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"single moms spend less time on housework and more time on leisure and sleeping"

Posted by lurker-derp 
So I'm perusing my usual online haunts when I come across this utter gem of schlocky writing.

https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/05/single-moms-fewer-chores-free-time-married.html

According to a recent study - of 23,000 married, separated, divorced, widowed or "otherwise unpartnered" women living with a kid under 13 - single mums spend less time on housework and more time on leisure or sleeping.

Cue a bunch of self-confessed laziness and misandric bitching with such fabulous quotes as:-

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Divorce, as it turns out, can bring freedom not only from a broken relationship but from the day-to-day grind that is the performance of motherdom. There is no need to be seen as constantly cooking, bathing, doing laundry, and cleaning up when no one is watching.

There’s also less need to spend a bunch of time nagging—not the kids, but their dad.

Yeah, because all grown men are just useless fops and having one is just like having another kid to look after... eye rolling smiley

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Single mothers, on the other hand, have no need or even opportunity to “perform gender” by demonstrating obeisance to centuries-old conceit that good mothers prioritize everyone else but themselves. There’s not much point in putting on a play if there’s no audience.

Translation: Why bother cleaning and doing laundry when it's just me and my kids wallowing in filth?

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Single mothers are far more likely to be poor, underemployed, and nonwhite. Many left relationships with men who no longer contribute financially to the children.

But even these women spent less time on household chores and more time sleeping and playing than their married counterparts. This is explained in part by the fact that many single mothers live with a parent, relative, or other adult.

So, you are still relying on someone else to help you? Just because it's not a husband or partner, doesn't mean you're doing it all by yourself.

Jesus H Christ, no wonder single mums are stereotyped as (and I quote from the opening of the article) " harried, lonely, and miserable, too burdened by solitary drudgery to have much of a life." Living in a filthy hovel with a gaggle of brats who you foist onto other people is apparently SO much better than having a life partner who will love you for you, and not just for survival reasons like kids do.
Eww....I constantly clean (probably averages to an hour each day and I don't let messes sit), bath every day, cook several times a week and do laundry when I have loads. And I live alone so that means no audience. If I were having company during a weeknight I could make my bed, stow away any laundry hanging to dry and straighten up a bit in less than 30 minutes. Seriously, no cleaning or bathing unless someone else is there is just a slob. And I guess that despite it being TMIJITW brats don't count as a audience.

I care about the condition of my home, my body, etc. Couldn't care less what anyone else thinks. I guess personal standards go by the wayside for this author.
Sure, they like to act like they're so bizzy and life is so haaaaaaard that they just don't have time to clean up their hovels. In usual Moo fashion, they'll blame their kids for everything. Can't clean up those dog turds that have been on the floor for four years because Tardley is so hard to look after and Mommy is so tired! Even if the kids are in school all day long, somehow Mommy is still so tiiiiiiired and can't do anything. I'm sure they'll blame PPD too for good measure, because what kind of a meanie-head would demand a poor tired mommy get off her ass and do anything if she's depressed?

I think they know they can get away with being lazy and blame it on their brats, so they just go ahead and do that. Mommy can't clean, cook, bathe, do laundry, or anything else because baybee. Single mothers, especially. They can say they're doing the work of two parents, so they just don't have the time or energy to clean and don't you dare fucking judge them for having dishes in the sink for eight months or not having bathed for two weeks either!

I can cut them some slack when the bratlings are very young and very helpless/dependent. Because when you spend a good chunk of every day wiping shit, cleaning puke, trying to feed a flailing loaf and making it shut the fuck up for 15 seconds, the last thing you want to do is clean or cook. I can understand that. But when the kids are school-aged, there's no excuse for living in a dump, especially since the kids can be taught how to do simple things like picking up their own toys or folding towels. As they get older, they can help with more stuff like washing dishes and even cooking. I might have just been a weird kid, but I liked dusting and trying to fold the bath towels as perfect as possible. But we know they won't do that because apparently chores are akin to child abuse now.
I'm going through some shit atm so my energy is not even able to be registered. I look like a hoarder but, it ain't trash and there is no way in Hell I'm going without a shower. There is no excuse to live in filth and should be even more important if you are a single mawm. You are showing your spawn that it's ok to not care about anything unless you're showing off for someone. What a lovely lesson to teach your kids.

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Eww....I constantly clean (probably averages to an hour each day and I don't let messes sit), bath every day, cook several times a week and do laundry when I have loads. And I live alone so that means no audience. If I were having company during a weeknight I could make my bed, stow away any laundry hanging to dry and straighten up a bit in less than 30 minutes. Seriously, no cleaning or bathing unless someone else is there is just a slob. And I guess that despite it being TMIJITW brats don't count as a audience.

I care about the condition of my home, my body, etc. Couldn't care less what anyone else thinks. I guess personal standards go by the wayside for this author.

I'm not a hyper-cleaner, but then pain dictates what I do every day.

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