Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices

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Disgusting Moo
Someone was shitty about me nursing my baby. He was fussy when we were in the kids pool while they were playing. I decided to nurse him a little and I cannot emphasize how discreet I was because my husbands siblings were there and I normally never nurse in front of them. I was tucked into the side with his hat over me. He fell asleep. We moved over to the bigger pool and I had him on my shoulder sleeping while the kids were swimming. This lifeguard goes “that’s her” and calls me over to the side to tell me she and others have noticed me breastfeeding in the pool and it’s “bad for the pool?????????????” And makes people uncomfortable. I was so upset. I said “I don’t care if they’re uncomfortable, it’s illegal to tell a woman she can’t breastfeed in public.” She told me I should sit on a bench.

I’m literally holding my baby in a swim diaper that he’s probably peed through into the pool three times. Grown adults piss in the pool. People poop and then get in the pool! Any milk that gets into the pool (which was NONE) is not the problem. And if it was they’d have to have a rule that no one who leaks breastmilk can swim….how are they planning to enforce that?! I’m so fucking upset. I’ve had nothing but positive experiences nursing in public prior to this.

The manager had left for the day but we plan to call him and send an email but I genuinely feel like I never want to go back.

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Moo
but I genuinely feel like I never want to go back.

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Moo in comments
You are NOT responsible for their comfort or absolute ignorance. Treating breastfeeding as if it were equal to vomiting is just CRAZY! That’s essentially what they were saying.

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Me and my partner (in our 20s) never saw ourselves having kids in future. But an unplanned pregnancy happened. I was 9 weeks when I found out and as someone who is pro life, I chose to keep the baby and I could not imagine myself aborting especially after seeing the heartbeat on the screen. He wanted me to abort but said it was ultimately my choice and he would support my decision.

He appeared to be supportive for the next few months and we were planning a wedding. We were also getting a house together before we found out about the baby so to me it just felt like our future plans to get married just became earlier.

However a week before our wedding he suddenly expressed that he did not want a life with a child and almost called off the wedding. We still ended up getting married. Also for some context, in my country if a child is born out of wedlock, you will not be entitled to a lot of government benefits and welfare.

Now I am 33 weeks pregnant and he says that the closer the baby is due, the more his resentment and unhappiness grows. He resents that my choice ruined his life goals and he had no say in the choice to keep the child. He also said the child is an inconvenience to him. While he says he will still support the child financially and hope he grows up well, he says he cannot see the baby as his own child and only cares for the baby as a human being. We are going for couples therapy but he said that he will give up going if he does not see any hope in therapy trying to change his mind.

On the other hand, both mine and his parents are excited for the baby's arrival. While I am thankful that my in-laws are supportive, I feel so miserable since we got married. I thought he was supportive too and imagined that we would have our little family together but I didn't know he was bottling his resentment against me. He said he misses us and how happy we were before the baby, but missing us does not seem enough for him to let go of the resentment.

I feel so lost and I am not sure what to do. I wanted to be happy for the baby's arrival but now I am scared and sad that my baby has a father who sees him as a nuisance to his life. I also feel a divorce coming. I also wonder will seeing the baby physically change his mind or fuel the resentment further.

Has anyone gone through something similar and how are you now?

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I am 51m married 28 yrs to a 49f with 10 children's. Ages 24 to 7 yrs. 4 under of 18. I work, wife is a homemaker.

I have multiple medical issue's from head to toe for the last 10 yrs. I have chronic back pain w/ siatiac extend down to right leg. Diagnose with Degenerative disc changes at L3-4 & L5-S1; mild dorsal bulge & annular tear at L5-S1; no canal stenosis; no significant foraminal narrowing; L5 pars defect unchanged Stable chronic changes; disc bulge noted but not compressing nerves. I have a implanted Boston Scientific spinal cord stimulator for the last 3 yrs. Also been on Hydrocodone, methadone for yrs and multiple other medications.

Both left and right forearms had surgery 4 yrs ago.

In both left and right wrist. Chronic, degenerative, or metabolic process affecting the wrist cartilage, which could cause intermittent pain or stiffness. I have no tendon in my wrist the next step is bone fusion, i still work dc dose not recommend it due to lost of stability.

Right knee I have gone through 2 ACL replacement. I now have a full knee replacement.

Left knee. Medial meniscal tear and Mild quadriceps tendinopathy and cartilage wear suggest some early degenerative changes, so strengthening and joint protection strategies are important.

Both left and right foot. There are mild, chronic stress-related changes in bones, ligaments, and tendons. No acute fracture or major tear is present. Findings are consistent with chronic stress, early arthritis, or old injuries rather than a sudden new injury.

Right shoulder. You have significant rotator cuff injury with a full-thickness tear of the supraspinatus, partial tearing of the infraspinatus and subscapularis, and probable involvement of the biceps tendon/labral complex. There’s prior surgical repair in place, moderate AC joint arthritis, and some inflammation, but the muscles themselves are not yet atrophied. Had surgery Feb. 27, 2025 retore had another surgery on July 2, 2025, now in pt for next 8 wks.

My back is intermittent in chronic pain, I get inflammation in the joints from my tailbone up to my lower back. Sporadic pain on both sides or one or the other of the lower back. Sometimes sharp pain down the right leg. My wrist hurt intermittently just for using them. Both my knees aches most of the time. My feet hurt alot after walking for short period of time. I am always in some type of pain. I do see pain management and ortho dc constantly. I take up to 8 different medication some or narcotics. I am just women out and can not take it any longer living life like this.

I do work, I am on shore term disability for my shoulder at this time. I worked 4 different jobs since 17, 51 now. My wife has not work in 28 yrs besides a homemaker. Family relies on my income, insurance and so on.

What are my chances of getting social security disability?

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dumb girlfriend
I’m a gf, but my bf calls me step mom to his children M15 & M18. Over the last year and a half I assumed the role of a step parent. I have grown to love these kids but my SO makes it hard to have a relationship. Whenever we get into an argument, he calls the 18 y/o to interfere and he tells the story, but when I speak I no longer can ‘talk to the 18 year old’. I’ve voiced my opinions that it’s not fair for me to be a step parent when it’s convenient for everyone but the moment and argument arises they aren’t my kids… I recently started to nacho. In July the kids had a birthday. 15 year old got a ps5 and the 18 year old got 1k stack of money. I told my partner that we needed to manage our money better and that we were going to move. Two weeks ago we did a cross country move to a new state and money is tight. To make matters worse My partner spent well over the limit on back to school shopping and clothes. I did not choose to spend any of my money because I knew we had other financial obligations such as getting things for a new house. However my partner called me out because he says I’m not contributing when we agreed what we will pay on the new house and HE overspent compensating. We got into an argument yesterday and my partner called the 18 year old down and involved him in our argument which made me feel like it’s them vs me. My partner is also an alcoholic and his drinking habits don’t seem to get any better. Half the time he sleeps in late because he’s hung over and does it all again the same night. Day after day. It’s impossible to talk to him because he feels like I’m coming at the kids or him. I believe he has guilt in his drinking problem, his lack of parenting and also just parenting alone. I tried to be a step mom in this situation and provide support but honestly feeling isolated whenever there’s an argument made me want to sever ties with the kids. The kids come to when only when they need something financially and I feel like a bank. At this point I fear I made a huge mistake moving in to this situation. I feel unappreciated and unsupported. I was told yesterday ‘ I’ve only been parenting for like 3 days’ when I’ve been doing this for a year and a half. Taking them to basketball practice at 5 in the morning. Supporting prom, clothing, food, taking them to events, job interviews etc. I realize this is such a thankless job and it always results in, you don’t have kids you wouldn’t understand… I’m so tired of hearing that. When I do try my absolute best at parenting. I feel ashamed for wanting to give up. But I can’t be the only adult who cares. Both of these children’s parents are severe alcoholics and apparently I was wrong for telling the 18 year old your father will die if he doesn’t stop drinking. Apparently I was projecting when I’ve experienced my partner for the last year drink a whole bottle of alcohol daily and that’s not exaggeration. So I guess today I’m going to nacho going forward and let him handle his kids. It’s hard for me to stay in watch because the 18 year old lacks discipline and my SO does not know how to guide him at this age, but I cannot continue to expel anymore energy I feel depressed

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Peace
From r/stepparents:

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This girlfriend is upset that her duh boyfriend is using his teenage sons against her in any argument. He's also a raging alcoholic, which doesn't help one iota.

Why do (mostly) women get involved with single or divorced duhs?? This post is just one of many in that sub of mainly women ranting on how they're used, abused, and exploited by single/married duhs with kids from a different woman. If it's not asking her to fork over $$$ for the kid, it's guilt-tripping her into free babysitting, or free chauffeuring the kid around before and/or after school/weekends. The worst is the younger women living with these guys, because it's mostly younger women getting roped into these situations. They're inexperienced and love bombed by douchbags looking for a woman to parent and financially support his kids. It's just gross.

A thousand pardons for the wall of text. This is how she wrote it, without basic paragraphs or correct punctuation.

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dumb girlfriend
I’m a gf, but my bf calls me step mom to his children M15 & M18. Over the last year and a half I assumed the role of a step parent. I have grown to love these kids but my SO makes it hard to have a relationship. Whenever we get into an argument, he calls the 18 y/o to interfere and he tells the story, but when I speak I no longer can ‘talk to the 18 year old’. I’ve voiced my opinions that it’s not fair for me to be a step parent when it’s convenient for everyone but the moment and argument arises they aren’t my kids… I recently started to nacho. In July the kids had a birthday. 15 year old got a ps5 and the 18 year old got 1k stack of money. I told my partner that we needed to manage our money better and that we were going to move. Two weeks ago we did a cross country move to a new state and money is tight. To make matters worse My partner spent well over the limit on back to school shopping and clothes. I did not choose to spend any of my money because I knew we had other financial obligations such as getting things for a new house. However my partner called me out because he says I’m not contributing when we agreed what we will pay on the new house and HE overspent compensating. We got into an argument yesterday and my partner called the 18 year old down and involved him in our argument which made me feel like it’s them vs me. My partner is also an alcoholic and his drinking habits don’t seem to get any better. Half the time he sleeps in late because he’s hung over and does it all again the same night. Day after day. It’s impossible to talk to him because he feels like I’m coming at the kids or him. I believe he has guilt in his drinking problem, his lack of parenting and also just parenting alone. I tried to be a step mom in this situation and provide support but honestly feeling isolated whenever there’s an argument made me want to sever ties with the kids. The kids come to when only when they need something financially and I feel like a bank. At this point I fear I made a huge mistake moving in to this situation. I feel unappreciated and unsupported. I was told yesterday ‘ I’ve only been parenting for like 3 days’ when I’ve been doing this for a year and a half. Taking them to basketball practice at 5 in the morning. Supporting prom, clothing, food, taking them to events, job interviews etc. I realize this is such a thankless job and it always results in, you don’t have kids you wouldn’t understand… I’m so tired of hearing that. When I do try my absolute best at parenting. I feel ashamed for wanting to give up. But I can’t be the only adult who cares. Both of these children’s parents are severe alcoholics and apparently I was wrong for telling the 18 year old your father will die if he doesn’t stop drinking. Apparently I was projecting when I’ve experienced my partner for the last year drink a whole bottle of alcohol daily and that’s not exaggeration. So I guess today I’m going to nacho going forward and let him handle his kids. It’s hard for me to stay in watch because the 18 year old lacks discipline and my SO does not know how to guide him at this age, but I cannot continue to expel anymore energy I feel depressed

https://www.reddit.com/r/stepparents/comments/1n1kd3h/here_to_vent_so_uses_their_kids_against_me/

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So, some backstory. I (30F) have a cousin (27F) who was adopted by my aunt (66F) shortly after birth. She was born with a condition that caused my cousin to be cognitively disabled. I’d estimate her cognitive ability to be around 10 years old.

My cousin has poor impulse control and is easily agitated. She has very little ability to regulate her emotions, and lashes out physically when something upset her. She has had an ambulance called for psych emergencies many times by my aunt when, and while she’s never physically hurt any of the kids in our family, we all agreed a long time ago that she shouldn’t be unsupervised around younger kids.

A few years ago she met a young man at a special needs adult activity group they both belonged to. He’s a nice guy, though also cognitively impaired. They started dating, then with their respective guardians’ blessings, they got married about a year later. They were able to move into an assisted living apartment situation for disabled adults. Our family was all very happy for them. However her behaviors escalated. She became physically/emotionally abusive to her husband. They were kicked out of their assisted living apartment because of her episodes and moved back in with my aunt.

About six months ago, my cousin excitedly announced that she is pregnant. When some family went to my aunt (who had my cousin on the implant as far as we knew) we learned that my aunt had taken my cousin to get the implant removed, then encouraged her to get pregnant. My aunt was over the moon about being a grandmother, and refused to hear any concerns about it. The whole family is in an uproar. My cousin flips out over minor inconveniences. She’s not going to be able to regulate herself when her newborn is screaming at 4 in the morning. When it became clear that my aunt was keeping the blinders on, I had to walk away. I’ve not spoken to my aunt or cousin since the big blowup.

A couple weeks ago I decided to donate the crib, car seat, and stroller that I used for my kids to a local women’s shelter during a big cleaning purge. I had mentioned the donation to a different cousin and somehow it got back to my aunt, who called me, utterly furious. When she asked why I didn’t offer them to my cousin, I said my cousin has no business having a baby she can’t safely raise and I wanted no involvement in it at all. My aunt fired back that I wasn’t actually so concerned about the baby if I didn’t want to contribute things I already had, and that I was more focused on my disapproval. She hung up on me shortly after.

Now I’m wondering if she’s right. My husband says I’m not obligated to give them anything, but I’m second guessing my character over this. Does this make me the buttface?

ETA relevant info:

CYS has been contacted, by multiple family members. Until the baby is born, there isn’t anything they can do yet.

APS was also called, and this doesn’t fall under their authority as my aunt did not break any laws since she’s my cousin’s guardian. Essentially my cousin understands that no birth control means she could get pregnant, and that sex causes pregnancy. She wanted to get pregnant.

It’s not illegal for people with cognitive disabilities to get married or get pregnant, nor should it be. America has a bad history of using “mental deficiencies” as a reason for eugenics. The problem here is my cousin’s dangerously unstable behavior that makes me worried for how she will handle having a baby.

My cousin’s condition isn’t genetic. There is no concern that her child will also be born with disabilities. She is going to an OB and getting regular checkups from what other family members have told me. Her behaviors have not stopped, according to a family member I talked to.

ETA2: I asked the shelter first if they accepted car seats and they said they’d did if the seat wasn’t expired and it hadn’t been in any accidents no matter how severe. I didn’t dump it on them. I know car seats expire and are not any good if they’ve been in a car accident.

ETA3: I get that my cousin’s pregnancy is a nightmare situation and my aunt is nuts for enabling it. That’s isn’t the question. I was asking if I’m an asshole for not giving the baby stuff to my cousin and instead donating it a women’s shelter.

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My original post was from a few months ago but I deleted it because it got kinda popular and I was getting so many horrible comments (I’m not talking about criticism/ people calling me an AH, it was genuinely some really disgusting things).

The TLDR of my original post is that my bf and I had a surprise pregnancy (we used condoms), he didn’t want me to get an abortion (it’s illegal in my state and I don’t drive) so we decided to have our baby and I dropped out of school and became a SAHM to take care of him since we don’t have a lot of money. I’m with our baby all day and at the time I was cooking meals for my bf sometimes when I had the energy to but he wanted home cooked meals every day. Basically I was exhausted and I felt like he didn’t appreciate everything else that I was doing and my effort of trying to cook for him when I could so I told him that if he wanted me to be a housewife, he needs to give me the “house” and the “wife” part first. I know now that it was a petty and hurtful thing to say because he works hard and he was trying his best.

From my last post many people suggested that I should take my baby and stay with my parents for a while. That’s exactly what I did, I ended up saying with them for about a month (they live across the country from us). My mom and I talked about things a lot, she gave me a lot of good advice especially on communication, and she taught me some recipes that are fast and easy that I can cook for both our baby when he gets a little bit older and for my bf.

After about 2.5 weeks my bf flew out to meet us. Having some space from each other and my conversations with my mom ultimately helped us realize that we’re both trying our best, having a new baby in such a small space and the financial stress on top of that is hard! We reconciled, and the rest of the vacation was a blast making memories as a family together!

Soon after we got back home we upgraded from a studio apartment to a 1 bedroom apartment, it’s still small but it’s infinitely better having 2 rooms, especially since our baby is bigger now and he is starting to crawl around! We have a bigger kitchen so cooking is less cramped, and we have another room so when my baby screams because he wants my attention I can put him in his pack and play in the other room and cook and do other chores without losing my mind lol.

Now on to the major update, my bf proposed! It’s only been a few weeks but I’m so excited and have already started planning! At first I was worried that it wasn’t a genuine proposal given the pressure that I had put on him earlier, but he showed me the receipt for the ring. He had purchased it months before our fight and he was waiting for the right time to propose!

I’m sorry if this update is boring/ not very dramatic, I got some DMs asking for updates but I kinda forgot, between visiting my family and then moving and my baby getting bigger and requiring more attention I’ve been so busy! Thank you to the people who left advice, supportive comments, and constructive criticism under my last post!

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Hi teachers! Parent here.... I'm in this sub from when I used to be a public school coach I enjoy reading your posts so that I can stay in tune to what teachers are going through so I can be the best parent. My first child just entered public School kindergarten. He's been in private preschool since he was one. We are only about 2 weeks in and he's been coming home telling me about a little boy in his class that we will call James. He tells me things like "James gets really angry and doesn't know how to calm down." "Mommy, James picked up his chair and threw it at our teacher today. It hit her in the leg and she cried a little bit." "Today James picked up his chair and threw it at the teacher's desk and it made a loud sound like thunder and everybody got scared." "James threw his chair at the Reading carpet but he didn't hit anybody. He missed." "Everyday James gets really angry and screams. The teacher can't calm him down so we all have to go next door to wait in Ms Kelly's room So he doesn't hurt anybody." "We had to 'vaccum-ate" our classroom again today." We eventually figured out that he meant that they had to evacuate his classroom again to go to the classroom next door until they could calm James down. According to our kindergartener, do I know it's not always the most reliable source, tells us that they have to do this every day if not twice a day.

That is literally the full extent of what I know about the situation.

I told my son that we should be extra kind and patient to James. I explained to my little one that he might not have the best home life or his brain just might need extra help calming down. And then I also told him that when James gets really angry to get away from him as quickly as possible and tell a teacher that James needs help. We have also made sure to remind him that he can tell us anything and that he especially should tell us if he ever feels scared at school.

I'm assuming that this little boy is neurodivergent but of course I don't know anything specific about his diagnosis. What kind of general advice can I give my 5-year-old to help him with the empathy and safety around his classmate? I know that our neurodivergent little ones sometimes have a hard time acclimating to a neurotypical world and it would be helpful if more students were taught to help accommodate them. I really don't have any experience in this area so any advice is appreciated.

ETA Thank you everyone for all your advice. I'm still going through everyone's responses. Thank you for letting me know that this is something I can advocate for not only on behalf of my child but for James and the teacher as well. Honestly I just assumed that the district wouldn't do anything especially because we live in a red state and the department of education was recently gutted. I know everybody was concerned about special needs kids not getting the help that they need and I just assumed that this was What was happening. I already planned to speak to the teacher on Tuesday but wanted to post here at first. So that I did you guys have given me such great insight! I've already been up the school and district's ass last week because they literally lost track of our child the first day he rode the bus home. He was on the bus the whole time but when they got to our bus stop, the bus driver yelled at everyone to sit down and be quiet. We were there waiting at the bus stop and the bus driver assured us that they were no kindergarteners on the bus and definitely not any first day bus riders because the school forgot to inform him apparently. We of course called the school and they didn't know where our son was. By the time they found him he was the last one on the bus and the bus had already gone to a completely different neighborhood. They found him crying in the back. we've been working with the school counselor, the district, the teacher and transportation. We have a super confident, happy, I'm laid-back kid so it takes a lot to scare him so this was a really big deal. So now that we have that sorted out, I will bring this up on Tuesday. Thank you everyone for all the advice.

ETA 2: got my kiddo to talk more about this and he says that James dies have a "helper teacher" and even knew his name.

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I'll preface by saying I am not a fully fledged teacher. I studied for it and do have a degree but I followed a completely different path right after graduating from this fear.

I spent this summer working on a cram school type thing on weekends to supplement some additional income to save up. I can confidently say that this experience has left me shattered even more on the state of the world.

These children are quite literally vapid. Empty husks, no real desire or sense. Their bodies are here but their mind is not present. They seem to have been on nothing but phones since they were born and their brain just doesn't handle anything at all. There is absolutely no trace of any brain activity trying to solve something or put together something. All they want is for the class to end so they can spend the recess scrolling reels.

I knew it was bad but the way this is going, I'm geniunely terrified of the next decade or two. We're going to have entire adults that lack memory and critical thinking and so much more.

I myself was a computer hermit in my child years but I think the difference is that the internet stayed home. It had a specific room and when you got off, it was over. But now everyone has it on them all the time and this is really not doing any good for society. I keep seeing months old children on their strollers playing on their moms phone. They can't SPEAK but they USE PHONES. What is going on???

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Whiny yet hostile GrandMoo Wanna be
How do you handle it when most around you are and they talk about it a lot. I so hope to be but may not.....time will tell.

I am editing my post due to the attacks I am getting on here! Did I say I expect my kids to have them for me? No! If you have nothing nice to say scroll by? I thought this group of over 60 yr old women was formed to support each other..

I will be contacting an admin for clarification because if is not....I am out! Many thanks to those of you who responded kindly. The few of you who did not can eff off!

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But my point is that being overly focused on Grandkids is odd and motherhood is a big sacrifice for women.

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Que Rabid GrandMoo WannaBe
Omg I am not overly focused on it, just wanted to "chat" about it!

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“What Was I Thinking?
I’m 20. I’m autistic. I have fibromyalgia. And somehow, I had a baby.
She’s five months old. Can’t even crawl or talk yet, just makes this high pitched, grating whine when she’s upset. I can never figure out what’s wrong. It’s just constant overstimulation and confusion. And she’s still a newborn. What happens when she starts walking? Talking? Screaming?
I’m reading through this page and feeling sick. Like this was a colossal mistake. Is this my future? Just… drowning until I’m 40?
My partner does nothing. Literally. He gets up, goes to work, comes home, eats, plays on his computer, sleeps. That’s it. Meanwhile I’m expected to do everything; feed her, hold her, rock her, clean, cook, figure out why she’s crying for the eighth hour in a row. And if I say I’m exhausted? I get shamed. “All you do is sit on the couch with a baby.” I wish that’s all it was. Imagine how easy that would be.
I haven’t showered in weeks. I wear the same dirty clothes every day. My hair is matted. I don’t eat until 9pm, and even then I have to inhale whatever scraps I can find with one hand. The house is wrecked. There is no rest. There is no help. There is no time.
I’m starting to realize I didn’t just have a baby, I gave up my life. I feel like I made a mistake I can’t undo. And I don’t know how to live like this.”

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I feel sick writing this but I honestly don’t know if I’m losing it or if something is really wrong.

My daughter Emily is 16. Her boyfriend Alex is also 16. They’ve been dating almost a year. He’s a sweet, respectful kid. When I first met him I thought he was a girl dressing masculine, but he later explained he’s intersex. He doesn’t like using other terms to explain himself and I respected that.

So when his conservative parents kicked him out for dating a bi girl, Emily begged me to let him stay. I wasn’t going to let a teenager be homeless, so he’s been living with us for the past five months.

TThe problem is my husband, Jason. Four years ago, I caught him on a dating site trying to meet trans boys. He swore it was a mistake, we did counseling, and I stayed. But the way he acts toward Alex feels too familiar.

Jason goes out of his way to hover. He sits next to Alex when the couch is empty or takes the seat beside him at dinner more than not, offers homework help Alex never asked for, cracks jokes and then just stares at him laughing.

He’s been buying Alex expensive clothes and gifts, the kind of stuff he rarely buys me or Emily, and not for any special occasion, just out of blur . He lingers outside Alex’s room with excuses about making sure the room wasn't too cold or hold or that he's looking for something of his.

He’s made little “jokes” about treating Alex better than Emily, and compliments him in ways that make me uncomfortable, saying how soft his skin looks, how delicate his features are, or that he has pretty hair. I think it makes Ales uncomfortable too with the way how his curt replies tend to be.

He sometimes to seems to be jealous when Emily and Alex are just doing stuff like holding or cuddling, like he looks just straight up tense, jaw clenched and afterward he’s short with Emily like she’s done something wrong.

Jason also tries to wedge himself into their time. If Emily and Alex say they’re going to the movies, Jason will suddenly want to tag along or offer a ride and then suggest staying. If they’re playing a game or watching a movie in the living room, Jason plops down and insists on joining in, even if they clearly wanted to be alone. Emily has started snapping at him to give them space or straight up changing plans at the last minute to avoid him inserting himself.

I’ve fought with Jason over this before. I’ll bring up whatever he's done that day or the past and he calls me paranoid, dramatic, jealous, and makes me feel like I’m imagining things until I just quit arguing for the moment.

Then came last week. Emily teased Alex about being a dry texter, just silly stuff. Jason jumped in hard, telling Emily she was being unfair and Alex deserved better treatment. Then he said Alex probably feels more cared for by him anyway. Emily then yelled at him that he's creepy and to stop acting like he's Alex's boyfriend before storming out with Alex. They said they’d stay at a friend’s house.

When we were alone I told Jason he was obsessed with Alex and that his behavior was not normal. He exploded, called me disgusting and paranoid, said I was jealous of a teenager, and told me to get out if I really thought that of him. Then he got his mom and sister on the phone right in front of me, and they started calling me insane, toxic, accusing me of trying to ruin my own family.

Jason literally followed me from room to room with them on speaker while they piled on me until I finally locked myself in our bedroom. I refused to come out and he slept on the couch that night.

It’s been silent treatment ever since. Emily and Alex are back at the house, things look norma” on the surface, but Jason barely speaks to me unless it’s curt or cold. I feel insane and I don't know what to do.

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bell_flower
I feel sorry for kids who are growing up with social media. Most of the time their stupid parents are whining about SM, but still giving their brats phones and unlimited access to electronic devices. Someone is paying for all that, yanno? Heaven forbid they actually have to watch their kids, but most of the time the parents are on their own phones. I see it at the gym all the time. Even parents whose children are in the kiddie pool are NOT WATCHING THEIR BRATS. There is NO LIFEGUARD and signs are posted everywhere. Their eyes are glued to their phones.

There are phones that are just phones with no internet, so parents don't have to make the excuse of "snotleigh must have a phone for him to contact me." In the alternate universe where I had a kid, that's what I would be doing.

Onward to other postings. This one is particularly hilarious from the over 60 forum. A woman is asking for "support" because she (gasp) may not be getting grand brats! She is VERY thin skinned and apparently edited her post and is even threatening to flounce and she wants to contact the moderators. I didn't see her first posting but you know she likely whined and was hyper-focused on nagging her children, and someone called her out on it.

Only one person called her a Breeder but she is COMPLETELY OFFENDED when people tell her to focus on her own life.

It's gratifying to me to see the number of parents who are responding and saying they are supporting their kids who aren't having kids. Let's just hope they are really meaning it and acting this way in real life. One of my in-laws used to be very grandbaby rabid but she is seeing the political realities and the economic realities and what a shit show the US is now. Now she's glad nobody is having kids. Refreshing but what a pity it took so long to happen.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver60/comments/1ncf5co/not_a_grandma/

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Whiny yet hostile GrandMoo Wanna be
How do you handle it when most around you are and they talk about it a lot. I so hope to be but may not.....time will tell.

I am editing my post due to the attacks I am getting on here! Did I say I expect my kids to have them for me? No! If you have nothing nice to say scroll by? I thought this group of over 60 yr old women was formed to support each other..

I will be contacting an admin for clarification because if is not....I am out! Many thanks to those of you who responded kindly. The few of you who did not can eff off!

Here's an exchange:

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But my point is that being overly focused on Grandkids is odd and motherhood is a big sacrifice for women.

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Que Rabid GrandMoo WannaBe
Omg I am not overly focused on it, just wanted to "chat" about it!

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Cambion
It's like those people who are in jail for 30 years who go get arrested again the second they're released because they don't know any other way to live.

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“What Was I Thinking?
I’m 20. I’m autistic. I have fibromyalgia. And somehow, I had a baby.
She’s five months old. Can’t even crawl or talk yet, just makes this high pitched, grating whine when she’s upset. I can never figure out what’s wrong. It’s just constant overstimulation and confusion. And she’s still a newborn. What happens when she starts walking? Talking? Screaming?
I’m reading through this page and feeling sick. Like this was a colossal mistake. Is this my future? Just… drowning until I’m 40?
My partner does nothing. Literally. He gets up, goes to work, comes home, eats, plays on his computer, sleeps. That’s it. Meanwhile I’m expected to do everything; feed her, hold her, rock her, clean, cook, figure out why she’s crying for the eighth hour in a row. And if I say I’m exhausted? I get shamed. “All you do is sit on the couch with a baby.” I wish that’s all it was. Imagine how easy that would be.
I haven’t showered in weeks. I wear the same dirty clothes every day. My hair is matted. I don’t eat until 9pm, and even then I have to inhale whatever scraps I can find with one hand. The house is wrecked. There is no rest. There is no help. There is no time.
I’m starting to realize I didn’t just have a baby, I gave up my life. I feel like I made a mistake I can’t undo. And I don’t know how to live like this.”