Fencesitter becomes a single duh September 06, 2019 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,060 |
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I saw that one. Some of the comments saying being unwanted would be better than adoption made me cringe. I've seen how unwanted kids turn out. Spoiler alert: badly. They turn out badly.
Abortion would be better than being unwanted.
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Cambion
Give the guy time - eventually, the idea of murder will be completely justified in his mind as a way to take back his freedom.
Many parents who don't want their kids will be able to hide their resentment at least for a little while, but it sounds like this guy isn't even trying to do that much. Those kids didn't ask to be born and Duh is taking out his poor decisions on them. It's okay, it'll only fuck them up a LOT. He won't give the kids to a family that wants them because then he'll probably be disowned by his own family, and he won't date single Moos because if he doesn't want his own brats, he sure as fuck doesn't want someone else's. So his options are give them away, put up with them, or dispose of them in a less legal fashion.
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I wonder if it is possible to love but not want? Seems strange
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I wonder if it is possible to love but not want? Seems strange
I never understood that either. People who say they regret having kids, but still love them. How's that work? Generally speaking, when you want something and/or love it, you don't regret it. It might be hard or painful, but it's worth it in the end.
Love and regret don't really go hand in hand, so I think when parents say it, it's because they don't want people chewing them out for saying they regret having kids and leaving it at that.
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Yep, abortion would be better than having unwanted kids. I'm sorry his wife died. That's awful. But you know who else for whom it's also awful? His kids. They need him, and he should man up and figure out some way to soldier on and make his childed life work and be an involved parent, not contracting that shit out to boarding school. Yes, he should have stuck to his guns. Woulda coulda shoulda; bed made lie.
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yurble
Have you ever been in a relationship that went on longer than it should, because you still cared for the person and therefore stuck it out, even if the joy had vanished? That's what I imagine it's like, a grim burden, which will eventually see the love turned into bitterness if the people involved don't cut their losses.
But there's no divorcing your children, so these breeders are trapped in a prison of their own making. I can believe that they both love and resent their children, but I can't believe that any of it is remotely emotionally healthy for anyone concerned.
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Cambion
But the upside for Duh is if he keeps this up, the kids will probably leave at 18 and never speak to him again.
At this point, that's probably what he's hoping for.
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mumof6birds...
I presume you don't deal with your mother...
at the very least, you can find the worst nursing home..
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The other option he has is to date a young naive woman and overwhelm her with romance and promises. Marry her as soon as possible and then leave her on parenting detail 24/7. She'll need to have something she desperately wants to escape to fall for him, such as a terrible minimum wage dead-end job she wants to quit. Instead of paying for a domestic (cook, nanny, cleaning) he marries one. It is cheaper. She'd have to lack ambition and opinions though in order to stay in this arrangement.
It could easily backfire on him if she decides she wants kids "of her own" so best he obtain a vasectomy no matter what he does.
I've noticed many single parunts immediately want to find a spouse replacement and I'd bet it has to due with wanting reprieve from their kids in nearly all instances. I've known single parents who have jumped into serious dating relationships before the ink has dried on their divorce paperwork.
At least this option is legal but it is a disservice to the potential woman.
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So he has options, but he sure as hell isn't gonna be getting the cream of the crop. But since parents think so highly of themselves, I'm sure he'll pursue attractive unchilded women and complain when they don't want to raise his damn kids for him.
Re: Fencesitter becomes a single duh September 20, 2019 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
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Many parents I've known who became single after reproducing also immediately started looking for a new mate, like they split up Friday and they're on a date with someone else by Sunday. Big shock, almost none of them could actually hang onto a partner for more than a few months, even if they did produce One of Our OwnTM. One friend of mine was a very smart woman with a good job and was a PNB, but goddamn she was rubbish at picking men and she would dump the decent guys and stick around with the assholes.
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So he has options, but he sure as hell isn't gonna be getting the cream of the crop. But since parents think so highly of themselves, I'm sure he'll pursue attractive unchilded women and complain when they don't want to raise his damn kids for him.
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