I think breeders just cannot loosen themselves from the mindset that they belong everywhere and are entitled to everything, so when they find one of the few places where they are
not welcome (CF sites), they go right on in to spew their bullshit and then get bitchy when people tell them off. And of course, these parents see themselves as the victims of the meanie-head CFers who chased them out and tell us in great detail how we're all just fat ugly barren spinsters who are jealous of mommy power.
I could understand visiting a place to learn more about something you plan to become, whether it's a vegan or a Satanist or a fish owner. But if you're a parent, you can't really plan to become childfree unless you intend to off your kids (which I think at least one person over on /r/childfree has done), and even then, you're still not actually childfree because you were a parent and you had kids, even if you no longer have them. Childfreedom is kinda like virginity - once you lose it, it's gone forever. No take-backsies.
I don't think parents should be allowed to infiltrate childfree sites because they aren't fucking childfree! Why's this such a hard pill to swallow? I don't care if they think they sympathize with constant bingoes and fighting with doctors to be sterilized, because they
don't actually get it. They
think they do, but they don't. There are plenty of places out there for breeders and for people of all family sizes to come together to discuss things, so WHY do CF sites let non-CF people in? Is it because it's too hard to keep them out? Because once trolls know they'll ruffle our feathers by invading our space, they'll do it even more? I know we've had a few of those here over the years.
This is why I hated the softcore CF sites like Tanglewood that have since disappeared. Nice people, but why the fuck are you on a CHILDFREE site if you're a PARENT? WHY join a social place where the overall beliefs are completely contrary to your own? I don't go to Christian sites and shit all over their beliefs, even though I sort of understand them (because I used to be religiously affiliated). Know why? Because I know I don't fucking belong there! I have no desire to be where I am not welcome! Why the fuck would someone with children want to be in a place where people are going to potentially be very vocal about their hatred of children? I know not all CFers hate kids, but some do.
Yeah no, parents are never respectful of anyone because all they care about is themselves. I will respect them when they start doing their fucking jobs and quit hassling me about my choices that don't match theirs. Respect is a two-way street, and if breeders have it their way, their idea of "respect" is for everyone else to kiss their asses while they treat everyone else like total shit.