"I'm never having children - why does that make you so upset?" November 16, 2019 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,432 |
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No one asks grown-ass people why they choose to have kids, even though they’re making a life-altering decision with an abundance of unknowns. And no one should. I’m just looking for the same courtesy and acceptance. Ultimately, 18 years after I first made this decision, I know two things with conviction: that I have no desire to have children, and that I don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why.
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craftyzits
I am very lucky in that I never have to explain past the fact I had a malfunctioning reproductive system and I could not have children. The reproductive system was chucked, but my celebrations aren't shared with cows.
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Re: "I'm never having children - why does that make you so upset?" November 20, 2019 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 12,432 |
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ondinette
I once had a co-worker who said she thought another co-worker named Joe would be a good dad. Joe had anger issues and was open about his dislike of children. I have no idea what kind of thought process made her think someone like that was a good candidate for parenthood. Of course this same co-worker thought I would be a good mom. I was also open about not liking children and everyone could see I get stressed out easily. Maybe some people just want everyone to have kids so badly they can't see any personal traits that could make it a bad idea.
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"I want to be a parenthood ally and to understand pregnancy and birth better, because doing so is essential to advancing women on the whole. I want to be able to have informed, supportive conversations with friends about IVF. I want to make the workplace better for parents, and every last one of us whose personal life calls for flexibility and compassion within our professional life. But I also want to go home to a quiet apartment and to never, ever feel guilty, insecure, or judged for doing so."
Re: "I'm never having children - why does that make you so upset?" November 22, 2019 | Registered: 7 years ago Posts: 651 |
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bell_flower
That must be it because I've never been able to figure it out either.
Zero regrets for me personally but other certain people seemed WAY MORE UPSET/REGRETFUL than I ever was.
I just ignored the assholes and was much happier for it.