't want that shit in my life.

I believe she could have some issues with autism, but she could also just be REALLY OCD. Just another reason to not have kids, they're needy on your life when they should REALLY be out of the house by now. I had separate living arrangments from my parents since I was 20, and that's not counting college dorms. Why is she still at home? Is she a louse or is she just another boomerang victim of bad economy?

Also the libertarian in me says to each his own/different strokes for different folks, he seems content and happy with his daughters situation and hes paying for it out of his own pocket, so whatever floats his boat. I respect him for funding this on his own and not expecting handouts from others, because he pays for his own shit our friendship can survive

Although we both (his daughter too) are die hard animal lovers and i brought my super fiendly maine coon tiggy to the sleepover, he said although his daughter doesnt like other women around she wouke like tiggy, i playfully but seriously said "sorry tiggy and i are a package deal" .


Even if kids were out of the house i still wouldn't date them.

Why???? 1. Grandsprogs 2. Restrictions on where you can live because they wanna be close to grandsprogs. 3. Having to take grandsprogs in because adult sprogs are dead or in jail. 4. Sprogs will always want $$ 5. You will always come second 6. Its not childfree

Shit, makes alll the sense to me. I wouldn't date anyone with kids. It's literally infinite potential for baggage.

But at the same time i would never want someone to cut off their kids for me, anyone who ditches their children because of their latest squeeze is an asshole and shitty parent (note: i dont mean setting healthy boundaries with adult kids when i talk about ditching kids).

The childfree are just not compatible with parents, no matter the age of the sprog.

Are we sure this guy isn't married? This sounds really creepy.

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bell_flower
Are we sure this guy isn't married? This sounds really creepy.

Been to his house, family pics everywhere, saw every corner and inch of his house no sign of a wife. We are also friends on Facebook, got his real name and i have his personal # (i snooped abound on the internet, no sign of a wife). And I've been in the profession 6 years now, if anyone can sniff out a married man its me

But like i said im not intending to date/marry him, just a friend (with benefits) and colleague .

I was just making a point on the myth of how its "safe" to date someone with adult kids because they arent kids anymore, and this is the poster child (no pun intended) on how parents with kids of any age are not compatible with (truly) CF ppl.
Parents (especially single duhds), say to the CF "oh its ok to date me my kids are grown" and we all know how that plays out.

I wrote that because he when a guy is secretive like that, there is sometimes another woman involved. In this case the jealous female is his daughter, which is all kinds of creepy.

A grown man would be able to tell his daughter that he has a friend. It's none of his daughter's business what the friendship entails. And it's his house--he can do what he pleases.

Of course, real grownups would be telling their kids to get out of the house. It sounds like he's enabling her and he's happy with that.

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bell_flower
I wrote that because he when a guy is secretive like that, there is sometimes another woman involved. In this case the jealous female is his daughter, which is all kinds of creepy.

A grown man would be able to tell his daughter that he has a friend. It's none of his daughter's business what the friendship entails. And it's his house--he can do what he pleases.

Of course, real grownups would be telling their kids to get out of the house. It sounds like he's enabling her and he's happy with that.

Not making excuses, but he told me when he was 16 his father threw him out of the house because his dads new girlfriend didnt want him around, so i think hes overcompensating trying to not do what his dad did.

While I dont agree with him enabling her, its not my place(nor my problem,shes his problem not mine) to say anything. If he were to ask me my opinion id give him my honest one (as he does very often ask me for my opinion on things because he knows ill give a brutally honest one) but otherwise i keep my mouth shut.

And while its his house/his rules, if you are going to do the nasty when other ppl are in the house its only polite to be discrete and keep noises down. He has a parrot in his room who likes to loudly imitate sex noises even when we arent too loud, so the bird would announce what is going on lol. Funny but also embarassing.

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I was just making a point on the myth of how its "safe" to date someone with adult kids because they arent kids anymore, and this is the poster child (no pun intended) on how parents with kids of any age are not compatible with (truly) CF ppl.
Parents (especially single duhds), say to the CF "oh its ok to date me my kids are grown" and we all know how that plays out.

Of course there is a very simple answer if someone makes that proposition: "No." One of my favorite sentences.

Not that I've had single guys with kids trying to convince me to get involved with them, though I have had guys who plan to have kids one day trying it on. While I think a lot of relationships eventually have expiration dates, I'm don't think someone has much respect for me if they enter into things with a specific plan for breaking up in place. Again, "No."

I wouldn't even be fuck buddies ( I hate that term), or friends with benefits with a single duh.

Having kids takes the sex out of sexy.

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I wouldn't even be fuck buddies ( I hate that term), or friends with benefits with a single duh.

Having kids takes the sex out of sexy.

If we didnt work together i prob wouldnt have either, but hes very handsome and good at what hes does and i kinda have a thing for sexy italians lol.


Trust me i know its a strange STRANGE setup, but fellow providers can bond pretty quickly, and i do value the friendship but do not have the intention nor desire to take it further.

Plus he is not looking for a serious relationship anyway so it works.

A small update: im normally not passive/aggressive at all but couldn't help myself just this once

We were sexting and he was saying he couldn't wait to be with me again and im like "ok well i got time on saturday hows that work" and he said he has to ask his daughter if shes gonna be home that night.

If it were a minor child id understand, shouldnt have randoms/strangers around kids, but shes a 23 year old adult still living at home, and her dad having friends over in is own home shouldnt be any of her business.

So I just said "hmmmm feels like high school all over again sneaking around when the parents arent home, kindve hot." so i made just a little dig into something sweet. I couldnt resist, just this once .

TBH if there werent business involved then I wouldnt have bothered at all, but doing duos really increases revenue and its important to have good chemistry with your duo partner, so im having fun and making the best out of it .