Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices

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What can i do for an 8 year old not potty trained? I spoke to her previous teachers. They told me get the para when she goes in her diapers/pull ups.

She doesn't have special needs so in a gen ed class. Her mom said this is what shes used to and she has never shown interest in toileting so she never tried potty training. Her pediatrician said shes healthy otherwise. Administrator spoke to a cps manager and they said this is not their problem.

She will yell in the middle of class "I need to go pee so you need to come help me".

My response is "you need to go to the bathroom now".

She will then yell "then I will pee myself and you will get into trouble with my mom".

My union doesn't allow teachers to change diapers even pre k/k teachers. Other students will even say "miss, she peed in her diapers. She needs her diaper changed".

Every day i go to work annoyed because no one has a plan on how to potty train this child. Their solution is always get the para. In September the mom promised me she will be potty trained by December.

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Hey guys, I’m not sure where to post this as the addiction at hand is not to alcohol but I really need advice. Me (22F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been together for almost 5 months now,

In the beginning of the relationship he expressed to me that over the last few years he struggled with an addiction to cocaine and that he had been clean for a few months. I was supportive in his recovery and tried to motivate him to continue with it as I also struggled with said addiction in my late teens. Over the months he has occasionally relapsed (sometimes going behind my back and lying to me to do so) - which is a part of recovery that I understand yet he has never seen a therapist/addiction counsellor, he has never gone to rehab and even was in NA for a while but was still using during it, despite collecting the chips.

It has gotten to the point of me saying hey I’m very concerned and uncomfortable with this habit and if you have no desire to try to get clean, then we must break up. He normally responds with saying he wants to get clean or that he’s going to block his dealers, but I don’t see the proof in the pudding. In fact about a month ago, he responded to me saying that with “I’m tired of everyone telling me I’m doing something bad all the time, I’m in my 20s I just want to have fun and I don’t care what anyone else has to say or feels about it.”

Which broke my heart and made me realize that he doesn’t want to get better at all. Now we reach September. He has returned to college while I’m working, he always wants to stay home alone, has lacked communication and never has money unless it’s for fast food (as I can see). I was roughly a week late for my cycle this month so I decided to test. The test turned out positive (the only phobia I have is of labour and childbirth) and I discussed with my boyfriend that I am going to go through with abortion due to financial/career goals and generally not wanting biological children. He agrees that this is a good idea and then proceeds to spend roughly 5 hours after school with his friend playing video games until 10 pm. At 10 he asks to come and grab some things at my house and I offer for him to stay the night as I feel this should be time we spend together supporting each other with the new found news. He declines this offer, stays for about 5 minutes and then says he wants to go home for school - sure cool. This morning I text him and say hey good morning love you have a good day at school, his immediate response was telling me that he got so stressed about me being pregnant because his ex went through this (even though he doesn’t have to do anything I’m handling it all myself) that he relapsed. Then says that he called in for school today when he can only miss 3 days in the semester or he will lose his apprenticeship. I am incredibly hurt and frustrated, I have no idea if I’m in the wrong to be so mad at him or if this is as insane as I feel it is.

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I’m at a loss. How can someone you’ve been with for 10 years and have a baby with , not care enough to change?

For fucks sake there was an instance where he got arrested and was ordered to take drug and alcohol classes , 28 weeks and still no change!

He decides to go to AA meetings, on his way home from the meetings he buys alcohol and chugs it before he comes home!

The best part is that every single time he drinks, he lies to my face. After 10 years , I know the signs of when he’s been drinking. We are tight on money because we had a baby. I made good money , even saved a lot before the baby came, he’s supposed to make good money (his job severely underpays him and he apparently doesn’t give a fuck) I stopped working because he told me he would be able to support us. I mean as a blue collar worker for 7 years, I would expect he could at least make more than $1500 biweekly checks. So we are tight on money, and instead of saving what we could have, he lies and spends it on alcohol… oh but there’s more! He borrows money from coworkers!!!! He got clever and figured out how to use Apple Cash!!!! So I can only see it if I take his phone when he’s sleeping. Hundreds of transactions over the last 4 months from multiple coworkers sending him money, and then all the transactions at the gas stations!!!!!!!

We have a huge blowout fight, he says he will stop. He stops for a week or so, and back to it. I feel like I’m going insane. Déjà vu every fucking week. At this point in the idiot. I am ashamed and embarrassed to stay with a man like this. To be honest , I hate him. When he’s sober , I almost start to think we can get through this and everything will work out and then BAM . Comes home from work buzzed. I look at my little baby’s face and I just don’t understand why he doesn’t want to do better. He grew up with alcoholic parents and hates them… but that’s how his son is doing to feel in 20 or so years!!

I am a fool. Alcohol has been a problem on and off for 3 years . He wanted a family. I thought that was really going to be enough for him to cut the shit. He was so much better for a while before i got pregnant, this baby wasnt an accident!!! But if anything it got worse when I got pregnant and has only been getting worse since my baby was born. I feel so fucking guilty for my baby. I love him but I wish I never had him because he doesn’t deserve that. I grew up in a broken home, I never wanted that for my children. I feel like I’ve been punk’d. This all feels like some sick joke!!!

I could keep going but this is too long already. I guess my point was that I just don’t know what to do. It’s not going to get better, is it? This will just be our life if I stay with him , won’t it?

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Gawd, I want to smack these women silly. This is a woman who had a planned baybee with her alcoholic husband. AND she quit her job and now she's whining about it. "But......but.....but....he told me he would support us."

He cleaned up his act for a while so he could get a baybee, because men want children the way children want a puppy.

Congratulations, Idiot, you now have bred with a drunk loser and your poor child is going to be the one who pays the price.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/comments/1wmzl22/its_not_going_to_get_better_right/

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I’m at a loss. How can someone you’ve been with for 10 years and have a baby with , not care enough to change?

For fucks sake there was an instance where he got arrested and was ordered to take drug and alcohol classes , 28 weeks and still no change!

He decides to go to AA meetings, on his way home from the meetings he buys alcohol and chugs it before he comes home!

The best part is that every single time he drinks, he lies to my face. After 10 years , I know the signs of when he’s been drinking. We are tight on money because we had a baby. I made good money , even saved a lot before the baby came, he’s supposed to make good money (his job severely underpays him and he apparently doesn’t give a fuck) I stopped working because he told me he would be able to support us. I mean as a blue collar worker for 7 years, I would expect he could at least make more than $1500 biweekly checks. So we are tight on money, and instead of saving what we could have, he lies and spends it on alcohol… oh but there’s more! He borrows money from coworkers!!!! He got clever and figured out how to use Apple Cash!!!! So I can only see it if I take his phone when he’s sleeping. Hundreds of transactions over the last 4 months from multiple coworkers sending him money, and then all the transactions at the gas stations!!!!!!!

We have a huge blowout fight, he says he will stop. He stops for a week or so, and back to it. I feel like I’m going insane. Déjà vu every fucking week. At this point in the idiot. I am ashamed and embarrassed to stay with a man like this. To be honest , I hate him. When he’s sober , I almost start to think we can get through this and everything will work out and then BAM . Comes home from work buzzed. I look at my little baby’s face and I just don’t understand why he doesn’t want to do better. He grew up with alcoholic parents and hates them… but that’s how his son is doing to feel in 20 or so years!!

I am a fool. Alcohol has been a problem on and off for 3 years . He wanted a family. I thought that was really going to be enough for him to cut the shit. He was so much better for a while before i got pregnant, this baby wasnt an accident!!! But if anything it got worse when I got pregnant and has only been getting worse since my baby was born. I feel so fucking guilty for my baby. I love him but I wish I never had him because he doesn’t deserve that. I grew up in a broken home, I never wanted that for my children. I feel like I’ve been punk’d. This all feels like some sick joke!!!

I could keep going but this is too long already. I guess my point was that I just don’t know what to do. It’s not going to get better, is it? This will just be our life if I stay with him , won’t it?