Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 14, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
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mumofsixbirds
Holy crap, freya! That sounds like breeder hell!
I've never internet dated, but it sounds rife with wannabreeds out there. The guys I met, as friends and as dates, never really talked about sprogs at all. I don't know if this is a more recent phenomenon with the advent of internet dating, but it seems that the people who I generally attracted didn't like kids that much at all.
A lot of girlfriends I had did end up getting knocked up eventually, but I never had much to do with them afterwards. Mostly just bingos and babysitting demands came my way. The guy friends I've had never talked about kids the way the women did. I guess that's why I've always had more male friends than female.
Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 15, 2018 | Registered: 5 years ago Posts: 132 |
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kman
In the past some employers preferred men with children because they would presumably work harder and longer to provide for the wife and kids. My hunch is those days have long faded, and things have even gone the other way as younger guys now use their kids as an excuse not to work long hours.
Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 15, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
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cassia
In my opinion, the vast majority of the men I have met who wanted kids did not have a clue about how much was involved in having a child.
They mostly had abstracted ideas about it or a few Kodak moments in mind.
Not one had been prepared for the unending drudge-work that would be involved in being a fully involved parent.
Most of them counted on the mother doing most of the work and being clued in to the really needs of a child.
I've noticed that too. When asked why they want kids, most guys I know have said they want someone to carry on their family name or they want a little buddy to teach how to play video games or something like that. They're in it for the Kodak moments, but not so much for all the behind the scenes shit work that goes into breeding, which comprises about 99 percent of parenthood. They probably figure Moo will deal with the kids at their worst and then Duh can swoop in and enjoy the kid for five seconds at their best. These are the men who, when forced to help raise the kids they wanted, will tell people that they're "baby-sitting." Uhh no, you can't babysit your own kids.
A decent chunk of men seem to not care one way or another about having kids, and many of the ones who do want them don't really give much though as far as why they want them and figure it's something you just do when you become an adult or get married.
Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 15, 2018 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,964 |
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freya
I'm seeing a rent-a-kid business. Pay the kid for the Kodak moments and then send the kid home.
I bet there are droves of parents who would be willing to rent their kids out in their bratty moments so that the fence-sitters can witness reality and parents can have that much needed break. Background check on the adults wanting to rent, of course. The ones on auto-pilot would never do this but it may serve the thinkers well.
Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 23, 2018 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,363 |
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freya
I'm seeing a rent-a-kid business. Pay the kid for the Kodak moments and then send the kid home.
I bet there are droves of parents who would be willing to rent their kids out in their bratty moments so that the fence-sitters can witness reality and parents can have that much needed break. Background check on the adults wanting to rent, of course. The ones on auto-pilot would never do this but it may serve the thinkers well.
Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 23, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
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freya
I'm seeing a rent-a-kid business. Pay the kid for the Kodak moments and then send the kid home.
I bet there are droves of parents who would be willing to rent their kids out in their bratty moments so that the fence-sitters can witness reality and parents can have that much needed break. Background check on the adults wanting to rent, of course. The ones on auto-pilot would never do this but it may serve the thinkers well.
They have that, at least in the States-- Big Brother/Big Sister, right? Before anyone is allowed to breed, they should have to sign up for a program like that. Then the kid assigned to them should get to choose whether or not they're good enough at parenting to have kids of their own.
Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 23, 2018 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,964 |
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kittehpeoples
They have that, at least in the States-- Big Brother/Big Sister, right? Before anyone is allowed to breed, they should have to sign up for a program like that. Then the kid assigned to them should get to choose whether or not they're good enough at parenting to have kids of their own.
Re: Help! I Forced My Husband to Have Kids. It Was a Terrible Mistake. October 24, 2018 | Registered: 5 years ago Posts: 132 |
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kittehpeoples
They have that, at least in the States-- Big Brother/Big Sister, right? Before anyone is allowed to breed, they should have to sign up for a program like that. Then the kid assigned to them should get to choose whether or not they're good enough at parenting to have kids of their own.
I don't know if this is a universal response or not, but I've told some folks I know to try "renting" a kid via Big Brother/Sister to get a taste of parenting, and the reply was always the same: it's different when it's your own.
I know even if you forced people to go through every possible experience to try to discourage parenting, many would still proceed to reproduce while operating under the impression that it will be different with biological offspring.
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deegee
Am I the only one who finds it odd that the kids like the distant dad more than the more attentive mom? I remember growing up my dad was more distant than my mom and I liked my mom a lot more. But that's me, I suppose.
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