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contemplativeintrovert
When I said I was pro choice, I was called a communist, a supporter of tearing down monuments, a supporter of the welfare state, and pro slavery. I was told I am “one of them!”
I am in fact pro capitalism, pro 2 a, pro environment, anti hunting, anti welfare, and anti slavery. Some of those may seem contradictory, with laisez fare economics and pro 2a being on the right, and abortion / green activism on the left. I can have these seemingly contradictory beliefs because SHOCKER I am an individual.
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contemplativeintrovert
Honestly times likes this I wish there were a purge. My dad and I just got into a screaming match about abortion and besides for needing a drink, I’m hoping to get some advice on how to shut up proliars. Some of the nuggets of trash:
I asked why is it always women take the pill, or women use BC, or women “don’t get knocked up,” and not MEN wear a condom or MEN get snipped?
The response “women control their p****y not men.” I said that women can’t choose not to be pregnant. If they could magically just not be pregnant, abortion wouldn’t be an issue. I got no reply when I said men need to control their dicks.
When I said I was pro choice, I was called a communist, a supporter of tearing down monuments, a supporter of the welfare state, and pro slavery. I was told I am “one of them!”
I am in fact pro capitalism, pro 2 a, pro environment, anti hunting, anti welfare, and anti slavery. Some of those may seem contradictory, with laisez fare economics and pro 2a being on the right, and abortion / green activism on the left. I can have these seemingly contradictory beliefs because SHOCKER I am an individual. I believe in things based on certain principles, and I hope, logic. I told my dad that, “with that logic, he must also be for murdering gays and molesting children, because you’re catholic.” All I got was “that’s not true!”
I took objection to the fact that he kept calling zygotes “children.” I said that equating a zygote to an ACTUALLY LIVING CHILD shows a gross misunderstanding of biology. Besides which, even if you are going to equate the two, that debate doesn’t even touch on the cruelty to the WOMAN who has to carry that zygote. The response? A zygote is the same as a child.
I was told that “your arguments don’t hold water,” and “what am I saying that doesn’t make sense?” I literally just TOLD this bastard what he is saying doesn’t make sense and why, but instead of getting logical responses I got shouted at and called names. My throat is raw from trying to out scream this idiot. I am so sick. My head hurts and my throat is raw and I need a drink. Does anyone have any advice on recovering from such encounters? I’m really fucking sick of women being told to “stop being whores,” and hearing that “sex is normal, men can’t be expected not to have it.” I’m so done. And to any lurking misogynists reading this, I am not “apologizing for people to be whores.”
I’m a repulsed asexual. I’m the least whorish person I know. The difference though between misogynists and I is that I don’t care what people do with their bodies. I don’t care if women sleep with 1 man or with 100 men, I literally do not care because it DOESN’T AFFECT ME. /rant
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mumofsixbirds
My aunt is CL, and a Catholic extremist. She beats people over the head with the Bible, and cherry picks Scripture to suit her own needs. She is also a self-serving malignant narcissist who has a very criminal and manipulative mind. She is a pro-liar, too. She hates other women, and refers to them as 'sluts' and 'whores'. She also hates men, including her own husband who happens to have a disability.
She hates abortion. She's rattled on to me and other family members about how the population is going down, (yeah, right, show me the evidence, lady), and how the whores are killing off the next generation. Abortion is, in her mind, a way for sluts to get out of their punishment for having sex. If she knows a person who has had multiple children and are deemed a 'Good Catholic' by the community, she praises them up the ying-yang. It actually makes me want to puke.
When I was on my cruise last year with my aunt and two sisters, my one sister got into an argument with my aunt about abortion. It was really ugly. During the argument, I told my aunt, "Hey, Auntie, I had an ABORTION. Am I a whore?" She had to back down.
It sounds to me like your father hates women. I'm so sorry to hear you have gone through this. It sucks royally, but believe me. There is no winning an argument with a twisted pro-liar freak. I'd just avoid him as much as possible. I'm doing that with my Aunt. She wants me to call her Monday morning, and I don't think I will. She's a scary, dangerous person.
Re: Rant: Headache from arguing with my proliar dad August 21, 2018 | Registered: 12 years ago Posts: 2,430 |
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yurble
There are people who can see that something hurts others, and avoid doing it. They have true empathy.
There are people who don't necessarily see something on their own, but if someone points out the pain their actions cause, they understand it and try to adjust. They have some empathy.
Then there are the people who have sympathy, but not empathy. They only really see the effect if it involves someone they love: their son turns out to be gay, their daughter is raped and needs an abortion, etc. But once they do see it they understand the bigger picture. There is very little point in talking to these people unless you can present Exhibit A: someone they love who is afflicted with the problem.
Finally there are the people who have neither sympathy nor empathy, and care only about themselves and how they appear to the world. They'd rather kick out their children, beat them, or kill them if they "reflect poorly" upon the parent by believing the wrong thing, having the wrong sexuality, having sex, or falling in love with the wrong person. They'll send a mistress to get an abortion to avoid a wife finding out about the mistress, but that doesn't mean they condone abortions for other people. In short, they are nasty, authoritarian assholes who love nobody but themselves. There is never any point in talking to people like this. The only leverage to changing their minds at all is how they are perceived by others, but since they usually surround themselves with groups of like-minded jerks, their own point of view is continually reinforced regardless of what broader society thinks of their mindset.
If your father is the sympathetic but not empathetic type, I'd say bypass the conversation until you can present Exhibit A. If he's only concerned about himself, I'd say the best you can do is give him the shame of the community knowing that a child - one who is reportedly doing well by all accounts - has chosen to cut him out completely.
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contemplativeintrovert
I’m a repulsed asexual. I’m the least whorish person I know. The difference though between misogynists and I is that I don’t care what people do with their bodies. I don’t care if women sleep with 1 man or with 100 men, I literally do not care because it DOESN’T AFFECT ME. /rant
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Re: Rant: Headache from arguing with my proliar dad August 22, 2018 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 499 |
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catharsist
Don't argue with someone who doesn't believe in facts. It's like wrestling with a pig, you'll get dirty and the pig likes it. I just go with the "disregard outright" approach. And don't think I don't inform them as to WHY I disregard them. It's satisfying to tell them. Tell them that miscarriages are abortions from God, they like that.