"My adult son is lazy. Should I kick him out?" December 28, 2018 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,425 |
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Moo
My son is nearly 20. He is bright but lazy. All he does is mess around on his computer and chat to online friends. He did well in his GCSEs, despite doing zero work, and started a diploma but dropped out because of depression. He had some time off, restarted the course and dropped out again. He’s done nothing since. I am at my wits’ end. My dad thinks he’s a waste of space and I should kick him out, but that seems harsh. He is polite and will help if I ask, but he has no motivation to do anything.
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Adult offspring can have trouble “launching” from the family home. This can be down to several things...You mentioned in your longer letter that you stopped working so you could make your son lunch. Why do you feel the need to do this?
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Cambion
I'm not trying to make light of what is a very serious and crippling disease, but there is a difference between depression and "depression."
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Re: "My adult son is lazy. Should I kick him out?" January 01, 2019 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,425 |
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bell_flower
"So Junior not leaving the house by 20 isn't strictly an issue, IMO - the sitting around on his ass gaming all day is. Work and contribute to the household or continue your education Shorty, take your pick."
This. And this is why I'm suspicious that she's an enabling Moo. If she had raised him with the knowledge that there are no free lunches, she wouldn't have this problem now.
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yurble
mommy quit her job so that she could cook one for him every day.
Yeah, does that seem supremely weird to anyone else? I mean, monumentally stupid, yes, but also...weird.
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yurble
mommy quit her job so that she could cook one for him every day.
Yeah, does that seem supremely weird to anyone else? I mean, monumentally stupid, yes, but also...weird.
In terms of what is normal, yes, it is weird. In terms of some of the things we've read about moos doing...well, things do get a lot weirder.
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Re: "My adult son is lazy. Should I kick him out?" January 07, 2019 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,702 |
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kittehpeoples
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yurble
mommy quit her job so that she could cook one for him every day.
Yeah, does that seem supremely weird to anyone else? I mean, monumentally stupid, yes, but also...weird.
In terms of what is normal, yes, it is weird. In terms of some of the things we've read about moos doing...well, things do get a lot weirder.
True. It's not as weird as, say, breastfeeding a ten year old boy, but it kinda makes me think along those lines.
Re: "My adult son is lazy. Should I kick him out?" January 07, 2019 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,554 |
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happyhiker
She should just level with him. “Mommy had you for selfish reasons and has been telling you lies about how bright you are to flatter herself. Truth is, you are average at best and your life is probably going to be terrible, but you need to go live it elsewhere. Here are some books with tips on managing your home and finances because I was thinking that by now you’d be curing cancer and wouldn’t need to know how to read a bank statement or prepare food. Mommy’s sorry.”