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freya
I don't think that there isn't a reason to be ashamed of a scar. If a scar is in a place that is readily exposed (arms, legs, upper chest or back) that it is likely to be seen and I would hope the person with such scar(s) doesn't feel self-conscious about them.
Just not understanding why it is necessary to publicize and yak about a huge scar on the stomach on social media, other than to attention whore.
I read the other day that pimples are in.
I agree that in one sense, we are living in a world that expects airbrushed perfection nobody can attain without extensive surgery and cosmetics, and this is causing many people to feel bad about their deviations. Furthermore, we're also in a culture where many people seem to think it's okay to look down on others for aspects of their appearance, and to comment on it.
Hence we get a backlash. It often starts with people who are sick of being told they are ugly who just want to provide support for others in similar circumstances, and to reveal those who torment them as being ugly inside. And I can completely agree with that, it's not especially polite to comment negatively on another person's appearance, nor is it realistic to hold people to impossible standards.
But then you get the people who aren't content with simply trying to get people to stop being rude, and instead insist that the attribute is beautiful, more beautiful than the alternative. Which, for most people, amounts to a blatant lie. I mean, pimples happen, people can't always do something about it, and nobody should be obligated to pile on makeup or take dubious medication in order to appear more "professional." But at the same time, nobody is going to convince me that pimples are more attractive than no pimples, even if models start sporting them.
And it's the same way with stretch marks. If someone sees them and mocks you, in an intimate situation or at the beach, that person is being a jerk. But it doesn't change the fact that stretch marks are less attractive than no stretch marks, and the fact that you got them through choice rather than as part of adolescent growth doesn't make them more meaningful, or make you special.
Claims that they demonstrate your power are a rather transparent, childish attempt of claiming the opposite of what is actually felt. I'm pretty sure she feels irrelevant and powerless when she contemplates her stretch marks, because she knows they aren't attractive and are a symbol of having left behind her pre-maternal life.
Nobody but one desperate to believe is fooled by that mother goddess crap, just like nobody is going to believe that pimples are cool.