"How our desperation for a baby affected those close to us" November 13, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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“I was absolutely devastated when we were told that you couldn’t have children naturally, and I think that was the time I did most of my grieving. All those feelings like, ‘Why us?’, ‘This isn’t fair’, ‘Why can’t we just have our child?’”
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“If roles were reversed though, and the problem was you, do you think you’d feel the same way as me - completely bereft - because you don’t think you’ll ever meet your own biological baby?”
Re: "How our desperation for a baby affected those close to us" November 13, 2018 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 344 |
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“Society concentrates too much on pushing the message of ‘career first’. All those life stages where you want to push your career are in conflict with the best years for women to start a family. The balance is all wrong.”
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Re: "How our desperation for a baby affected those close to us" November 13, 2018 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,973 |
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“Starting a family - and finding it difficult - can break couples. But I honestly think this is making us stronger.”
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“Society concentrates too much on pushing the message of ‘career first’. All those life stages where you want to push your career are in conflict with the best years for women to start a family. The balance is all wrong.”
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Re: "How our desperation for a baby affected those close to us" November 14, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,434 |
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cj
The key word is "desperation." Despairing over not getting pregnant, and making your own life (and others) miserable because of it, is pretty pathetic. Once again, wanna moo and duh only want their own DNA offspring, not someone else's mistake. If they wanted a child that badly, there are many of them available. But no, it's all about the ego stroke of getting "their own." Hardly worth a whole pictorial of what appear to be two spoiled adults. At least they are photogenic/s
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Re: "How our desperation for a baby affected those close to us" November 14, 2018 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,712 |
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Cambion
The best part is it seems to be incredibly rare when these desperate infertiles wind up happy with their lives if they do manage to reproduce. There is a lot of romanticizing that people do in regard to having kids, and that romance multiplies for those who are struggling to conceive. It's like someone pouring glitter and rainbows on their dreams and they just forget to say "when," and then every single aspect of parenthood winds up being a total disappointment because it's mundane at best and infuriating at worst. It's one of those things where they just play it up so much in their heads to the point where their expectations become insanely unrealistic and there's absolutely no way actual parenthood can measure up.
Re: "How our desperation for a baby affected those close to us" November 15, 2018 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,973 |
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freya
This made me think of something, it is all about wanting what they cannot have. Many people seem to become deadlocked on wanting something the minute it is unavailable.