Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 10, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
Some Moo bitching about what a hellion her brat is at four years old, and other heifers chiming in about the "fuck you fours." Nothing I've never read before.
https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/1ltfk5j/i_effin_hate_the_age_4/
But in the comments, someone mentions what I assume is some trendy bullshit childhood acronym disorder: pathological demand avoidance, or PDA. It's a "disorder" characterized by kids who go to great extremes to avoid doing anything they perceive as a demand or to resist anything that sounds like a request.
Ummm, isn't that every single child that ever existed? What kid ever does what they're told? Are we calling every bad childhood behavior a disorder now? And apparently there are "demand avoidant parenting techniques" to follow for such brats.
And why do so many parents give their brats choices? So many breeders who ask their kids, "Do you want to do X or do you want to do Y?" when there might be a conflict. Whatever happened to telling your brat how it's gonna be and if they throw a shitfit, you spank them? Why is a tiny bastard with an underdeveloped brain allowed to make so many choices?
https://old.reddit.com/r/breakingmom/comments/1ltfk5j/i_effin_hate_the_age_4/
But in the comments, someone mentions what I assume is some trendy bullshit childhood acronym disorder: pathological demand avoidance, or PDA. It's a "disorder" characterized by kids who go to great extremes to avoid doing anything they perceive as a demand or to resist anything that sounds like a request.
Ummm, isn't that every single child that ever existed? What kid ever does what they're told? Are we calling every bad childhood behavior a disorder now? And apparently there are "demand avoidant parenting techniques" to follow for such brats.
And why do so many parents give their brats choices? So many breeders who ask their kids, "Do you want to do X or do you want to do Y?" when there might be a conflict. Whatever happened to telling your brat how it's gonna be and if they throw a shitfit, you spank them? Why is a tiny bastard with an underdeveloped brain allowed to make so many choices?
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 11, 2025 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 4,038 |
was over at a friends house on july the 4th. it's official, the lastest little trophy is a full on awtard.. I got there and I could hear the girl screeching from the road.. clear on the other side of hte house and indoors. little twat had stubbed its toe or something. friend was muttering, birth control, and that the mom (nice girl, did not deserve this) tends to be too coddling. I don't give a rats ass about it acting out. if I had acted like that, my own M would have just stuck me in my room and told to think it out and not bother her. and if I ignored that I got a good spanking. tended to work with me. they are in for hell for the rest of their lives. they would do best to set up a group home in a certain amount of years. that girl is going to be USELESS.
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 16, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Why I refuse to let infertility win
Not yet a Moo, but determined to be one despite her bad marriage.
Adoption is the "worst case scenario." I feel sorry for any kid she has or adopts.
Not yet a Moo, but determined to be one despite her bad marriage.
Adoption is the "worst case scenario." I feel sorry for any kid she has or adopts.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 16, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
This one is pregnant with Kid #2 with her boyfriend and his family is telling him he shouldn't be changing diapers. And he's siding with his family.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1m0ibu8/aio_im_pregnant_and_separating_from_my_fiance_bc/
She admits she's been dealing with his toxic family for over three years....did it occur to her not to get knocked up again?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1m0ibu8/aio_im_pregnant_and_separating_from_my_fiance_bc/
She admits she's been dealing with his toxic family for over three years....did it occur to her not to get knocked up again?
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Hello, this is my first time ever making a Reddit post so I’ll try to add as much info as I think is needed to get the full context. The day before my daughters bday we were invited to have to get together at a an in-laws house to do a cake for my daughter and lunch with a couple of family members due to the fact no one really wanted to do a birthday party.
am currently 14 weeks pregnant with insane nausea, vomiting and constant dizziness for several weeks now, I still work full time and try to get as much done as I possibly could and some days by the time I get home I am unable to do anything, to add I was sick for 3 weeks while still dealing with pregnancy stuff, I just recently started getting better about a week ago. So as for my fiance he has taken pretty much the role of changing our daughters poop diapers because my sense of smell is very sensitive and I throw up over anything.
On this specific day when we were at his families house I asked him to change her diaper because again I’m not feeling well and sitting outside in the heat with everyone didn’t help very much either but I was trying my best to be present, he tells me no in front of everyone I turn to my MIL and before I finish my sentence she tells me no and in Spanish responds with “you need to do it” I look back at my fiance and tell him he needs to come change her because I am not feeling well and I don’t want to throw up my lunch, his uncle gets up and says that it’s a “women’s job to do that it doesn’t matter if you don’t feel well” I responded with “this is a new generation and her dad has been changing her diapers since the day she was born, there’s no difference now” and we start going back and forth and while the uncles wife is trying to be to mediate, finally after this whole ordeal the fiance comes and doesn’t say a single word, I see my MIL holding hands with my daughter indicating she was going to go change her I get up grab my daughter and say “ it’s my baby, I’ll change her” we go inside I change her come back out and say my goodbye because at this point I felt so betrayed by not only my fiance but by the whole family, he has never stood up for me, his uncles have made numerous comments towards me in the past and towards our relationship and he has never stood up for me or our family that we’ve built, the last time stuff was said to me he promised he would stand up for us and speak up towards the way they speak to me or inputting unwanted opinions of how our relationship runs.
We are separating and he will be going back to his parents house for a couple of days but I have no idea where to go from here. I might be overreacting Ive just had enough of it, I have been dealing with this for almost 3 years now and have no idea what to do with another child on the way now. I’m I in the wrong ?
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 16, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
I know there are a lot of people who adopt due to infertility and then the woman gets up the duff unexpectedly without fertility treatments. Then the parents dote on the bio-kid and ignore the adopted one.
Also, adoption isn't as easy-peasy as people think it is. You can't just buy a kid like a carton of milk - at least, not in the US. You have to go through a shitload of shit to find out if you're even eligible to adopt and then pay an obscene amount of money, and you still might not even end up with a kid. It's why people in the United States will go to China to adopt, because I guess they aren't nearly as strict about who they adopt to.
Getting pregnant is not hard to do, so if your body isn't doing it, then there is a good reason for it. That means accept the hand you've been dealt. When you try to force an unwilling reproductive system to create and sustain a pregnancy, you're asking for trouble in the form of complications, multiples, premature birth and birth defects. Because it's no secret that fetuses conceived via artificial means have a higher risk of problems. Do they think there will be zero repercussions when Moo shoots herself full of hormones to force her ovaries to release more eggs?
Wanna-Moo is normal, and Wanna-Duh learned his sperm count was normal too, soooo maybe take the hint that you shouldn't breed? Apparently the problem the guy is having is called pyospermia. One of the many causes of it is STDs, and given the guy's propensity for bar-hopping until 3am, makes me wonder if he brought home some kind of crud from a drunken roll in the hay with a stranger and gave it to the wife. Especially if he was the one recommending a separation.
I have a feeling the wanna-Duh wasn't sad over not being able to have kids. He was sad that his masculinity might be questioned because he wasn't fertile enough to impregnate his wife. I guarantee he doesn't necessarily want children - he just wants to be able to feel virile and manly by getting his wife knocked up.
Also, if these two are married and had presumably had sex already, why was procreational sex "awkward?" Dafuq were they doing differently from any other sex to make it awkward?
I mean if they managed to reconcile via therapy and communication, then bully for them. But it sounds like they really need to forget about breeding and just enjoy one another. Sounds like a marriage that is hanging by a thread as it is and a kid is going to shred whatever marital integrity is left.
Also, adoption isn't as easy-peasy as people think it is. You can't just buy a kid like a carton of milk - at least, not in the US. You have to go through a shitload of shit to find out if you're even eligible to adopt and then pay an obscene amount of money, and you still might not even end up with a kid. It's why people in the United States will go to China to adopt, because I guess they aren't nearly as strict about who they adopt to.
Getting pregnant is not hard to do, so if your body isn't doing it, then there is a good reason for it. That means accept the hand you've been dealt. When you try to force an unwilling reproductive system to create and sustain a pregnancy, you're asking for trouble in the form of complications, multiples, premature birth and birth defects. Because it's no secret that fetuses conceived via artificial means have a higher risk of problems. Do they think there will be zero repercussions when Moo shoots herself full of hormones to force her ovaries to release more eggs?
Wanna-Moo is normal, and Wanna-Duh learned his sperm count was normal too, soooo maybe take the hint that you shouldn't breed? Apparently the problem the guy is having is called pyospermia. One of the many causes of it is STDs, and given the guy's propensity for bar-hopping until 3am, makes me wonder if he brought home some kind of crud from a drunken roll in the hay with a stranger and gave it to the wife. Especially if he was the one recommending a separation.
I have a feeling the wanna-Duh wasn't sad over not being able to have kids. He was sad that his masculinity might be questioned because he wasn't fertile enough to impregnate his wife. I guarantee he doesn't necessarily want children - he just wants to be able to feel virile and manly by getting his wife knocked up.
Also, if these two are married and had presumably had sex already, why was procreational sex "awkward?" Dafuq were they doing differently from any other sex to make it awkward?
I mean if they managed to reconcile via therapy and communication, then bully for them. But it sounds like they really need to forget about breeding and just enjoy one another. Sounds like a marriage that is hanging by a thread as it is and a kid is going to shred whatever marital integrity is left.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 19, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Well is this any surprise?
The Moo who asked if her fiance who broke her arm could change with fatherhood married him anyway, had twins and apparently is pregnant again.
Here's her original post.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1c6x9d6/my_fianc%C3%A9_fractured_my_arm_after_thinking_i_had_a/
She has now deleted her user ID but here's her latest.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1m3kj0y/aio_my_husband_said_he_wishes_i_wouldve_swallowed/
She says she has an IUD and ended up pregnant again.
I hope this is fake or I hope she can find a battered women's shelter and an abortion, stat.
Edited to add: LIke twocents, I am not a popular person. Because occasionally I dare to make remarks that perhaps having a child in a particular situation is not a good idea. I've unfollowed a lot of forums there lately.
The Moo who asked if her fiance who broke her arm could change with fatherhood married him anyway, had twins and apparently is pregnant again.
Here's her original post.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1c6x9d6/my_fianc%C3%A9_fractured_my_arm_after_thinking_i_had_a/
She has now deleted her user ID but here's her latest.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1m3kj0y/aio_my_husband_said_he_wishes_i_wouldve_swallowed/
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My husband and I already have twins under one years old and I just found out I was pregnant with baby #3. I have mixed feelings because I didn’t expect to be pregnant so soon after and I was on birth control. I haven’t been feeling well for a while but the last thing I thought was pregnancy. We also are still adjusting to being new parents, married, and our new sex life with small babies
When I told my husband he was excited, so he seemed. Last night he was going out with his brother/ friends but I asked him to put together our twins new crib , which I have been asking for 2 weeks now. He said he would do it later and went out with friends. This really pissed me off and I started putting it together myself. When he came back and saw me putting it together he got so upset he started cussing at me and throwing the parts to the crib around the room, saying I shouldn’t be lifting heavy things while pregnant.
We got into an argument and I said “ I wish you would have did it before you left I wouldn’t have been doing it myself “. Then he said “I wish you would’ve swallowed .”
This immediately ended the argument because that was extremely hurtful because he was saying he didn’t want me to be pregnant with his child. This morning he got up apologizing with flowers, breakfast, and gifts as usual. We had a doctors appointment this morning and he was trying to kiss me and rub my stomach but I told him to keep the same energy he had last night and I will do this pregnancy alone.
I just want to take my kids and leave my husband. AIO for wanting to leave my husband, I just want space from him.
She says she has an IUD and ended up pregnant again.
I hope this is fake or I hope she can find a battered women's shelter and an abortion, stat.
Edited to add: LIke twocents, I am not a popular person. Because occasionally I dare to make remarks that perhaps having a child in a particular situation is not a good idea. I've unfollowed a lot of forums there lately.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 21, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
Sounds like he's love-bombing her because that's how abusers keep their victims under their thumbs. And I know it's not impossible to get pregnant with an IUD in, but it's pretty rare. Moo better make sure she doesn't have a pregnancy in her tube because I believe when pregnancy happens with an IUD in place, it significantly raises the odds of having an ectopic pregnancy.
It sounds like she took some decent precautions to prevent pregnancy by using something that cannot easily be fucked with, unless her husband yanked out her IUD (which I am sad to say I have heard of more than one man doing on Reddit). It's just unfortunate that it failed when she already has two brats under one year old. I have a feeling she will not be able to obtain an abortion either if she's a SAHM because it means she has no access to her own money. And I'm sure her husband won't agree to it because another child is another way to keep her under his control.
Also, where were the loaves sleeping for almost a year if Moo is just asking Duh now to assemble their crib? Should two little kids be in the same crib in the first place? Or do they need separate ones? I honestly have no idea how you store multiples.
Personally, I think she needs to say fuck the kids and just leave herself. Leave, run, take a suitcase and get as far away as possible. She could probably even go to the hospital and ask for resources to help her leave. If it's a state where abortion is not restricted, I'm sure they could even set her up with the local Planned Parenthood for a termination.
I hope she makes it out. Women are most likely to be killed during two particular times: pregnancy, and trying to leave an abusive partner. This woman is in both states at the same time.
I'm assuming she deleted her account for one of two reasons: she didn't like being told to leave because "he's not that bad," or her husband found her account.
It sounds like she took some decent precautions to prevent pregnancy by using something that cannot easily be fucked with, unless her husband yanked out her IUD (which I am sad to say I have heard of more than one man doing on Reddit). It's just unfortunate that it failed when she already has two brats under one year old. I have a feeling she will not be able to obtain an abortion either if she's a SAHM because it means she has no access to her own money. And I'm sure her husband won't agree to it because another child is another way to keep her under his control.
Also, where were the loaves sleeping for almost a year if Moo is just asking Duh now to assemble their crib? Should two little kids be in the same crib in the first place? Or do they need separate ones? I honestly have no idea how you store multiples.
Personally, I think she needs to say fuck the kids and just leave herself. Leave, run, take a suitcase and get as far away as possible. She could probably even go to the hospital and ask for resources to help her leave. If it's a state where abortion is not restricted, I'm sure they could even set her up with the local Planned Parenthood for a termination.
I hope she makes it out. Women are most likely to be killed during two particular times: pregnancy, and trying to leave an abusive partner. This woman is in both states at the same time.
I'm assuming she deleted her account for one of two reasons: she didn't like being told to leave because "he's not that bad," or her husband found her account.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 25, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
This woman is a Step Moo and she's bored with her job and she's contemplating trying to ruin her life at age 42.
Sounds like she wants an excuse to quit her job and assume a thankless job. And she possibly wants to compete with the Step Moo.
A disaster waiting to happen: So much ME, ME ME in her post. Little thought about the kid.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver60/comments/1m53vib/do_i_havetry_for_a_baby_at_42/
Sounds like she wants an excuse to quit her job and assume a thankless job. And she possibly wants to compete with the Step Moo.
A disaster waiting to happen: So much ME, ME ME in her post. Little thought about the kid.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver60/comments/1m53vib/do_i_havetry_for_a_baby_at_42/
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Hey all. 42 and paralyzed with indecision over whether to try for a baby.
I'd love some hindsight perspective to help me off this fence from any of you wise ladies who had your first kid in your 40s, or stepmoms like me who ultimately decided yes or no to having their own kid.
Panicked in my 30s when I never met a guy I could stand for more than a few months about never having a kid. Then kind of accepted it after 36 and readjusted the perspective to "oh actually I don't like kids that much anyway and life could be great without." Met my partner when I was 38. He had a 4 year old daughter when I met him, she's now about to be 8. Then realized "wow actually this could be great, a kid half the time and I skip the newborn phase, perfection."
I'd like to say I don't know why I didn't think about this til now but the truth is I didn't particularly enjoy age 4,5, or most of 6 with stepdaughter enough to go through it all again. However, I think a lot of the irritation has to do with the control over my time her mom inherently has and the role model her mom is providing for her.
Obviously the stepfamily dynamic could have an essay written but: her mom is fine enough. I am finding that I value athleticism, achievement, feminism, being driven. Her mom and I are friendly but she's never had an adult job, there's always an excuse, there's always a new physical mystery ailment no one can diagnose, she can't wake up before 10 am, her motto is "I just can't" and I HATE that this is what's being modeled for her daughter. We had her 80% of the time the first two years I knew him because she "just can't" on whatever topic it was. So, when her daughter acts helpless and whiny it's hard to tell if that's because she's doing normal kid things and her mom just acts like a helpless kid too or if she's becoming her mom. I cannot take two of her mom in my life and it puts me on edge. Honest truth, I know it's not a good look but pertinent to my advice seeking I feel.
Anyway so here we are and stedaughter is 7.5 and finally pretty fun and can do fun trips and is pretty funny and becoming really fun to be around. This combined with the closing window/finality of it all plus a few trips we've been on this year that made me go "aww this would be so fun with a kid" make me suddenly obsessed with the choice.
After a decade and a half practicing veterinary medicine, I'm truthfully kind of over it (corporate money focus etc), over all the other things I do in my spare time (been there done that), so I feel I'm in a unique time period of my life where I wouldn't necessarily mind a brand new chapter that involves never leaving the house and being completely focused on something I've never been completely focused on before. Part of me thinks it'd be awesome to watch a new being explore the world. Also acknowledge this is generally considered not a reason to have a child (boredom). HOWEVER I'd argue that maybe having a kid when you're better off financially and don't have any sort of FOMO over career or friends etc would be a great time to do it because you are fully in it mentally?
Equal partner who'd love another kid and I feel would be a great dad (he already is) However, we live in his old house with one bathroom desperately in need of a remodel and he's definitely messier than I am. I kind of hate the house but love the location and the mortgage and thus the ability to save. I don’t want to be a nag like my mom was/felt with my messy dad but we've already discussed that we'd solve this by having someone come clean weekly to avoid the issue. Stepdaughter goes through phases of begging for a sibling and she's very caring so I think she'd love it.
My "don't do it" list is so long. Had knee surgery last year and an extra 30 lbs on this knee isn't a risk I'm excited about, just lost 20 lbs and obviously would gain it right back, am very accustomed to my free time, love planning and doing trips both with the stepdaughter and as adults with my partner. The fear of a disabled or autistic kid is paralyzing. We have no family nearby to help, and we're 11 years away from an adults only house. Also I kind of hated age 4,5 and not sure it'd be any different if it were "mine" and have suspicion I wouldn't love 3 either. My mom was always depressed, critical, negative, and we never really got along. I'm terrified of this dynamic replaying in my life. I'd be 63 before the kid moves out best case.
My do it list is that maybe I'd love it and surprise myself and I'd find a new side of me I never knew, I'd love to have that bond with my partner, and I'm already doing it with one kid so may as well do it with mine too?
Help me out of my paralysis! Do I blow up my 8/10 life and try for a possible 9/10 life but risk a 2/10 life? What if I hate it?
Curious how others have made the decision either way and if you're brave enough to admit you regret your decision in either direction, please share.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 25, 2025 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,546 |
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 25, 2025 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,546 |
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bell_flower
Why I refuse to let infertility win
Not yet a Moo, but determined to be one despite her bad marriage.
Adoption is the "worst case scenario." I feel sorry for any kid she has or adopts.
Oh my god. The tonal shift between "There was a slight ache in my abdomen, but I tried to walk with a steady, even stride as my shoes squeaked along the slick hospital floor" and three sentences later "my lady organs" made me snort.
If you can't use grown-up words, maybe you aren't mature enough to have kids. I'll even go so far as to say if adoption is a "worst case scenario," you shouldn't have children at all. If your child has to be a copy of you in order for you to love them, then you aren't fit to be a parent.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 26, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
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Then again, the well being of the actual child rarely seems to matter to these people.
Agreed, she comes off as a navel-gazing narcissist. How many times can she say "I" or "me?"
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My do it list is that maybe I'd love it and surprise myself and I'd find a new side of me I never knew, I'd love to have that bond with my partner,
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 29, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Geezer Breeder wonders if he should ruin his life.
He'll probably say yes because this woman wants him to.
He also has multiple sclerosis. He's freaking nuts.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskOldPeopleAdvice/comments/1mbl97s/48m_fellow_old_people_thoughts_on_having_a_baby/
He'll probably say yes because this woman wants him to.
He also has multiple sclerosis. He's freaking nuts.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskOldPeopleAdvice/comments/1mbl97s/48m_fellow_old_people_thoughts_on_having_a_baby/
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I was married for over 20 years. Divorced now and dating an amazing woman that is 11 years younger. She doesn't have any kids and wants one. My ex-wife was terrible. No intimacy, emotionally and verbally abusive, blew my money, etc. My new lady is amazing. We have a very deep connection, she's very supportive, transparent, and makes as much money as I do.
I have two kids from the previous marriage, 22F and 20M. They are not very supportive of the relationship and possible baby. Neither of them live at home anymore. So I'm also dealing with all of the empty nest emotions and trying to figure out what defines me now in this stage of life.
Part of me wants to have a baby. I was young and selfish and not very emotionally mature before. I feel like emotionally and financially I'm much more prepared now. Physically is the issue. By the time we have a baby I would be 50. I also have MS which is controlled and doesn't give me many issues right now.
I have friends that had children with new partners at 50. They both said that it is amazing witnessing all of the firsts again. That you just have to come to terms with the fact that you probably won't get to see all of their milestones. But anything can happen to anyone at anytime. There's never a guarantee in life.
For those of you that had children at 50 or over, do you regret your decision? How were your energy levels? Anything you would do differently?
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 29, 2025 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 719 |
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bell_flower
Geezer Breeder wonders if he should ruin his life.
He'll probably say yes because this woman wants him to.
He also has multiple sclerosis. He's freaking nuts.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskOldPeopleAdvice/comments/1mbl97s/48m_fellow_old_people_thoughts_on_having_a_baby/Quote
I was married for over 20 years. Divorced now and dating an amazing woman that is 11 years younger. She doesn't have any kids and wants one. My ex-wife was terrible. No intimacy, emotionally and verbally abusive, blew my money, etc. My new lady is amazing. We have a very deep connection, she's very supportive, transparent, and makes as much money as I do.
I have two kids from the previous marriage, 22F and 20M. They are not very supportive of the relationship and possible baby. Neither of them live at home anymore. So I'm also dealing with all of the empty nest emotions and trying to figure out what defines me now in this stage of life.
Part of me wants to have a baby. I was young and selfish and not very emotionally mature before. I feel like emotionally and financially I'm much more prepared now. Physically is the issue. By the time we have a baby I would be 50. I also have MS which is controlled and doesn't give me many issues right now.
I have friends that had children with new partners at 50. They both said that it is amazing witnessing all of the firsts again. That you just have to come to terms with the fact that you probably won't get to see all of their milestones. But anything can happen to anyone at anytime. There's never a guarantee in life.
For those of you that had children at 50 or over, do you regret your decision? How were your energy levels? Anything you would do differently?
I am always amazed that breeders need to breed another human being, whether or not that is wise, live w/ everything that goes with it to 'define themselves'. Wow, this dude went thru everything already, why does he need another loaf to define him? So, let me get this straight, busy work, watching your female counterpart do a buncha grunt work, and all the hassles, logistics, and financials it takes to raise a child, this is what you need to define you, especially after you are finally rid of that mode w/ your older kids? Gosh get a hobby, work on your house, tinker w/ a car, get into books or a TV show for awhile, join a volunteer group and do something with your passion and make friends there. All the things people put on a back burner becz kids, you could do that.
The dude should realize his current girl might seem to be so perfect becz she's likely 39 and HE is her last chance to get her breeder dream on. All her great qualities may suddenly change once the loaf pops out and funtime dating girl goes away. After you seen your other kids 'firsts' word and walking and other stuff, would seeing yet another loaf have 'firsts' really really do anything for you?
He has it made, divorced from someone he didnt connect well with, he found someone and is gonna ruin it. He has a great life ahead and he's gonna gunk it up with grape jelly kisses and crying into the nite. As I've posted before, I've had a few men in my life admit they coulda done without the 'little kid' years of their kids, and they were decent dads as far as I could see. Yet even more others, I would see them try to weasel out of the everyday grunt work when they could. Maybe the dude will find he really still is 'selfish' like he was before.
Breeders and Geezer Breeders will never stop confusing me.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 30, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Here's one from the retirement forum.
I'd bet a month's mortgage that this guy had a bunch of kids. He's seething with resentment over not having the retirement he wants.
https://www.reddit.com/r/retirement/comments/1mbgal8/can_i_hear_from_those_not_financially_secure/
First of all there was nothing "fortunate" about my life. I graduated college (was fortunate enough to be born at a time where you could pay for college while working 30 hours a week) with zero money and had a civil service career. Because I didn't have kids, I could sock away money like mad. It's the power of compound interest that can work for you. After 35 years I was able to retire.
I will also add that this dude was probably making bank as a Federal contractor. It's well known they often made more money than Federal employees but thanks to all the cuts and Dump, that ride is probably over.
Here is a comment that is getting downvoted. Wish I had some gold because this person is telling the truth:
I'd bet a month's mortgage that this guy had a bunch of kids. He's seething with resentment over not having the retirement he wants.
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When I read through these threads and see so many with great pensions, high SS and tons of cash in there 401K and savings, I generally feel as if I am doomed. It is not that I never considered down the road planning, it’s just that life has a way of interfering with plans. I have worked for 9 companies as a government contractor (contract keeps rebidding). No pension. High medical premiums. I believe I have spent $200,00 in Medical Premium’s and expenses over the last 20 years. I guarantee no one has put in more hours or worked harder than me. I hold electrician, HVAC, plumbing and engineer licenses. Probably averaged over 60 hours per week over the last 30 years. We do not have expensive cars or take lavish vacations. We are very frugal. Raising a family, putting kids through school is expensive. It has always seemed money in- money out.
I guess my rant summed up is, it’s not necessarily a lack of financial planning, it’s more about individual circumstances and getting through life. Some are fortunate, and for some the struggle is real.
For reference, I am still working approaching my 67th birthday, have saved up about $150k in iRA, will receive $3200 in SS starting in Sept and am trying to pay off remaining debt so I can retire.
I know there are more of you out there.
https://www.reddit.com/r/retirement/comments/1mbgal8/can_i_hear_from_those_not_financially_secure/
First of all there was nothing "fortunate" about my life. I graduated college (was fortunate enough to be born at a time where you could pay for college while working 30 hours a week) with zero money and had a civil service career. Because I didn't have kids, I could sock away money like mad. It's the power of compound interest that can work for you. After 35 years I was able to retire.
I will also add that this dude was probably making bank as a Federal contractor. It's well known they often made more money than Federal employees but thanks to all the cuts and Dump, that ride is probably over.
Here is a comment that is getting downvoted. Wish I had some gold because this person is telling the truth:
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Until recently I got $602 in SS. It’s now $1200. I saved a lot over my lifetime, and never had kids because I felt I just couldn’t afford to raise them. We made different choices, that’s all
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 31, 2025 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 4,038 |
just saw a popup. maybe these lazy gentle parenting cows and duhs are finally learning it doesn't work'
the title 'tough love parenting making a comeback'. maybe things are a pendulum that swings back and forth. it is a hopeful sign but probably too late. oh well. not enough to fool me. but about time someone considered kicking their little butts.
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
the title 'tough love parenting making a comeback'. maybe things are a pendulum that swings back and forth. it is a hopeful sign but probably too late. oh well. not enough to fool me. but about time someone considered kicking their little butts.
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 31, 2025 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 719 |
More on Bellflower's Geezer Breeder story:
So I finally read thru all the comments. 99% of them politely tell the Geezer that it's a bad idea, and a vast majority dont even talk about the toils and tribulations on the Geezer's life and lifestyle, but they all indicate how it wont be great for the child and some personal stories of being a product of a Geezer breeder.
Geezer adds an Edit to the OP, and guess what???!? He doubles down why it will be fine/good (his MS meds work, his family lives longer lives, we keep in good shape we make good money). ...ok...Then why did you ask the question in the first fucking place if you felt positive about it??
Very typical breeder antics
So I finally read thru all the comments. 99% of them politely tell the Geezer that it's a bad idea, and a vast majority dont even talk about the toils and tribulations on the Geezer's life and lifestyle, but they all indicate how it wont be great for the child and some personal stories of being a product of a Geezer breeder.
Geezer adds an Edit to the OP, and guess what???!? He doubles down why it will be fine/good (his MS meds work, his family lives longer lives, we keep in good shape we make good money). ...ok...Then why did you ask the question in the first fucking place if you felt positive about it??
Very typical breeder antics
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices July 31, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Ugh, you are not kidding about the update. My editorial comments are in red:
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Additional Info 7/29 -
I appreciate all of the replies and the insight from people who are the children of an older father. But of course I'm still going to do what I want.
My mom died in an accident when I was 24 and my dad wasn't around much. I'm well aware that I could die while they are young, but I'm also aware that anything can happen and the future isn't promised.
Typical Breeder justification. Nobody in general is promised good health, but you in particular have a serious illness that is known to be debilitating as one ages.
My girlfriend and I both make $200k+ per year.
Depending on where they live, this isn't a great amount of money. One difficult pregnancy and a special needs child could wipe them out. If she does breed with this guy, in 15 years she would have a teenager and a 63 year old husband who is chronically ill. Depending on the progression of his disease and the abilities of the chyyyuld (or children since these dimb bulbs never seen to stop at one), she could be taking care of her husband and her children.
She's not really making a pragmatic choice either. Why would she want to marry a guy who is 11 years older than she is, and she has more money than he does? And he has a chronic illness? If she had a brain, she would be wondering if he's looking for a "nurse and a purse" based on their ages alone.
She has a lot more money saved than I do. We are working up a prenup in case we do decide to get married. Mostly to protect her assets.
The relationship with her is amazing! She is so supportive and values me and I know that she would do anything for me that she could. Just wait until she gets pregnant and it's time for you to do things for her.
I have no doubt that the relationship would last, as long as I can get on board with having another baby. Sounds like this dude has already been the recipient of an ultimatum.
Also we both agree that the connection we have is something we might not come across again. Translation: the sex is great for now. Again, wait until she gets pregnasty and/or has a small child and you are sniping at each other day and night.
I'm actively going to counseling to try to work through all of the issues with the empty nest and my kids. I have a feeling his children haven't been invited to these sessions because he wouldn't want to hear what they say.
I always put my kids first and was always available for them. Guys who do the bare minimum are always patting themselves on the back for being Great Duds. But even if he was a decent dad, they are totally going to forget that if he starts cranking out Replacement Fambilee Two when he's in this 50s. When most guys are doting over their grandchildren, this guy is going to be having children of his own.
Now that they're gone, and being a dad was my identity for so long, I felt lost. But I also value their happiness over my own. No, it appears you value your dick over what your kids have to say, like most Breeders. They are likely going to lose respect for you at best and hate you at worst.
As for my physical health, I run 10 miles a week and I lift weights. I take my DMT for the MS, I'm active, and my family lives well into their 80's and 90's.
The drugs may be working now, but the MS drugs do not work forever. Also, did your family members who lived so long have MS? I doubt it. You have a serious, life shortening illness that you are determined to minimize.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 01, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
Duh just wanted someone to tell him his idea to breed again is great and that he should go for it despite his age and his health. But since no one would stroke him for his brilliant idea, he's just going to ignore all the advice and do what he wants anyway because it'll be different for him! 
I mean that's great he runs and is compliant with his medications, but that's no guarantee that he'll be around long enough to see his kid grow up. Not to mention the fact that he and his wife would both be considered reproductively geriatric, which carries its own set of risks no matter how healthy either parent is. And where's he going to find the time to keep running when he's got a loaf to deal with? Unless of course he does the typical guy thing and fobs all the work off onto the Moo-wife while he goes and lives his life like normal.
Dude already completed his sentence - why the fuck does he want to start over?
I mean that's great he runs and is compliant with his medications, but that's no guarantee that he'll be around long enough to see his kid grow up. Not to mention the fact that he and his wife would both be considered reproductively geriatric, which carries its own set of risks no matter how healthy either parent is. And where's he going to find the time to keep running when he's got a loaf to deal with? Unless of course he does the typical guy thing and fobs all the work off onto the Moo-wife while he goes and lives his life like normal.
Dude already completed his sentence - why the fuck does he want to start over?
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 02, 2025 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 719 |
All this Geezer Breeder talk inspired me to look up an old pal who died. He breeded another kid at 48 w/ his new trophy wife. Fast forward 8 yrs later he died, and he was a 'healthy' guy. I figured his kid probably cant recall much before 4.5/5yrs old, as I know I didnt, and what I recall isnt really specific to my parents. By the time she was actually 5, he was probably already going thru the cancer, the pain, the weight loss, and had to be the strong kid giving him a cheerleader's welcome when he came from the doctor, I say this as the pics I see on mom's FB page, great position to put kid in.
When she gets older she aint gonna even recall those yrs. 8 isnt that old. His trophy wife married an age appropriate guy within 4 yrs. So kid was basically raised by another man So much for being a parent in your golden yrs. And, while his kids from his first marriage admire and love him, he wasnt really around for them on a regular basis as he and his wife were always on the outs, she would go abroad at months at a time, and/or go back to her home town w/ the kids when he had to move for work. They were 14 when he had this geezer kid. They all live in diff states, have very little social media connections from what I can see, so geezer's fam is non-existent in my opinion. What a waste in bothering to breed. He should just told trophy wife no, no second family for me. He was so used to alley-catting around when wife was away, I think many in our friend group were shocked he got married again at all after his official divorce, let alone more geezer breeding.
But this kid's story reflects all the pitfalls that the commenters were telling OP, but OP dont care, he never mentions child in his replies, just him him him, doing what he wants. Typical breeder, they never do it for the kids, but only what it brings to their lives, all the while telling the rest of us how altruistic they are for the sacrifices they make raising kid. Breeders are dumb Geezers are10x worst
When she gets older she aint gonna even recall those yrs. 8 isnt that old. His trophy wife married an age appropriate guy within 4 yrs. So kid was basically raised by another man So much for being a parent in your golden yrs. And, while his kids from his first marriage admire and love him, he wasnt really around for them on a regular basis as he and his wife were always on the outs, she would go abroad at months at a time, and/or go back to her home town w/ the kids when he had to move for work. They were 14 when he had this geezer kid. They all live in diff states, have very little social media connections from what I can see, so geezer's fam is non-existent in my opinion. What a waste in bothering to breed. He should just told trophy wife no, no second family for me. He was so used to alley-catting around when wife was away, I think many in our friend group were shocked he got married again at all after his official divorce, let alone more geezer breeding.
But this kid's story reflects all the pitfalls that the commenters were telling OP, but OP dont care, he never mentions child in his replies, just him him him, doing what he wants. Typical breeder, they never do it for the kids, but only what it brings to their lives, all the while telling the rest of us how altruistic they are for the sacrifices they make raising kid. Breeders are dumb Geezers are10x worst
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 05, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
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His trophy wife married an age appropriate guy within 4 yrs. So kid was basically raised by another man So much for being a parent in your golden yrs.
Geezer Breeder men are farking idiots, literally. Maybe this daughter got a good guy for a stepfather, but it's quite possible she did not. The statistics for molestation of girl children by stepfathers is pretty high. Abuse by stepparents is pretty common. Many times these people get remarried and that means the step parent or blended family situation.
Dud really needs to think if he wants his kid to be raised by another man.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 06, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
I've said it before and it applies to breeder and wanna-breeder men of all ages: it's VERY easy to say you want to have a kid or have another kid when you aren't going to be the one who is expected to take care of them. Most men who are all gung-ho about breeding are fully expecting the woman to do all the work and then they just show up for the Kodak moments. If they were told that they had to pull their weight as far as the brats' upbringing, I bet they would give the decision far more serious thought.
Also, I would very strongly wager that he and his wife would totally expect his kids to be on-call babysitters because Dad's too old to be a father and needs a break.
And what happens if they can't conceive because one or both have fertility problems? Would they adopt? Would they sink six figures into risky fertility treatments on the off chance an embryo latches on? Or would they do the sensible thing and accept their barren fate? Or WORSE, what if Duh has a daughter and expects her to be a surrogate to her own sibling?
Also, I would very strongly wager that he and his wife would totally expect his kids to be on-call babysitters because Dad's too old to be a father and needs a break.
And what happens if they can't conceive because one or both have fertility problems? Would they adopt? Would they sink six figures into risky fertility treatments on the off chance an embryo latches on? Or would they do the sensible thing and accept their barren fate? Or WORSE, what if Duh has a daughter and expects her to be a surrogate to her own sibling?
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 07, 2025 | Registered: 16 years ago Posts: 4,038 |
geezer breeder 'a pig-male-eon'
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
two cents ¢¢
CERTIFIED HOSEHEAD!!!
No one is more arrogant towards women, more aggressive or scornful, than the man who is anxious (insecure..my word) about his virility. Simone de Beauvoir
people (especially women) do not give ONE DAMN about what they inflict on children and I defy anyone to prove me wrong
Dysfunctional relationships almost always have a child. The more dysfunctional, the more children. The selfish wants of adults outweigh the needs of the child.
Some mistakes cannot be fixed, but some mistakes can be 'fixed'.
People who say they sleep like a baby usually don't have one. Leo J. Burke
Adoption agencies have strict criteria (usually). Breeders, whose combined IQ's would barely hit triple digits, have none.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 07, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Moo to be loses a clump at ten weeks and wants to take the remains to a funeral home and have it cremated for $700.
Moo wants to have a GoFundMe.
If they cannot afford a $700 expense should they really be having a kid?
From Am I the Asshole;
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC/comments/1mkecpe/am_i_the_a_miscarriage/
Moo wants to have a GoFundMe.
If they cannot afford a $700 expense should they really be having a kid?
From Am I the Asshole;
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC/comments/1mkecpe/am_i_the_a_miscarriage/
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So I miscarried at ten weeks, and was assisted with misopristol. Today I called a crematory and set everything up for my baby. I called my partner to talk to him and he asked the price I told him it was $700. He then said it was lot of money. I told him we could start a go fund me and I’ll sell my ps5 and my old ps4. He said he had to think about it. But what is there to think about. He asked me how long we had, I said not very long considering the baby was refrigerated, he said we can put them in the freezer. Which made me sick to my stomach. He also said “I thought we would have a burial in your back yard” I was shaken, my baby isn’t a pet. What if something dug them up, and we are renters.
Here are the three options Cremation $700 Burial $7000-$12000 Give to the doctor for testing (I will not do this because they cut the baby up to test it and you do not get the remains back) I did however already send the placenta
I think he wants to do the last one
I am so traumatized, tired, and I feel like because I couldn’t protect my baby in life I want to protect them in death. I want to honor them and love them.
I just don’t know what to do anymore
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 08, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
What the fuck would there even be to cremate at ten weeks? I had my cats cremated and I got very little back in terms of ashes - like 1/4 cup, maybe (a little more for my very fat cat). Compare a ten-week-old fetus to a cat in terms of size. There'd be nothing to give back. The funeral home would have to give Moo a handful of sand to shut her up because the fetus would probably disintegrate in the retort.
Like I think cremains are just the bones left from a person that are ground up into a fine powder after the muscle and organs are burned away. I don't think a 10-week-old fetus has a skeleton - it's just tissue at that point, as far as I'm aware. There would be nothing left to give back to Moo. I'm surprised the funeral home even agreed to do it because it seems like it would be a waste of resources to cremate a fetus. She keeps calling it a "baby" - I wonder if the funeral home thought it was a 10-week-old infant?
People in the comments seem to think her partner is being cold and unsupportive, but it sounds to me like he is just being realistic. If they need to do a GoFundMe for $700, they are probably fucking broke, and the guy did offer to do a backyard burial instead of flushing the clump down the toilet. Not sure their landlord would be okay with them burying a fetus on the property, but that's another story. Like maybe he'd be more on board with it if it was an actual born infant, but the miscarriage at that point was nothing but a heavy period. The boyfriend is not being cruel - she is overreacting.
I'm going to go out on a limb and assume government assistance would be involved, both for the birth and the child's existence. The dole doesn't cover funeral expenses, as far as I know.
Like I think cremains are just the bones left from a person that are ground up into a fine powder after the muscle and organs are burned away. I don't think a 10-week-old fetus has a skeleton - it's just tissue at that point, as far as I'm aware. There would be nothing left to give back to Moo. I'm surprised the funeral home even agreed to do it because it seems like it would be a waste of resources to cremate a fetus. She keeps calling it a "baby" - I wonder if the funeral home thought it was a 10-week-old infant?
People in the comments seem to think her partner is being cold and unsupportive, but it sounds to me like he is just being realistic. If they need to do a GoFundMe for $700, they are probably fucking broke, and the guy did offer to do a backyard burial instead of flushing the clump down the toilet. Not sure their landlord would be okay with them burying a fetus on the property, but that's another story. Like maybe he'd be more on board with it if it was an actual born infant, but the miscarriage at that point was nothing but a heavy period. The boyfriend is not being cruel - she is overreacting.
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bell_flower
If they cannot afford a $700 expense should they really be having a kid?
I'm going to go out on a limb and assume government assistance would be involved, both for the birth and the child's existence. The dole doesn't cover funeral expenses, as far as I know.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices August 10, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
This Moo doesn't want her husband or brother changing her child's diaper unless it's some kind of emergency because all men are pedos.
If this story isn't fake, I'd say this Moo is very disturbed. It's not all that uncommon on Reddit either.
Not to worry, 3 years from now she'll be divorced and having sex in front of her kid with her new boyfriend because she "deserves to have a life."
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC/comments/1mm6jpb/aitah_for_changing_my_nieces_diaper_and_then/
If this story isn't fake, I'd say this Moo is very disturbed. It's not all that uncommon on Reddit either.
Not to worry, 3 years from now she'll be divorced and having sex in front of her kid with her new boyfriend because she "deserves to have a life."
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I am 18m and the people relevant here are my sister 24f, my niece 1f, and my mom 50s f.
My sister was over with my niece a few days ago. The four of us all went to lunch and it was nice. Sister then came back to the house to hang out more. My mom mentioned going to a cafe near our house for coffee or ice cream. I said I’ll pass but my sister wanted to go. She asked me if I wouldn’t mind watching my niece and I happily said yes. Said they’d be gone no more than an hour and a half.
Soon after they left, I realized my nieces diaper was dirty so I changed her. We then went for a walk around the neighborhood and came back and started watching a movie. My mom and sister returned after two hours, which didn’t bother me at all because I love spending time with my niece.
Sister asked if she had been good and I said yes and I told her what we did, and also mentioned that she had pooped because I thought parents ought to know that kind of stuff about their babies. My sister was like “oh ok I’ll change her now” and I told her I already did, over an hour ago. She looked absolutely horrified. Said I should not have done and “crossed a boundary.” I was genuinely confused. My sister has never acted like this before. I asked why and she said that a man shouldn’t be changing a girls diaper. She went on to say that even her own husband (nieces dad) only changes her “in emergencies.” I asked if she would have rather I let her sit in a dirty diaper and she didn’t respond.
They left soon after this and my sister was like “I’m not mad anymore, but ask me before doing something like that next time, ok?” I told her there wouldn’t be a next time and I wouldn’t be watching my niece again. I said I’m not watching a child if I have to “ask” whether it’s ok for me to change their diaper. If a child under my care has a dirty diaper I’m changing it. So I won’t watch her again. She left upset.
My mom was witness to all this but stayed quiet. When my sister left, I asked what she thought. She said I absolutely did nothing wrong, but that she also “understands where sister is coming from.”
I feel gross about this whole thing. Makes me feel weird that my sister acted this way about me changing a literal diaper. I love kids and I’m going to college for a career in healthcare and will literally be working with children. Some of which diapers I will undoubtedly be changing. And this isn’t even a matter of not knowing how to properly change diapers for female anatomy. My girlfriend and I babysit her little cousins probably at least every other week and I have learned to change their diapers if needed, male or female.
TLDR: I changed my nieces diaper while babysitting and she got upset with me. I told her I wouldn’t be babysitting for her again.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC/comments/1mm6jpb/aitah_for_changing_my_nieces_diaper_and_then/
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