Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 21, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
Here's another one who had to breed with her divorced husband.
Gee, I wonder why he was divorced?
Grabbing it before it's gone.
"husband" can't believe his wife made him watch his sick child for a couple of hours
See the update. She's probably going to have more brats with this loser.
Gee, I wonder why he was divorced?
Grabbing it before it's gone.
"husband" can't believe his wife made him watch his sick child for a couple of hours
See the update. She's probably going to have more brats with this loser.
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I really want an objective opinion so I’m going to try to be as fact base as possible. I have a six month old baby, and two step kids. I went back to work about three months ago. I haven’t been to a work event in seven months. I was invited to a dinner with a senior level executive at my company tonight. I asked my husband about it a week ago to see if it was OK with him if I went and we were all covered for the kids. he confirmed we were. My son is in daycare and has been teething so he’s had a perpetual cold for the last six weeks as well as generally uncomfortable from the teething.
Today I picked him up from daycare and brought him home. He was a little fussy and I was waiting it out to give him his extra dose of Tylenol. around five I had to get myself ready to go at which point he was crying, but my husband was bouncing him in his room. I picked my head in and said sorry but I’ve gotta leave now and off. I went. Starting 10 minutes after I left the house I started getting text messages from my husband about how he couldn’t believe that I left a “sick baby”. I called him and offered to turn around as he continued on his guilt trip, saying he didn’t know how important this meeting was, but unless it was very important if it were him, he wouldn’t go. I hung up and texted him that I was turning around and would be home in 25 minutes parentheses rush-hour traffic going that direction and parentheses, he told me that he and the baby would already be gone by then dropping my stepdaughter off at soccer, so I turned around again and headed to my dinner event. He has continued to send me text messages about how he is never doing this again and next time I should drop the baby off at my dad’s house if I have somewhere to be.he even sent me a voice note of the baby crying. I understand that the baby is being a pill and it’s highly frustrating. With that said it’s not like I’m going out for drinks with girlfriends, this is 100% work related. Am I the asshole?
UPDATE: Ok- TLDR, he was just having a rough evening with a fussy baby and was frustrated and took it out on me, which is not fair but we’re all human.
When I got home from dinner, he was waiting up for me and what chatted for about half an hour about how it went. He didn’t apologize, but it was clear he had his tail between his legs. I’ll dig in more this AM, but this is definitely not a pattern, I know his ex-wife quite well and while there are certainly things that she doesn’t like about him (hence why they are divorced lol) her and the rest of her family have nothing but great things to say about him as a father.
I know the comment about taking him to my dad’s set a lot of people off so to give more detail- we are very lucky to have an awesome support system around us. We both have the parents who are always offering to come help, and on a night when there was stuff going on with the “big kids” in retrospect would have been a good time to ask for some of that help that they are excited to give.
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OK this blew up real quick while I was at dinner, so I’ll try to answer some questions and provide some more context.
yes, to confirm, this is our baby together
the dinner was planned because a senior executive was in town (who happens to be a woman by the way) but there were 10 people there in total
this is actually not why his ex wife and him broke up- when his kids were younger he did most of the childcare because she traveled for work
this type of behavior is very unusual for him, which is why I was so thrown off and upset. For example, last month he surprised my stepdaughter and I with a two night girls trip and had the baby by himself with 0 complaints
sorry for the awful original formatting/grammar/etc, I was using voice to chat lol.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 23, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
From the IRHC page on Facebooger:
Yes I do feel sorry for this woman but let's be honest: she lied to herself and she's just another dumb broad who had a kid to keep a man. Unfortunately for her, it had disastrous results, but making the choice to have a kid includes the possibility of severe genetic defects. Someone is going to be the .1%, yanno? And like so many of these dumbasses, she got knocked up again.
Some of the comments are also infuriating, like this one from a woman who is too disabled to work but is whining how 'family' and 'society' aren't helping take care of her child. She even writes people will come play with her child, but they don't offer to cook and clean? WTH? Entitled much?
She probably has a made-up disability because she admits she doesn't qualify for disability, but she still cannot work. If you are too disabled to work, how/why would you think having a 24/7 obligation is a good idea?
So many comments from women who had kids because "patriarchy." In the current environment you may have a birth control failure and be stuck with it. I get it. But agreeing to marry a guy and fuck without birth control because HE wants a kid (unless someone is holding a gun to your head) is not "patriarchy." Too many of these women just give up. Yes, you may lose Prince Charming but having an intact spine beats having a kid you don't wany any day!
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I'm the idiot who thought she couldn't have children, and was 1000% okay with that. More than okay - it suited me just fine. I never wanted children, never felt that "urge" to make a family. Even as a kid, I detested dolls, and when playing with my sister, I always found a reason or excuse to get rid of the Barbie characters and just play with the toy animals. After a few years in an abusive marriage (followed by divorce) and some uh, education in the aspects of the dynamics between men and women in the romantic sense, (there was some reckless and careless behavior in there too) I figured I was safely barren.
When I met my (now) husband, I was certain I'd found the missing piece in my life and that together we had everything we needed. Well, he wanted to be a dad. Secure in my belief that I wasn't able to conceive, I told him he could try, but, not to get his hopes up. Biggest mistake I've ever made. I was pretty much pregnant immediately.
I know, every woman who Can't would LOVE to be so "blessed." I figured I'd take care of the kid until school age, and then mostly get my life back. We'll, that didn't happen. Lucky me *sarcasm implied* my husband and I are both carriers of an extremely rare genetic mutation and deletion. As in, one has a mutation and the other has the deletion. Those two things combined to create a child that Looks pretty "normal", but is just a living rag doll. Absolutely handicapped in every way you can imagine. The idea of getting my life back was a pipe dream. To add insult to injury, I became pregnant again 2yrs later - this time with a "normal" child.
I tried to find comfort in having a child who could walk, eat food, talk, and reciprocate attention/affection, but honestly, the existence of this kid is so draining on all fronts. I'm constantly irritated by the whining, entitlement, questions, NOISE, MESS, CHAOS. Additionally, the special needs kid doesn't eat, requires a special homemade blend to be fed through a tube, doesn't sleep very well, and - due to being thoroughly incapacitated over the last decade - has taken a tremendous physical toll on my body. Doctors say to expect an abbreviated lifespan, and I honestly hope they're right. This is hell on earth and I regret that I didn't know I could get other help or push for sterilization when my first child was born.
The thing I hate most is how I was always told "You're too young for a procedure like that." And "You'll regret it later." Yeah, I sure do regret it!! Sterilization should be an option without contest for people who know they don't want kids. If you change your mind, there are procedures to undo it - and there's Always adoption!! But once you have a kid, you can't "un-have" it. You're in a life sentence, and no one cares. They certainly don't want to hear how unhappy you are. After all, "Children are a Blessing!"
Yes I do feel sorry for this woman but let's be honest: she lied to herself and she's just another dumb broad who had a kid to keep a man. Unfortunately for her, it had disastrous results, but making the choice to have a kid includes the possibility of severe genetic defects. Someone is going to be the .1%, yanno? And like so many of these dumbasses, she got knocked up again.
Some of the comments are also infuriating, like this one from a woman who is too disabled to work but is whining how 'family' and 'society' aren't helping take care of her child. She even writes people will come play with her child, but they don't offer to cook and clean? WTH? Entitled much?
She probably has a made-up disability because she admits she doesn't qualify for disability, but she still cannot work. If you are too disabled to work, how/why would you think having a 24/7 obligation is a good idea?
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i bet society and relatives also aren't helping much. I have only one child but I'm disabled and we see relatives maybe once per month. They know about my health issues but never offer to help with things I can't do by myself. They're happy to see the kid and play for a few hours but never ask me if I need help cooking or cleaning. And my disability is not recognized as something I could qualify for some assistance for, but I still can't work. My husband works 2 jobs to compensate and also has to do almost everything in the house and the kid barely sees him. I don't regret having her, she's perfect in my eyes, but I'm angry at society and people who don't treat us as human beings with basic rights. No wonder people don't want to have children anymore if they have to do everything alone and be shamed for it.
So many comments from women who had kids because "patriarchy." In the current environment you may have a birth control failure and be stuck with it. I get it. But agreeing to marry a guy and fuck without birth control because HE wants a kid (unless someone is holding a gun to your head) is not "patriarchy." Too many of these women just give up. Yes, you may lose Prince Charming but having an intact spine beats having a kid you don't wany any day!
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 24, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
From the Marriage R. This is a long and dragged-out text fight where the moo has gone nuclear and is threatening everything but personal harm because she has to be alone with the brats for two days in a row. The texts are very unhinged and make me wonder if something else is going on or if she always loses it when she has to do more than expected with her brats. People are saying she has PMDD or PMS. I'm smelling the stench of regret.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/1gxp6im/feeling_lost/
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Duh
My wife and I have been discussing moving back to my home state to be nearer to family. We just had a job opportunity come up for me and we decided a week ago to pursue it. They are willing to be flexible with start times so we have time to sell our house and move but they want to fly me up and have me spend a day at their facility to make sure it is a good match first. Well today we had to figure out when to make this visit happen and there was only one weekend that worked for everyone’s schedules. It is short notice and they wanted me to fly up Sunday spend the day Monday and fly back. My wife was upset because she didn’t want to do bedtime alone with our 2 kids 2 days in a row.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/1gxp6im/feeling_lost/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 24, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
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i bet society and relatives also aren't helping much. I have only one child but I'm disabled and we see relatives maybe once per month. They know about my health issues but never offer to help with things I can't do by myself. They're happy to see the kid and play for a few hours but never ask me if I need help cooking or cleaning. And my disability is not recognized as something I could qualify for some assistance for, but I still can't work. My husband works 2 jobs to compensate and also has to do almost everything in the house and the kid barely sees him. I don't regret having her, she's perfect in my eyes, but I'm angry at society and people who don't treat us as human beings with basic rights. No wonder people don't want to have children anymore if they have to do everything alone and be shamed for it.
Her husband is working two jobs and has to do everything around the house when he is home. All she does is babysit and she is angry at society and relatives because she decided to sluice?
Exactly what basic rights does she think she is entitled to? Does she expect to lounge around at home not doing jack shit while the taxpayers fund free daycare for her kid? I bet that is exactly what she expects. She already stated she expects her relatives to cook and clean for her.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 28, 2024 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,179 |
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I'm the idiot who thought she couldn't have children, and was 1000% okay with that. More than okay - it suited me just fine.
Unless there is a complete lack of the required organs to reproduce and medical evidence proving it, NEVER assume you cannot get pregnant or impregnate someone. This goes for men and women alike. Just because you happened to get lucky and didn't wind up with a child after raw dogging does NOT mean you are magically protected from pregnasty. This is how a lot of women wind up knocked up. Some moron in a white coat suggests she will never get pregnant, or she lucks out and doesn't get up the duff after barebacking a couple times, so she assumes she's infertile and doesn't have to be careful.
And look what fucking happened to that woman who decided she was immune to pregnancy. She managed to pick someone with the exact same rare genetic mutation she has, and together, they created a complete potato of a child who, from the sounds of it, will never function properly and will always be dependent. Then because she didn't learn her lesson, got pigged up again two years later. Fucking idiot.
One of my acquaintances is kinda like this. Never uses a condom, never pulls out, and to his knowledge, has never gotten anyone pregnant. I'm just waiting for the whining when his luck runs out someday.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 02, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
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Cambion
Some moron in a white coat suggests she will never get pregnant, or she lucks out and doesn't get up the duff after barebacking a couple times, so she assumes she's infertile and doesn't have to be careful.
I've heard some whoopers from the morons in white coats. Anyone who is over 25 and trusts them is a moron too.
It doesn't help that the vast majority of people aren't able to distinguish between infertile and sterile. I'd bet they're the same mombies and undads who don't understand how those pesky birth control percentage risks of failure compute and decide to raw dog it instead.
I recall being in my 20's and telling both men and women to not trust it when their SO says they're unable to have kids unless they see actual certified proof that they are permanently sterile.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 03, 2024 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,179 |
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It doesn't help that the vast majority of people aren't able to distinguish between infertile and sterile
That's very true too. Sterile means you cannot reproduce, period. Infertile means conceiving/impregnating is more difficult, but not impossible. I think the medical definition of infertility is when someone goes bareback for at least a year in an effort to reproduce on purpose, but fails.
Sometimes I'm astounded that it's so easy for pregnancy to occur. Because so many things have to line up. I believe sperm can survive in the woman's body for up to a week, and the egg stops by for like 24 hours before disappearing. Things like cervical mucous thickness, the number of sperm and the way the tails on the sperm function can impair the chances of conception. And I learned recently that the ovaries are not connected to the uterus either. Apparently when eggs release, they kind of "jump" to the fallopian tube, where they are "caught" by these little things called fimbriae and transported to the uterus to await fertilization. Sometimes they don't make the jump.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 04, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
From the "waiting to wed" forum at Reddit.
She has many more problems than waiting to wed. How does one become accidentally pregnant TWICE? And now she's completely dependent on him financially but she's still delusional enough to think she's going to find another man to marry her? And she's just full of excuses why she cannot leave. She'll likely have another kid or two, I'm thinking. Because insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.
Note the age difference. I'm thinking they got together when she was barely legal.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Waiting_To_Wed/comments/1h54pny/losing_respect_for_myself_and_have_fallen_into/
She has many more problems than waiting to wed. How does one become accidentally pregnant TWICE? And now she's completely dependent on him financially but she's still delusional enough to think she's going to find another man to marry her? And she's just full of excuses why she cannot leave. She'll likely have another kid or two, I'm thinking. Because insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.
Note the age difference. I'm thinking they got together when she was barely legal.
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Delusional
This is taking a lot for me to say something, so please bear with me as this will probably end up being extremely long.
Boyfriend and I have been together for almost six years. He is in early 30s and I am in my mid 20s. We had a lot of fun together in the beginning, and I always knew I wanted to be married to him. I expressed to him in the beginning of the relationship how I’d like to be married someday (you know, early in relationships where you talk about goals and values type of discussion). It never really came up after that because I guess I assumed I wouldn’t need to (ha…).
Fast forward a few years, I’m very close with his family; I love them, they love me. Family vacations, know about family “drama”, family history, everything about them, around for babies being born, weddings, whole nine yards. They’re amazing, better than my own family! Around this time period I randomly brought up marriage again, but of course we had recently had an argument (unrelated) and he told me maybe once we work on our relationship to where we aren’t arguing a lot. Ok.
Another three years goes by and nothing. Nowhere’s the part where I know I’m a total effing idiot. We end up having a baby. This is hard to admit, but I wasn’t 100% on board because of the fact we weren’t married. He assured me everything will “work out” and what not (my hang up was marriage (and not being married) and we didn’t have a ton of money saved up. Fast forward two more years and I end up pregnant AGAIN. This time I was feeling confident and had honestly given up on marriage ideas while the first baby was still little. After being deep in pregnancy round two, I started having really bad anxiety about marriage and the relationship itself.
Baby is born, all is well (well, you know what I mean…). Still nothing has changed. It bothered me a lot, but not to the point where I’m at now. A few more months go by, and a close family member and their partner get engaged. This sends me into a severe mental spiral that has truthfully only gotten worse. It was BEYOND devastating to me. It’s a member so close that it would kind of be wrong to get engaged/married at essentially the same exact time. Part of my issue was everybody knew besides me. I figured my boyfriend knew and purposely didn’t tell me (he’s adamant he didn’t but.. not sure I believe it).
We’ve since had multiple discussions and they ALWAYS end up in huge arguments. I need to do this, I need to do that, blah blah blah. He can’t afford it. I’ve been given so many different reasons.
My issue is now not have I only had two kids with him, I feel like even in the rare event we would get married, nothing would change. We don’t cuddle, we don’t sleep in the same bed (I co sleep with my second), he just isn’t a romantic/loving person and I don’t like that he isn’t.
I financially can’t afford to leave even if I wanted. My family are all multiple states away, and with kids involved… I can’t just pack up and leave. I love my boyfriend a lot but I feel like it’ll never happen at this point. I feel robbed of the experience of a happy engagement; people already kind of act like we’re married. It wouldn’t be a shock if we did and I guess I wish it could be how I see other engagements.
I feel like a complete failure at life and like I’ve destroyed my life (and now my children’s lives). I want to be married so bad and feel desperate for it; I’m losing respect for myself staying, and again, what would change after marriage? Nothing. I’m not currently working a PAID job, I’m a stay at home parent. We don’t share accounts but I have access for groceries and shopping and what not. The house is not in my name.
I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to do here. All I’ve ever wanted was to get married and do things “the right way”, because my own mother never did and I firmly believe it has ruined her life. Now I’m in the same position. I know I’m a complete idiot for going through with the pregnancies prior to an engagement, but I guess I felt hopeful.
EDIT: Wow you guys, I am truly amazed at the outpouring of support. I cannot believe I was given this level of support and advice, I didn’t think I’d get more than a “you’re a total idiot and stupid young woman.” comment as those are some of the comments I’ve been given get heavily religious, older individuals in my family. I have read each and every response! I will summon up the energy to respond either later tonight or tomorrow; the responses have elicited a lot of emotions because I think I knew the answers I’d get, but wasn’t 100% sure I was ready to hear that who I thought (still sometimes think) is the love of my life and father of my children, is a piece of fucking shit.
I know what I need to do now. I still hope that in the future, I can be married to a partner who loves me and cares about me. I left certain things out of the post that might change some people’s opinions. I chose not to, because I wanted it to be viewed from a “waiting to be wed” POV, not basic human needs views. Here I go. I am uninsured (health/dental insurance) because I’m not working, but living with him in “our” (legally his) house, affects my ability to apply for Medicaid because they go off of HOUSEHOLD income. I figured once people heard this aspect, they’d immediately say ok yep time to leave. Not that simple. I sold MY previous car (which was run down, worth more sold than owned which I did thankfully get a good amount for back in 2020 before shit hit the fan with vehicles), and the new car “I” drive, is not legally mine (“new” car was given to us by a family member). I can’t just leave the state with our two children, with NOT my vehicle (if that makes sense). One child is in daycare, I guess I should’ve included that originally but felt it wasn’t necessary for the “marriage” aspect of the post. So one NOW is, but for awhile, wasn’t. So I am SAHM to one child, the other is in daycare.
I just want to say every single response, I have felt a wave of emotions. Both happy and sad, excited and defeated, but what I feel MOST, is that my life, is not fucking over. It has felt over for months now. Mental health has been beyond terrible, to the point where I’m drowning out my sorrows in wine frequently, which is unlike me. I want to thank you ALL for taking the time to write out responses, to a complete STRANGER. WOW. I hated being a woman (because of him), but I think I’ll take womanhood over manhood.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Waiting_To_Wed/comments/1h54pny/losing_respect_for_myself_and_have_fallen_into/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 10, 2024 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,179 |
That woman sounds like she is in love with the idea of being married, and she doesn't particularly care who to. That's exactly how my ex was - didn't give a single shit if he was compatible with someone or not, just wanted a female creature named Wife. He went so far as to start proposing to women on the first date and skipping that whole getting to know them thing, and it's why he was engaged four separate times in the same year. Which also means four women said yes, so I question their mental health.
But the woman in question obviously has not gotten the hint that the guy isn't interested in being a husband, and from the sounds of it, isn't terribly interested in her either if they don't act romantic with one another. I suppose there could be reasons for not sleeping in the same bed like she's a light sleeper and he snores like a chainsaw, but it sounds like he's probably sticking with her because it's cheaper than paying child support and they are more like roommates than partners now. Her name isn't on the house, she has no job or car, so she's stuck and financially dependent on this guy. Him not putting a ring on it is the least of her worries.
Could be he's been married in the past and had an ugly divorce too and he doesn't want to go through that shit again. I know plenty of people who are in long-term relationships without being married because of that exact reason. Or who knows, maybe he was married and was never officially legally divorced and that's why he won't marry the author. Who knows.
But the woman in question obviously has not gotten the hint that the guy isn't interested in being a husband, and from the sounds of it, isn't terribly interested in her either if they don't act romantic with one another. I suppose there could be reasons for not sleeping in the same bed like she's a light sleeper and he snores like a chainsaw, but it sounds like he's probably sticking with her because it's cheaper than paying child support and they are more like roommates than partners now. Her name isn't on the house, she has no job or car, so she's stuck and financially dependent on this guy. Him not putting a ring on it is the least of her worries.
Could be he's been married in the past and had an ugly divorce too and he doesn't want to go through that shit again. I know plenty of people who are in long-term relationships without being married because of that exact reason. Or who knows, maybe he was married and was never officially legally divorced and that's why he won't marry the author. Who knows.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 13, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
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Cambion
That's very true too. Sterile means you cannot reproduce, period. Infertile means conceiving/impregnating is more difficult, but not impossible. I think the medical definition of infertility is when someone goes bareback for at least a year in an effort to reproduce on purpose, but fails.
Sometimes I'm astounded that it's so easy for pregnancy to occur. Because so many things have to line up. I believe sperm can survive in the woman's body for up to a week, and the egg stops by for like 24 hours before disappearing. Things like cervical mucous thickness, the number of sperm and the way the tails on the sperm function can impair the chances of conception. And I learned recently that the ovaries are not connected to the uterus either. Apparently when eggs release, they kind of "jump" to the fallopian tube, where they are "caught" by these little things called fimbriae and transported to the uterus to await fertilization. Sometimes they don't make the jump.
At this point with all these crazy happenings and mutant sperm that can live in the woman's body for up to a week I'd recommend several forms of birth control to anyone who hasn't been sterilized. Thes weird happenings are what nightmares are made of for the childfree. Hell, I've known a sterilized woman who still wound up inpig.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 13, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
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From the "waiting to wed" forum at Reddit.
She has many more problems than waiting to wed. How does one become accidentally pregnant TWICE? And now she's completely dependent on him financially but she's still delusional enough to think she's going to find another man to marry her? And she's just full of excuses why she cannot leave. She'll likely have another kid or two, I'm thinking. Because insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results.
Note the age difference. I'm thinking they got together when she was barely legal.
This bint is actually convinced marriage will solve all her problems but the duh knows better. Her having one kid was bad enough but two has pretty much screwed her over. She isn't getting along with the duh and doesn't really have any options either. Duh holds all the cards.
Baby as bargaining chip for marriage only works if the father buys into the bullshit and feels obligated to stick around. That's often-deluded thinking in this day and age. Most other men aren't going to want to raise another man's baby for any reason but they may have sex and string along a woman, even if she has kids.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 13, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
This one will probably be posting in a couple of years with a kid or two.
This one is looking for "support" because her mean parunts don't want to meet her alcoholic boyfriend's parents.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/comments/1hdj15k/parents_want_to_uninvite_my_boyfriends_parents_to/
This one is looking for "support" because her mean parunts don't want to meet her alcoholic boyfriend's parents.
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I’m really upset because this is when our parents were going to meet for the first time. I’m 28F he’s 35M. I’ve been dating my alcoholic boyfriend for 1 year and 7 months and his parents have taken me to so many dinners, and have only ever been so nice to me. I pretty much have lived at their house the whole time. My parents don’t allow boyfriends to sleep over even though I’m 28F. I’m getting my own place in a few months. We’ve been fighting and I told my mom about how bad the alcoholism is and how unwilling my boyfriend is to quit and now she’s refusing the have his parents at our dinner where they were finally going to meet!
Also parents just saw my sister have to leave her alcoholic husband with two kids and they are completely done with alcoholics. They despise alcoholics plenty.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/comments/1hdj15k/parents_want_to_uninvite_my_boyfriends_parents_to/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 15, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
Married to a drunk. Has six kids with him. Has been dealing with this for years. Is a SAHM of course.
She says he's delusional, but I'd take a pretty hefty bet that her delusions have contributed to this situation as well.
Reddit is so depressing. I mean, it's 2024 and so many of these broads are still buying in to the Trad Wife bullshit.
So many of these women who are in bad situations have no money, no access to money, don't even know how much money their husbands make, no way to earn money.
It's rarely a good idea to be economically dependent on another person. It's depressing to think of the things women fought for like: credit in your own name, the right to work outside the home, birth control, etc. only to watch these broads enslave themselves to kinder, kuchen, kirche.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/comments/1hev6kb/my_husband_lost_his_job_and_is_delusional/
She says he's delusional, but I'd take a pretty hefty bet that her delusions have contributed to this situation as well.
Reddit is so depressing. I mean, it's 2024 and so many of these broads are still buying in to the Trad Wife bullshit.
So many of these women who are in bad situations have no money, no access to money, don't even know how much money their husbands make, no way to earn money.
It's rarely a good idea to be economically dependent on another person. It's depressing to think of the things women fought for like: credit in your own name, the right to work outside the home, birth control, etc. only to watch these broads enslave themselves to kinder, kuchen, kirche.
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Last week, my husband lost his job due to drinking before work, during work and after work. To add, he also drove a company vehicle. Until this week, I had been a SAHM. So, him losing his job was devastating. What also sucks is that we are a one car family. We have 6 kids. I have to take and pick up kiddos from school each day (we are not in a bus route or in the assigned school zone so them hopping on a bus is impossible) No big deal, I don't mind being a taxi driver to my children, that's part of my job as a SAHM. However, my husband causing us to lose the FREE transportation and a FREE gas card for him to get to work is so unbelievablely frustrating. Now all the kids and I have to get up extra early, pack into the van and take my husband to his new job before taking the kids to school. They are in the car for 3 hours every morning!!!! An infant, a toddler, 4 school age kids and myself. Stuck in a damn car. Everyday. For 3 hours. I'm so over it!!! But here's the real kicker!! My husband thinks his job loss from his previous company is .......get this...... A BLESSING!? Lololol A blessing!?! The free vehicle? The free gas card? The monthly parties? All the perks. Not two mention, the ladies who I've befriended there. In his deluded mind, the job he just started pays $2 more an hour. Woohoooo. Wow. Awesome. Such a blessing!! "This was meant to be. Can't you see the silver lining?" He says. Please, guys, I have got to break free of this man. I've been dealing with this shit for so many years. All the lies, constantly feeling afraid, zero trust, the loneliness, I'm done. What should my next step be beside Al Anon meetings? Thanks so much my friends.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/comments/1hev6kb/my_husband_lost_his_job_and_is_delusional/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 15, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
Another favorite: let's breed when we have genetic disorders, shall we?
I follow a Facebook Ehlers-Danlos page because I have the condition.
People who have this condition post about their kidS and all their problems, like joints popping out, sublaxing, multiple surgeries. Not long ago some Moo was writing how "heartbroken" she was to see her kid in pain. And yet, she knew she had the disorder and chose to breed anyway.
Look at this Moo WannaBe:
**asterisks mine: Does this woman not get that having a kid is exhausting? How can she raise a child?
Despite being gaslit by doctors for decades, and being told there was nothing wrong with me, I pursued sterilization hard for years. Doctors mocked me when I said I didn't want to have kids because of the physical issues I was having. (It's not normal to have spinal stenosis in your 30's, or a collapsing spine.)
It's vindication for me to know that EDS is genetic and I didn't pass it on. But these Moos are too selfish to make the same decision or to adopt.
I lost the quote, but the above quoted WannaMoo is also doing IVF. She's on her third try.
Make it make sense.
I follow a Facebook Ehlers-Danlos page because I have the condition.
People who have this condition post about their kidS and all their problems, like joints popping out, sublaxing, multiple surgeries. Not long ago some Moo was writing how "heartbroken" she was to see her kid in pain. And yet, she knew she had the disorder and chose to breed anyway.
Look at this Moo WannaBe:
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I can have a “normal” life (despite having some chronic pain and fatigue but that’s bearably except some specific times**).
If my kids inherit it, will they have the same symptoms or could it be worse than me? I really wish to have kids but I don’t want them to have a miserable life
**asterisks mine: Does this woman not get that having a kid is exhausting? How can she raise a child?
Despite being gaslit by doctors for decades, and being told there was nothing wrong with me, I pursued sterilization hard for years. Doctors mocked me when I said I didn't want to have kids because of the physical issues I was having. (It's not normal to have spinal stenosis in your 30's, or a collapsing spine.)
It's vindication for me to know that EDS is genetic and I didn't pass it on. But these Moos are too selfish to make the same decision or to adopt.
I lost the quote, but the above quoted WannaMoo is also doing IVF. She's on her third try.
Make it make sense.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 16, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
This dude admits in the comments that they did not use birth control. They decided to trust Sky Daddy and raw dog it because "there are so many people who cannot have kids at all" and if doG gave them a child, they would be happy.
They've been together 10 months and he's 23 and his GF is 21. She's due in January or February.
The title is: I may be moving too fast but why wait if you know you'll be married someday right?
He's getting roasted in the comments and will likely take it down soon.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Waiting_To_Wed/comments/1hdpyfv/comment/m2cgd3n/?context=3
They've been together 10 months and he's 23 and his GF is 21. She's due in January or February.
The title is: I may be moving too fast but why wait if you know you'll be married someday right?
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Im a 23M my lady is 21 and pregnant, I'll keep this simple. Its only been 10 months but there's been 0 issues, no negatives, we both compromise, come to understandings, I love to work non stop to support her and get ready for our baby. Usually with past girls I'm argued with and given silent treatment over yawning or if it's too cold out or some nonsense but not with this lady. We both make it clear we want forever and all of it.
I do rush things in my life, I like to be speedy, why wait years to marry this women when I love her now? My hobby is making her life better. So my question is should I wait to propose? Do I slow down? Wait until our baby is here and settled then do it? Usually my relationships start out the greatest and 1 month in the girls talking about babies and marriage and calling me husband but then they turn sour, but this time it hasn't turned sour not one time. Maybe its an extended honeymoon phase lol there's always a maybe at the end. I can't think of a reason not to propose only reasons I want to.
I'm sure there's people here married for decades that could tell me useful advice.
He's getting roasted in the comments and will likely take it down soon.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Waiting_To_Wed/comments/1hdpyfv/comment/m2cgd3n/?context=3
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 16, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
This one will probably be posting in a couple of years with a kid or two.
This one is looking for "support" because her mean parunts don't want to meet her alcoholic boyfriend's parents.
This was her response to others trying to talk some sense into her. BTW she's 28.
Aaaaaand the post has been deleted, guess reality is too much for some people.
This one is looking for "support" because her mean parunts don't want to meet her alcoholic boyfriend's parents.
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I know this partners probably not the one unless he gets serious help but I feel like I’m running out of time to meet somebody.
This was her response to others trying to talk some sense into her. BTW she's 28.
Aaaaaand the post has been deleted, guess reality is too much for some people.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 16, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
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bell_flower
Married to a drunk. Has six kids with him. Has been dealing with this for years. Is a SAHM of course.
She says he's delusional, but I'd take a pretty hefty bet that her delusions have contributed to this situation as well.
Reddit is so depressing. I mean, it's 2024 and so many of these broads are still buying in to the Trad Wife bullshit.
So many of these women who are in bad situations have no money, no access to money, don't even know how much money their husbands make, no way to earn money.
She claims to have money and be "working on it" and also deleted her post. So most likely she'll end up working and being the primary parent while her husband keeps getting fired for drinking. I don't hold out much hope for her since she had 6 freaking kids with this bozo. And the math ain't mathing for two jobs and three plus hours a day chauffeuring unless she is into the MLM bullshit.
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dumb bint
I have a college education and WAS very well established in my career. It all came to a stop when our last baby was born and I wanted to stay home, and also childcare is crazy expensive. I have started two jobs and now make more than my husband. So, the wheels are turning.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 16, 2024 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,808 |
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bell_flower
This dude admits in the comments that they did not use birth control. They decided to trust Sky Daddy and raw dog it because "there are so many people who cannot have kids at all" and if doG gave them a child, they would be happy.
They've been together 10 months and he's 23 and his GF is 21 and they have known each other 10 months.
The title is: I may be moving too fast but why wait if you know you'll be married someday right?
Screw reality, all this guy cares about is deciding when to propose-now or later! It has been a whole 10 months since they started raw dogging.
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clueless soon to be duh
If you knew how to read you'd see my post isn't about me asking about pregnancy or having a baby this young. We're both utterly happy we are both capable of having children and plan on having more and more and more. Re read the post
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 18, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
Copying this one before it gets yanked because the some of the comments are getting a bit contentious. (Not enough, however. Many people are cheering this bint on and you can never have enough baybees, yanno?)
Moo has a one year old at age at 41 and they are trying for another and she's asking Reddit if she should have another one because: 1: she's already noticing she's one of the older moms at playgroup*** 2. energy levels and 3. Bonus: her "significant other" doesn't help but she doesn't want to make the decision based on that.
I need to digress and discuss #1 for a second. I remember being in the girls-only dorm my freshman year of college. There was a vapid twit who lived across from me who was 18 or 19 and already hungry for da baybees. I remember her saying she had to have a kid before she was 25 because "I don't want to be one of those older mothers when I drop my kid off at preschool." (And this was the 80's when being an older Moo wasn't a thing, can you imagine?)
I remember being dumbfounded and thinking, are there really womben who think like this? No mention of finding the right guy or thought of sentencing something to this place called Earth...they are seriously thinking of what they will look like to other hypothetical Moos in their fantasy Moo world?
Sadly, this wasn't the last time I've heard that and it seems pretty common.
Back to topic, Moo has a plan for dilemma #3. Her mom lives next door and she's just going to dump the kids on mom, her brother or her 10 year old half sister, while the dad gets to skate. Disgusting.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver60/comments/1hgwnz2/having_a_baby_at_42/
Moo has a one year old at age at 41 and they are trying for another and she's asking Reddit if she should have another one because: 1: she's already noticing she's one of the older moms at playgroup*** 2. energy levels and 3. Bonus: her "significant other" doesn't help but she doesn't want to make the decision based on that.
I need to digress and discuss #1 for a second. I remember being in the girls-only dorm my freshman year of college. There was a vapid twit who lived across from me who was 18 or 19 and already hungry for da baybees. I remember her saying she had to have a kid before she was 25 because "I don't want to be one of those older mothers when I drop my kid off at preschool." (And this was the 80's when being an older Moo wasn't a thing, can you imagine?)
I remember being dumbfounded and thinking, are there really womben who think like this? No mention of finding the right guy or thought of sentencing something to this place called Earth...they are seriously thinking of what they will look like to other hypothetical Moos in their fantasy Moo world?
Sadly, this wasn't the last time I've heard that and it seems pretty common.
Back to topic, Moo has a plan for dilemma #3. Her mom lives next door and she's just going to dump the kids on mom, her brother or her 10 year old half sister, while the dad gets to skate. Disgusting.
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Moos gotta Moo
I turned 41 a few months ago, mother of a 1 year old. We have been trying for a second and if all goes considerably well, I would have her or him at 42. We have enough space for another one, financially we could do it, my very fit and active mom lives next door…
But at 40 I was already among the older moms in the playgroups I attended with my first. That will be even more the case at 42. Plus I worry about energy levels. I often feel already taking care of my toddler, so will I be able to take care of two small children all at once?
My SO unfortunately doesn’t help much with caretaking for our baby, but I don’t want to make that dependent on him. I have my mom and brother who are always there for me. Plus a very doting half sister who is already 10.
So looking back from 60+ years of age, would you do it?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver60/comments/1hgwnz2/having_a_baby_at_42/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 19, 2024 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 2,230 |
What??? "Plus a very doting half sister who is already 10." Of course she just ASSumes the 10 year old GIRL will be a caretaker to her brat. If she were a boy then no one would expect a thing from him. The selfishness never ends with these people. Also, she's 41 and her half-sister is 10??? Do these people have hobbies besides breeding?
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 20, 2024 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,302 |
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Also, she's 41 and her half-sister is 10??? Do these people have hobbies besides breeding?
I was wondering if she just wrote poorly and this is a kid from her current "partner's" previous relationship.
(That would make this guy an apathetic Dud twice over and she wants to have ANOTHER ONE with him.)
If that's the case, Moo expects the stepdaughter be happy that her Dad is making replacement kids with his new woman AND Moo expects her raise the kid too? So the half-sister gets to be the free childcare AND a back-of-the-couch kid.
This woman is truly despicable.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 23, 2024 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,179 |
Why do these women always breed with deadbeat men? I mean if they are willing to accept that they will essentially be single mothers because their baby-daddies are worthless, I guess that's their choice. But yeah no, because Duh is useless, let's just have everyone else raise this damn kid instead! People who I'm SURE have consented to being free babysitters and she's not just making assumptions. 
And Moo SAYS they can afford it, but this is of course assuming the brat comes out normal. With maternal age comes an increased risk of birth defects and what she thinks is an affordable child could easily become an unaffordable one if it's born with shitloads of problems.
Also, there is a difference between a doting half sister and a half sister who is forced/guilted into brat-sitting, presumably for free. Making this ten-year-old kid care for a new loaf is a great way to breed resentment, and I'm sure her Duh sure as hell won't step in and do anything about it because then he might have to raise his own kids! The whole reason he probably got married to the author was so someone with a vagina could raise his kid for him.
Doesn't matter what anyone says. She'll have another kid anyway. She will ignore all the advice telling her not to and will listen to all the women who had kids in their 40s and 50s who say it worked out well for them. Because she doesn't want advice, she wants validation.
And Moo SAYS they can afford it, but this is of course assuming the brat comes out normal. With maternal age comes an increased risk of birth defects and what she thinks is an affordable child could easily become an unaffordable one if it's born with shitloads of problems.
Also, there is a difference between a doting half sister and a half sister who is forced/guilted into brat-sitting, presumably for free. Making this ten-year-old kid care for a new loaf is a great way to breed resentment, and I'm sure her Duh sure as hell won't step in and do anything about it because then he might have to raise his own kids! The whole reason he probably got married to the author was so someone with a vagina could raise his kid for him.
Doesn't matter what anyone says. She'll have another kid anyway. She will ignore all the advice telling her not to and will listen to all the women who had kids in their 40s and 50s who say it worked out well for them. Because she doesn't want advice, she wants validation.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 24, 2024 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,474 |
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Not long ago some Moo was writing how "heartbroken" she was to see her kid in pain. And yet, she knew she had the disorder and chose to breed anyway.
Look at this Moo WannaBe:Quote
I can have a “normal” life (despite having some chronic pain and fatigue but that’s bearably except some specific times**).
If my kids inherit it, will they have the same symptoms or could it be worse than me? I really wish to have kids but I don’t want them to have a miserable life
I hope she gets accurate advice and that it dissuades her from trying. EDS is such a cruel bastard. It can be so mild you never know you have it, or you might not survive past 30. Or you might just wind up in a wheelchair in your teens and live a normal lifespan in constant pain. (Not telling you anything you don't know, bell_flower, just ranting.)
Even being willing to take the chance of knowingly passing EDS on should be considered child abuse.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 26, 2024 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,179 |
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Even being willing to take the chance of knowingly passing EDS on should be considered child abuse.
Agreed, but it would probably be too hard to prove if it was done intentionally. Selfish breeders could just feign ignorance and say they didn't know they had an illness, or say they didn't realize it was hereditary.
Also, I think if assholes like this breed on purpose knowing they could get a sick brat, then they should also have to pay out of pocket for medical care for said child. Because I think knowingly making a kid with a genetic predisposition to an illness could be considered a pre-existing condition and insurance looooooves denying people treatment on the basis of problems being pre-existing. Let's see how eager they are to crap out a defecto-loaf when they know the kid's care would be exempt from insurance. I'd wager many breeders would just let their kids die of their inherited conditions because they wouldn't be able to afford care out of pocket. They could do crowdfunding, but if there are shitloads of doomed sick kids needing care, people aren't going to be able to spare much per sob story if they want to afford their own lives.
And of course, since breeders and wanna-breeders are so in love with their own loins, they will never so much as consider adoption or fostering because they just couldn't lurrrrrve a child that's not their own biological offspring. Who cares that they could choose a child with no known issues and even get the gender they want, second-hand isn't as good as home-grown to these fucknuggets. If you can only love a kid because it contains your DNA, you're having kids for the wrong reasons.
Absolutely no one discourages people with genetic conditions from breeding either, not even doctors. And if anyone needs to hear those words, it's people like this. There is no reason at all to intentionally reproduce knowing full well your child could wind up severely ill or disabled.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 26, 2024 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 10,179 |
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Even being willing to take the chance of knowingly passing EDS on should be considered child abuse.
Agreed. There is no reason whatsoever to breed on purpose if you know full well you have a condition your child can/will inherit. But of course, if this was considered abuse, breeders would find ways around it. Feigning ingorance, claiming they didn't know they had a disease or didn't know their disease was hereditary.
Also, if someone has a genetic disorder and breeds intentionally anyway, I think their child's care should not be covered by insurance. Because if you reproduce knowing you could make a child with a genetic disease, insurance could classify that as a pre-existing condition and I know how much they looooove denying people coverage because of that exact reason. I wonder how many breeders would just let their kids die because they can't afford medical care and no one donates to their GoFundMe. Then they'd boo-hoo about how cruel the insurance company is and ignore how cruel they themselves are for making a child they knew would be fucked.
I just can't fathom how anyone with a life-changing or life-shortening disease could breed on purpose, knowing their child could suffer the same fate. I know breeders and wanna-breeders are very deeply in love with their own loins, but how fucking selfish can you be?! It's especially cruel when the breeder themselves is suffering from the disease and knows how awful it is, compared to someone who just carries a gene for the disease, but doesn't actually have the illness itself. Like you know FIRST HAND how bad it is, and you want to not only wish it on someone else, but your own child?
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