Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices

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paragon schnitzophonic
I wonder why feeding tubes aren’t an option. If they have such a sensory issue that they’ll starve rather than eat 99% of the food in existence and puke if they even take a bite, then they should have feeding tubes put in and they eat via nutritional shake poured into the tube. Better that than dealing with meltdowns or the fallout of the consequences of deficient nutrition.

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kittehpeoples
Why do "sex addicts" need to cheat? If they're addicted to sex, *and not just using addiction as an excuse to be serial cheaters*, why don't they just constantly crave sex with their partners? I only ever hear the term "sex addict" in conjunction with cheating. So are they addicted to sex, or to cheating? Because those are two very different things.

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bell_flower

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And I can't do anything about anything. I'm catholic so I can't have an abortion. We not (sic) supposed to get divorced. A priest told me I "wasn't qualified" to decide if my marriage should end. I can't talk to almost anyone because my husband doesn't want relationships with my family ruined (my mom watches the babies while we work). I can't talk to coworkers, I can't talk to anyone at church, or neighbors. Only three friends know, and only one knows about this baby. And my therapist too.

When I read the part about being Catholic so she "can't" have an abortion I laughed out loud. Trust me, PLENTY of religious people get abortions.

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He wasn't "cheating" within a month of their marriage, he never stopped seeing other women

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I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant. I start a new job on Monday. The job is much needed for my sanity. I did not tell them I was pregnant. I tried the honest route with other potential employers and it backfired. I’m starting to feel like an asshole because of the guilt of leaving them without help in a few short weeks. I just don’t know how to approach them and tell them I’m pregnant and would still like to come back. I’m just lost and confused. Just needed to vent, I guess.

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toraneko
This is why women of childbearing age will never be taken seriously by employers. Is this a firable offense?

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I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant. I start a new job on Monday. The job is much needed for my sanity. I did not tell them I was pregnant. I tried the honest route with other potential employers and it backfired. I’m starting to feel like an asshole because of the guilt of leaving them without help in a few short weeks. I just don’t know how to approach them and tell them I’m pregnant and would still like to come back. I’m just lost and confused. Just needed to vent, I guess.

https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/jzwsbv/pregnant_again_starting_a_new_job/

Predictably the comments are in full support of the piggo, not the employer.

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Mooooooooo
Edit: Thank you everyone for your kindness!!

I sorta wish that I would have actually done the post under my actual account now, lol but I was thinking someone would have found me because it's my gamer tag on PS4 and Xbox.

I just want to say that no - violence isn't always the answer. But, my husband shouldn't have to "make me earn", his respect in regards to cooking and entire meal and then arguing with me once I've asked him for help. He literally laid around allllll day like a fucking princess then proceeded to complain.

And further in the night after the Coyotes stole the turkey (LOL), he complained even more about being "too tired" because our DAUGHTER cried often. Too tired, is the key here, y'all. I'm really reconsidering my marriage at this point.

I wish everyone the best, and I hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving! (Still can't believe some coyotes stole that turkey last night though! Lolllll)

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For our first Thanksgiving, I stood on my feet cooking for my husband and I for five hours. We have a infant daughter who's not quite on solids yet.

She had a brand new outfit to wear for pictures for her first Thanksgiving. I asked husband to wash it for me, and to dry it. It sat in the washer alllll day. He made no effort to dry it or to get her dressed.

Husband never wants to put up food for leftovers. He leaves it out all night or expects me to do it. Then has the nerve to eat fast food all week then complain about being broke.

I asked him last night to slice up the turkey and to place it in the containers to finish off this weekend. One simple request. After five hours of cooking.

"I don't want to do that." I didn't ask you if you didn't want to. "I don't feel like it." I didn't ask you if you felt like it. "Well, just get rid of the turkey." This man argues with me daily about EVERYTHING.

I lost it. I spent $145 this week on groceries, for him to have Thanksgiving leftovers and other stuff to eat for dinner this week. I also purchased his "essentials" for his lunches he needs to pack for work. I had cut my hand trying to do it and really, really needed his help parting the leftover turkey. I'm Vegetarian, so the turkey was for him. We need to save money instead since we plan to have a home built. Not die from morbid obesity from eating fast food daily.

I took the turkey - pan and all - and LAUNCHED it in the air off our balcony

He was so shocked he stood there in awe. I'm at my wits end. I'm so tired of this SHIT week I honestly don't care about turkey, saving money, etc. anymore. I explained to him that going forward, I'll only be cooking dinner for myself and our daughter. He needs to figure out his dinner.

He proclaimed how much bullshit he believes that is, but I think it's even more bullshit that he has a CHOICE on whether he can help.me or not. Our daughter cried allllll day and he barely tended to her. Just hid in his bathroom on his phone 90% of the day. I'm done cooking only for him to not clean the kitchen or to package up food for lunch the next day.

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He sounds like a red piller/manosphere type, because he makes her "earn respect" from him. Why the hell would somebody marry and breed with somebody like this?

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I just got off my period and I’ve been horny for days. I can’t remember the last time we had sex. All I want is for him to take me to pound town. But noooooo.

This is the first month on our TTC journey for number two and he wants to optimize our chances of having a boy because I want to be done after two kids. Three years ago when we were trying for our daughter, my dumbass told him a cool fact that maybe we could try for a boy if we time it just right. Now he’s fucking obsessed to the point that even if I KNOW I’m gonna start my period the next damn day, he still refuses to raw dog it and kills the mood by putting on a condom. “We need to stick to the plan.”

Well, apparently the plan also includes him not having sex with me until I’m ovulating, which knowing my long ass 34 day cycles isn’t for another week. So now I’m just pissed at him because literally nothing I say will convince him to have sex with me tonight. He believes an internet article over me and my knowledge of my own body (im closely tracking my cycle and fertility signs). He’s also worried about lowering his sperm count, but he has zero reason to be.

He is so infuriating sometimes and I’m so damn horny. Ugh!!!!

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Peace
Husband never wants to put up food for leftovers. He leaves it out all night or expects me to do it. Then has the nerve to eat fast food all week then complain about being broke.

I asked him last night to slice up the turkey and to place it in the containers to finish off this weekend. One simple request. After five hours of cooking.

"I don't want to do that." I didn't ask you if you didn't want to. "I don't feel like it." I didn't ask you if you felt like it. "Well, just get rid of the turkey." This man argues with me daily about EVERYTHING.

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Cambion
Usually it's the Moos who pull the scheduled sex for babby crap, but this is the first time I've heard of a guy doing it. Apparently, Duh is convinced that scheduled sex will maximize their chances of producing a goldenpenis, which he desperately wants because they already have a girl and intend to stop at two kids, so it is super duper important that the second child be born with the correct genitals.

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My husband and I are both essential non-essential workers so our kids are still attending daycare right now. Today they told us she had an accident but potty training is coming along great. I had no clue they were potty training her and I feel kind of dumb. Obviously I could have done more on my end to assist her at home. I was kind of pushing it off because she’s in speech therapy and can only say a few words. She easily gets frustrated when she can’t communicate what she wants and I wasn’t ready to add potty training into the mix just yet. However, if she’s showing signs she is ready, then I’ll do it. I really like our daycare but sometimes there is a communication breakdown. A lot of it has to do with covid, but we also had an issue with one of the caregivers and she is often the one who does pick up/drop offs. I’m not complaining that someone else wants to potty train my child but I wish I knew what was going on. It’s a weird complaint, I know.

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My husband and I met on a video game. Almost every console we have I bought because I like video games. I'm all for gaming but gaming responsibly. My husband? He's a complete asshole that can't prioritize.

I bought a ps5 on black friday as our Christmas present because we normally buy one bigger gift for us instead of separate gifts for each other and we both wanted one. My husband has not put down demons souls. I can't talk to him, I can't interact with him and lord forbid the baby needs something while he's playing because he can't put down the controller to take care of her.

Tonight I was trying to talk to him about something and he could just not pay attention to me. This use to be a huge issue our for our entire 10 year relationship until about 3 months after our daughter was born and I laid into him so hard he didn't dare pull that shit any more. Now we've got the ps5 and its back to 10hrs a day, unable and unwilling to do anything but play and go to work.

So I gave up, grabbed his pillow and blanket, threw it on the couch and told him that if he couldn't give his wife 5 minutes then the ps5 was his new wife and that I hope it can cook, clean the house and keep him warm at night.

I thought we were past this. I thought he finally understood that a video game is not more important that what his wife has to say. It is not more important than making his daughter lunch. It is not more important than getting enough sleep to do well at work. He was up until 4am yesterday playing when he has to get up for work at 6. Our work place is furloughing people left and right (like me, currently) and we can not afford for both of us to be laid off.

I don't know what to do. I can't make him care. If he wanted to, he would. If he wanted me to be a priority, I would be. If he wanted his daughter to be a priority, she would be.

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I am distraught. I’m at a loss. At this point I just really need to vent and this is going to be long. I’m a single mom to a 3 year old. My kids dad is a dead beat and not very involved, I was very relieved to finally get out of that relationship because it was filled with DV and was just toxic. Last year I met someone and fell in love. He helps me with my kiddo in ways his own father never has. We’re pretty much living together. We had talks of planning to have our own in 2 years or so. Last month we had a miscarriage. He didn’t handle it well meaning he was scared and completely disregarded me and wasn’t supportive. If I didn’t miscarry, he was mentioning abortion. We got into an argument 2 weeks ago.

During the argument he came out and said that the miscarriage freaked him out and he realized he’s not ready to be a dad. He probably won’t be ready until he’s 40. I told him the miscarriage made me realize that if I had to make a choice between keeping the baby and abortion, I don’t think I could do abortion. I really don’t. I don’t think I can mentally handle it. He admitted to being overwhelmed with my kiddo so we agreed to spend less time together and see what happens. Then we got exposed to COVID and have been quarantining. On Monday I realized I still hadn’t had my period so I took a pregnancy test. It was positive. I called my doctor and went in for blood work. They confirmed it. I have more blood work today. But I told my boyfriend. I was scared to but I told him. And he left me. He dumped me for being pregnant. He blamed me for getting pregnant. He asked me how I could let this happen. I’m scared.

I’m at a loss of what to do or who to turn to. I don’t have any family support. My mom passed away and I just wanna run home to her. It’s just my kiddo and I which is why this man felt like such a breath of fresh air when he treated us with so much love. I feel so blindsided. Never in a million years did I expect him to do this. I feel so hurt and abandoned. I’m scared of abortion. And I’m scared of being a single mom with 2 kids with absent fathers. I don’t know what to do or where to turn. All of my friends don’t have kids and the ones I’ve opened up to keep pushing abortion and while it might be what’s best, I really don’t know if I can handle it. I look at my son and I know that’s what I’m creating. I already love my little creation. This whole ordeal is tearing me apart.

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Peace
This vegetarian moo is pissed because her meal ticket husband refused to help her clean the Thanksgiving mess, put away the leftovers and doesn't help with their baby. So what does she do? She launches the turkey and roasting pan out the apartment window over the balcony. At least the coyotes got a good meal.

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Moo
He blamed me for getting pregnant. He asked me how I could let this happen.

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I already love my little creation.

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Moo
I’m a 22 year old woman with three kids. I had my first son when I was 18. Soon after I had my daughter when I was 20 years old, and I just had my third child(my second son) 3 months ago. So here’s my problem: My boyfriend doesn’t help with anything anymore. When I first had our oldest son he used to be very involved such as, changing his diapers, feeding him, getting up in the middle of the night, etc. But when I had my daughter things went downhill... He never helped me anymore with them anymore, he never did anything he used to. There’s times where his mom would have to come over and help with them. One day I confronted him and about it and he apologized saying, “Babe, I’m sorry! I promise I’ll be more involved.” And I believed him. Well guess what? He still hasn’t helped out at all. And it’s starting to get worse. He now works extra hours at his job so he isn’t home that often. 3 months ago I had my third child and first of all, his reaction when I told him I was pregnant was disappointing. What should I do? I’m really stressed out with my oldest son starting school this year, my daughter going through her “terrible twos” phase and my youngest son still wakes up in the middle of the night. Should I talk to him about again? Should I just end the relationship? Or should I just leave it the way it is and hope things get better?

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That’s what my four year old said to me today, and it just about broke me. Parenting had been a nonstop grind since he was born and I guess the jig is up. I do love him, of course — but I can no longer kid myself about whether he can sense how hard it is for me to be a mother.

I told him that I always love him, even if I’m grumpy or frustrated, that my love is like the blue of the sky — always there, even when there are clouds.

But his little face when he said it...

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bell_flower
So glad my life is not constant fakery. If I am going to fake something, like I loved being at my job or helping people, I'd better be paid for it. In cash, not sticky kisses and Kodak moments.

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freya
I still wonder why so many modern mahms make their brats do little to no chores.