Why dating a single mom is better March 10, 2019 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,964 |
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She’s a grown-up. A single mom has had maturity thrust upon her. As a single mom, you are responsible for the health and welfare of another human being. This is not a task to take lightly. It requires sacrifice and making tough decisions.
If you’re looking to date a woman with a proven track record of maturity, a single mom fits the bill. She is highly unlikely to be frivolous and carefree. She has too many responsibilities that keep her firmly grounded.
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She doesn’t want to play games. A single mom doesn’t have time to play the field. It is almost a given that she is in search of a serious relationship. She wants to get to know you and assess whether you are relationship material before introducing you to her kids. She doesn’t have the luxury of playing hard to get as she has too many priorities.
For a single mom, you’re going to fall into one of two categories: a fling or a potential relationship. She’ll kick you to the curb quickly if she senses you’re not serious.
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She wants you instead of needing you. Single moms have been forced to be independent. Many come from relationships where they were controlled. When they finally ‘get their freedom,’ they seize it with both hands. Don’t expect to be the knight in shining armor who charges in to save the day by fixing the sink. She probably knows how to do it herself, and she won’t welcome your interference.
A single mom is going to want to make sure that she never finds herself under the thumb of another man. She’ll show that she’s headstrong and doesn’t need a man to define her.
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She’s not demanding. Due to their independence and the multitude of responsibilities they have, single moms tend to be quite low maintenance to date. They’re not going to demand 100% of your time and attention, because they cannot reciprocate. A single mom wants a relationship, but she doesn’t necessarily want the burden of having to be committed full-time. Her children are her full-time commitment.
Because she understands how to put her children’s needs first, a single mom is not selfish. That means that she’s not going to be unrealistically demanding in a relationship.
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Beware the baggage. Single moms come with an inevitable carousel of baggage. Every single mom’s baggage differs. You need to be conscious of it. She may be emotionally scarred from her previous relationship. You need to be sure that you are willing to be part of the healing process.
With a child comes an ex. When a single mom is co-parenting, her ex features larger than life. If they’re friends, it can be more complicated. You may feel that he’s a third party in your relationship. Establish what her baggage is when you meet a single mom. Before pursuing a relationship, make sure you’re comfortable with it.
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Know your place in the pecking order. Any single mom will place her children above you as a priority. You aren’t going to be her number 1 commitment. If she must choose, who to take a bullet for, don’t be surprised to learn that it’s not you!
You need to understand the bond between mother and child. If she couldn’t put her ex above her kids as a priority, understand that you’ll be running a distant second (or third, or fourth).
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It can be a logistical nightmare. The logistics of arranging a date night with a single mom can be challenging. If you have your own children in the mix as well, it takes careful scheduling. That spur of the moment weekend away isn’t going to happen. It’ll have to be meticulously planned.
Be creative when making time to see each other. Try during the day while the kids are at school. Or later in the evening once they’re asleep. This is going to be a part of the ‘getting to know each other’ phase. A single mom won’t introduce you to her kids until she knows it’s serious. For it to become serious, you need time alone to explore your relationship.
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What if the kids hate you? A relationship with a single mom means a relationship with her children. This can be difficult. The kids may resent you because you represent the finality of the end of their parents’ relationship.
It’s important to know the dos and don’t of interacting with a single mom’s children. You need to show an interest in them, but not try to be their father. They need to understand that you’re their mom’s friend. Where there are problems, communication is important.
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LOLWUT? Moos are sexier and better in bed than unchilded women? I guess being a moo also makes one delusional and quite possibly, a big, fat liar too.
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Writing her off without getting to know her just because she has kids could be the biggest mistake you’ll make in life.
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