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Duh hides in the bathroom when he has to be a parent

Posted by Cambion 
Re: Duh hides in the bathroom when he has to be a parent
January 31, 2020
It truly is amazing how little people communicate before getting married and having kids together, and then they wonder why the other person becomes "completely different." So, so many people don't find out they're completely incompatible with one another until after they've made long-term life choices together.

In any case, I wouldn't be able to pass a true judgment on these cases of lazy-ass useless fathers unless I could either hear both sides of the story or observe the parents in action. Because the one telling the story might be re-weaving it to make themselves out to sound like perfect angels. Did both of them want kids, or did Moo decide all by herself to bring children into the relationship? That could definitely have a LOT to do with a guy's involvement in domestic duties. What did Duh act like when they were just dating and before they had kids? What kinds of work do both parents do and/or does one stay home?

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also think it's been studied elsewhere: males are just not invested in their offspring the way the moos are

Probably because unlike women, they don't have the tremendous up-front physical investment that women do. Like imagine how much you'd care about a computer you buy off the shelf compared to one you build yourself. You'll care WAY more about the one you made than the one you bought because it took more effort.
Re: Duh hides in the bathroom when he has to be a parent
February 01, 2020
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In any case, I wouldn't be able to pass a true judgment on these cases of lazy-ass useless fathers unless I could either hear both sides of the story or observe the parents in action. Because the one telling the story might be re-weaving it to make themselves out to sound like perfect angels. Did both of them want kids, or did Moo decide all by herself to bring children into the relationship? That could definitely have a LOT to do with a guy's involvement in domestic duties. What did Duh act like when they were just dating and before they had kids? What kinds of work do both parents do and/or does one stay home?

Good points. In the "worthless dad" stories, we only hear one side. The dad's side might be equally damning.

As for pre-marriage, pre-kids behavior: this is where a prolonged time of dating and/or engagement is good, and preferably during actual established adult years when one has had time away from one's family of origin. I've noticed that a LOT of young adults work through their family issues via relationships (both platonic and romantic). No one has to be perfect in order to date, but one must at least be aware of issues and trying to get oneself in good working order. Doesn't mean you shouldn't date someone who's still a bit "messy" in that department...but for Dawg's sake, don't go marrying and/or breeding with them!
Re: Duh hides in the bathroom when he has to be a parent
February 02, 2020
Maybe being a duh makes you chronically constipated?

I suspect that a lot of these women are exaggerating the shit breaks. I tend to agree with most of the posts here, that even if duh does try to help, the moo will just yell at him and tell him he's doing it wrong.

I am SO glad this is not my life! Things may not always be perfect, but DAMN!
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