Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 01, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
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kittehpeoples
Does anybody else remember the article/essay/diatribe written by the woman in a serious, long term relationship where the guy didn't want children but she said she wasn't going to let that stop her? They were both in their late 30s iirc, living together, and she had decided that just because her partner was CF that didn't mean she had to be. She said she didn't expect him to do anything to help with the child (hahahahahaha) but she was getting IVF essentially using the excuse of "I'm a grown up and I can do what I like."
I often wonder how well that turned out, lol.
I haven't heard this one before. Do you know the title of the article? Also, if the husband wasn't on board, whose sperm was she using? I can't imagine that marriage survived, especially if she went and used donor sperm to get pigged up.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 02, 2025 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,546 |
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kittehpeoples
Does anybody else remember the article/essay/diatribe written by the woman in a serious, long term relationship where the guy didn't want children but she said she wasn't going to let that stop her? They were both in their late 30s iirc, living together, and she had decided that just because her partner was CF that didn't mean she had to be. She said she didn't expect him to do anything to help with the child (hahahahahaha) but she was getting IVF essentially using the excuse of "I'm a grown up and I can do what I like."
I often wonder how well that turned out, lol.
I haven't heard this one before. Do you know the title of the article? Also, if the husband wasn't on board, whose sperm was she using? I can't imagine that marriage survived, especially if she went and used donor sperm to get pigged up.
I don't remember where I read it, and I really wish I could. She was intending to use donor sperm, and really presented it as an independent choice she was making that wouldn't affect her relationship much, if at all. Like she could keep raising a kid completely separate from her partnership (they weren't married, iirc). She just seemed to be in complete denial about it. Like people who want to have kids and swear it won't change their friendship circle or career arc or ability to travel or spending habits or or or and then are completely "blindsided" when it turns out kids upend your life.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 02, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
I suppose if her significant other is a complete simp, he might be okay with her knocking herself up with another man's sperm and raising the resulting child he didn't personally want. And LOL she SAYS he wouldn't have to contribute, but when she realizes how expensive it is to breed, I bet she'd be trying to wrangle child support out of him. I'm sure she would put his name on the birth certificate as the father too.
I hope the guy noped the fuck out of that hot mess. Plenty of CF women out there to pick from without having to settle for a wanna-breeder. I suppose it's better for her to have been so open about her intentions rather than oopsing her partner.
I hope the guy noped the fuck out of that hot mess. Plenty of CF women out there to pick from without having to settle for a wanna-breeder. I suppose it's better for her to have been so open about her intentions rather than oopsing her partner.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 02, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
A few years ago I worked with a woman who had twin boys and they were always out of control and there were always doctor's visits, etc. I think they were about eight. I found out later that she was this EXACT scenario except it was her husband. AND I found out later she went to Europe because she was too old for American IVF. She used a donor egg and donor sperm and get knocked up with twins that turned out to be autistic terrors. AND her husband was staying married to her. (Dumbass.)
Anyway, this Reddit Moo lost custody of her child to her mother and is whining how controlling her mother is. Maybe it's true but after you read the story you see that she hasn't seen her kid in FIVE YEARS. She's such a victim, etc. I would bet she left out a lot from this story:
I'm sure she will yank the whole thing pretty soon.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC/comments/1om9inw/wibta_if_i_completely_stepped_out_of_my_daughters/
Anyway, this Reddit Moo lost custody of her child to her mother and is whining how controlling her mother is. Maybe it's true but after you read the story you see that she hasn't seen her kid in FIVE YEARS. She's such a victim, etc. I would bet she left out a lot from this story:
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I (37F) have been fighting for custody of my daughter (13) for the last 11 years. I know that sounds bad on paper, but please hear me out.
When my daughter was about two, my mother gained custody of her during a very rough time in my life. People like to say I had a “drug problem,” but the truth is it was just weed. I have never been ashamed of that. My daughter’s father is not involved. When I was pregnant, he had a schizophrenic episode that left me stranded far from home. Since then, it has basically been me trying to rebuild my life and stay connected to my child while my mother does everything she can to keep control.
Fast forward to now. I have spent years trying to show the court that I have turned my life around. I have had stable housing, no criminal record, I do not drink or use anything harder than weed, and I have done everything asked of me. Despite that, my mother continues to act like I am a danger or unfit. She is narcissistic, controlling, and thrives on keeping me at a distance.
The reason I am posting is because of what happened yesterday (Nov 1). Out of nowhere, my stepfather texted me a picture of my daughter at a Renaissance Fair, saying “20 years ago I brought you” and followed it with several more photos of my daughter looking happy. I replied politely, saying I hoped she was having fun and that I missed her. He kept sending photos, and I did not know what else to say, so I just hearted the messages. It broke me. I have not seen her in five years, except for one awkward dinner last month that my mother arranged.
That dinner was awful. My mom, stepdad, and sister all took turns bragging about all the trips and vacations they have taken my daughter on, things I never even knew about. I tried to stay calm and focus on my daughter, but I could feel how performative it all was. My mom even said, “Whether you believe it or not, we never wanted you out of her life.” I told her, “Honestly, I have a hard time believing that based on my own childhood.” That ended the night.
For background, I lost my fiancé two years ago to COVID pneumonia. He was my biggest support during this custody battle, and after he died, I lost nearly everything. My home, my hope, and my sense of stability were gone. My mother refused to help when I asked, even though I just wanted to be near my daughter. Since then, she and my stepfather have visited states I lived in without ever telling me they were nearby. It is like they enjoy reminding me of what I cannot have.
I recently moved back to Texas to be closer to my daughter, hoping it would help. But every interaction just hurts worse. They gatekeep her life from me, send me photos like I am an outsider, and act like I should be grateful for crumbs. I do not want to cause my daughter more confusion or emotional damage, but I also cannot keep breaking my own heart over and over trying to be included when it is clear I am not wanted.
So, would I be the asshole if I just stopped trying altogether and stepped out of her life?
I love her deeply, but I feel like my presence or attempts at one only make things worse for both of us. I do not want to give up on her, but I am tired of fighting a battle that feels impossible to win. I have tried to grow, to heal, to show that I am not the person my mother made everyone believe I was. I love my daughter more than anything, but every time I reach out, I am reminded of how much control my mother still has and how much it costs me just to try. I guess I am just wondering if it makes me a bad person to finally let go, to stop trying for my own peace. I do not want to disappear from her life, but maybe the kindest thing I can do for both of us is to stop forcing myself into a space that keeps breaking me.
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I want to explain something important because many assumptions have been made about why I lost custody. It was not because I was using anything. When this all happened, I was 25 and living with my mother temporarily so I could get on my feet. During the entire two years I lived there, I was completely clean. I worked, took care of my daughter, and stayed out of trouble.
My mother was extremely controlling and would pick fights over small things like washing dishes too late or folding towels wrong. The situation kept getting worse, and what finally pushed me over the edge was when she put both me and my daughter in danger. She stopped the car in the middle of the road just to yell that I needed to stop arguing with her.
That was the moment I decided to leave with my daughter. I had every legal right to do so as her mother. But when I tried to go, my mother tried to trap me in the house, physically grabbed my daughter to pull her away from me, and then called the police to claim I was kidnapping my own child.
When that did not work and I was safely in Louisiana with my fiancé, who I had been in a long-distance relationship with at the time, my mother reached out about a month later pretending she wanted to send me a birthday gift. I was hesitant, but I eventually agreed. Then I was served custody papers on December 11, 2014. I had just two weeks to find an attorney and appear in Houston by December 22.
That is how I lost custody. It was not because of drugs or neglect. It was because I trusted the wrong person and did not have the resources to fight her in court.
I will never show appreciation to a woman who has made it clear she has hated me since conception and who has mentally, emotionally, and verbally abused me my entire 37 years. I cannot share my whole life here, or this post would never end. I am being forced to watch my daughter live my childhood while both of us are told I am a danger and unfit. When confronted, there is no explanation—just "you are a danger and unfit." Nothing I do will please them.
For eight years after the custody suit, I worked 14 to 16 hour days. I moved multiple times to find safer, better homes with space for her, including her own decorated room. During that time, I saw her regularly. Visits mostly stopped in 2020 when I had a terrible accident that broke my foot. Even then, my mother insinuated I could have just walked on it. Despite malpractice issues, losing my vehicle, and being lucky to be alive, I kept trying.
When my fiancé passed away, despite reaching out, I was turned away. My instability happened before age 25 and was worsened by trusting my mother, who waited until the last minute to tell me I would receive only minimal help, putting me in impossible situations.
I was not looking for sympathy—only a less complicated, less dramatic way to explain how to move forward. Some have understood and given helpful advice. Many others seem closed-minded, wanting to see only a victim crying for pity. I do not want people feeling sorry for me because that does not help.
I am autistic, so what seems clear to me may not be clear to others. I leave some things out because I do not think they are necessary. I have not smoked since moving back here. I only mentioned weed because if I were to do anything, it is the only thing I choose as it medically helps me.
I'm sure she will yank the whole thing pretty soon.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AITA_WIBTA_PUBLIC/comments/1om9inw/wibta_if_i_completely_stepped_out_of_my_daughters/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 02, 2025 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,546 |
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bell_flower
this Reddit Moo lost custody of her child to her mother and is whining how controlling her mother is. Maybe it's true but after you read the story you see that she hasn't seen her kid in FIVE YEARS. She's such a victim, etc. I would bet she left out a lot from this story
That whole situation sounds like a clusterfuck. I have no doubt that you're right, there's a lot of missing information here, but I'm guessing just from the sound of this that both sides are terrible.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 03, 2025 | Registered: 15 years ago Posts: 7,801 |
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When my daughter was about two, my mother gained custody of her during a very rough time in my life. People like to say I had a “drug problem,” but the truth is it was just weed. I have never been ashamed of that.
five years later
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use anything harder than weed, and I have done everything asked of me.
Well apparently you have not as you are still using. In the eyes of the court - even where it's legal that is a big NO.
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“There are three things all wise men fear: the sea in storm, a night with no moon, and the anger of a gentle man.”
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 06, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Another fence sitter contemplating having children. At least some of the responses are very honest and insightful.
The woman pretty much admits the day to day sounds unpleasant and like something she wouldn't want to do. So what's the issue, and why ask the internet? She also seems to be focusing on chores when there is plenty of hard emotional work to raise a functional human being and HELLO how about FINANCES. It's HELLA expensive to have a kid. It seems like she's glossing over a lot of that.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/1onva7j/fencesitter_who_cant_get_over_the_daytoday/
The woman pretty much admits the day to day sounds unpleasant and like something she wouldn't want to do. So what's the issue, and why ask the internet? She also seems to be focusing on chores when there is plenty of hard emotional work to raise a functional human being and HELLO how about FINANCES. It's HELLA expensive to have a kid. It seems like she's glossing over a lot of that.
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My partner and I are debating whether or not to have kids. When I think broadly about sharing future traditions and memories with children, I could see the value of having a family. But when I envision the day-to-day realities of raising kids, I take two steps backwards. While I recognize the value of routine in life, raising kids seem to involve highly structured routines, which seems to feel very monotonous. We are financially stable but won't have much family help if we had kids. Even if we could afford occasional childcare, the daily routines still feel daunting.
For example, when they're younger, you would be helping them almost daily with most things including: -flossing and brushing their teeth twice a day -taking them to potty -showering, grooming, clothing them -feeding them
When they're older, they become more independent but I imagine you'd still have to regularly remind them to do the basics like showering and also schedule your life around their routines (e.g. extracurricular pick up and drop off). I have also heard that trips and outings involve a lot more logistics with kids.
Some people tell me you just get used to it, but getting used to something isn't the same as doing well or thriving while doing it. For example, I have found ways to adapt to a full time working schedule, but it has come at the cost of my emotional well-being and I've noticed that I am not as vibrant when I have little time to do things outside of work.
I think what gets me is that many of these parenting chores seem to be non-negotiable. As an adult, if I don't feel like doing the dishes tonight, I can usually postpone the task. I'm afraid I'll mostly end up feeling drained and losing myself in the daily chores of parenting. I have a psychology background and feel like it could be rewarding to give them emotional guidance or learn academic things with them, but can't get over the idea of mundane chores that take place daily. What have your experiences been with managing the daily routines of parenting? Does it truly feel relentless as I imagine it to be, or am I making it to be a bigger deal than it would be?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/1onva7j/fencesitter_who_cant_get_over_the_daytoday/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 06, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
Children suck at all ages. They are needy and dependent when they are very young, and have zero emotional control. EVERYTHING is a big deal that warrants a meltdown. EVERYTHING is a struggle. Running to the store for a couple items? Not anymore, fucker! With kids, a grocery store trip becomes a fucking nightmare that takes hours and will likely involve screaming that may or may not end with Moo carrying their brat out of the store like a surfboard and abandoning their whole cart.
Then they learn how to say "no" to everything and they fight you on every aspect of their existence (what to eat, what to wear, when to sleep). Then when they become teenagers, they become rebellious, ungrateful and have major attitude problems, and you have to be concerned about them having unprotected sex, doing drugs and committing crimes. You also have to be on their asses constantly about hygiene, homework, chores, and a million other things.
And those are the normal ones. If you wind up with an awtard, it's going to be so much worse. Not to mention the risk of having a defective child, which makes a healthy one look normal in comparison.
Breeding is a thankless, soul-sucking, identity-crushing choice with no worthwhile payoff. Your body isn't your own, your time isn't your own, your life isn't your own. You exist entirely for the sake of another human being. There are plenty of people who know 110% they want kids who then regret having them. This idiot wants the Kodak moments.
She also says she has ADHD. NO, do NOT breed with autism! Not just because of the possibility of having a defective brat, but kids are walking triggers. Yeah, people get used to the grind of parenthood because they have no choice. If they could just surrender their kid like an unwanted dog or throw it outside when it became too inconvenient, they would - probably a majority of the time. But once they have a kid for longer than 20 minutes, they're stuck with it and there is no returning it to the sender.
Have brats if you can afford to pay someone else to raise them for you full-time.
Then they learn how to say "no" to everything and they fight you on every aspect of their existence (what to eat, what to wear, when to sleep). Then when they become teenagers, they become rebellious, ungrateful and have major attitude problems, and you have to be concerned about them having unprotected sex, doing drugs and committing crimes. You also have to be on their asses constantly about hygiene, homework, chores, and a million other things.
And those are the normal ones. If you wind up with an awtard, it's going to be so much worse. Not to mention the risk of having a defective child, which makes a healthy one look normal in comparison.
Breeding is a thankless, soul-sucking, identity-crushing choice with no worthwhile payoff. Your body isn't your own, your time isn't your own, your life isn't your own. You exist entirely for the sake of another human being. There are plenty of people who know 110% they want kids who then regret having them. This idiot wants the Kodak moments.
She also says she has ADHD. NO, do NOT breed with autism! Not just because of the possibility of having a defective brat, but kids are walking triggers. Yeah, people get used to the grind of parenthood because they have no choice. If they could just surrender their kid like an unwanted dog or throw it outside when it became too inconvenient, they would - probably a majority of the time. But once they have a kid for longer than 20 minutes, they're stuck with it and there is no returning it to the sender.
Have brats if you can afford to pay someone else to raise them for you full-time.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 07, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Not really brat related, but there is so much toxic Manosphere crap going on, I don't know why any woman would want to breed with most men these days.
This lady sounds like she's married one of these guys.
Edited to add: Read through the comments and OF COURSE this woman is currently not working, doesn't have her own money and "they" are TRYING TO GET PREGNANT.
She needs to GTFO now.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/1opln4j/my_husband_is_upset_over_something_so_trivial_and/
This lady sounds like she's married one of these guys.
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This morning my husband and I separately texted someone in our family group chat to wish them a happy birthday. I didn’t capitalize their name. Not on purpose, I just don’t proofread my texts. He texted me saying “please capitalize his name, it’s disrespectful”. I was confused and said “No it’s not lol it’s a text. It’s not an official letter or email ”. He then calls me and demands I change it, which I begrudgingly did and told him he’s being really weird for focusing on something so trivial. He then gets upset and says that I’m not doing what he’s asking me to do, so now for the next 2 weeks he’s not going to do anything for me, and sent me a text later that said “if you’re my wife then start acting like it”. I responded with “I’m not going to do everything you ask me to do, just like you don’t do everything I ask you to do. Get over it. Saying you’re ‘not doing shit for me for 2 weeks’ is a threat, and it’s toxic and unhealthy. Go get help if you think that kind of ‘solution’ will do you any favors.”
We haven’t talked since then and I’m just so perplexed??? Have I done something wrong? He doesn’t usually act like this so I’m thinking something happened with work or family and he’s just projecting some bs.
Edited to add: Read through the comments and OF COURSE this woman is currently not working, doesn't have her own money and "they" are TRYING TO GET PREGNANT.
She needs to GTFO now.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/1opln4j/my_husband_is_upset_over_something_so_trivial_and/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 07, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
If these kinds of men hate everything women do so much, then why don't they go and marry other like-minded men? Then they can bitch about how awful women are together.
I suppose it's possible the asshat was having a bad day and took it out on his wife. It's not unheard of for someone in a shit mood to get pissy over something trivial and throw all their attitude at someone who had nothing to do with it. I'd be curious if he actually sticks to his promise to not do anything for her for two weeks or if he puts on his big boy pants and apologizes/communicates like an adult.
Because I get it, sometimes you just have a crappy day and get into a snit. And depending on how bad it is, EVERYTHING may wind up annoying you. And from what the author said, her husband has gotten this way a couple other times in the past, but they sat down and discussed it and he apologized.
I hope that's the case and not that her husband is adopting redpill habits. Jumping right to toxic masculinity immediately might be hasty, but I think it will depend on what he does now that he threw his little tantrum. I see the author did mention something about getting therapy with him, but they never went past the consult. So obviously there were behaviors that were problematic enough to seek out a professional. If he refuses to go, then the author should definitely go on her own to learn to deal with his bullshit.
I suppose it's possible the asshat was having a bad day and took it out on his wife. It's not unheard of for someone in a shit mood to get pissy over something trivial and throw all their attitude at someone who had nothing to do with it. I'd be curious if he actually sticks to his promise to not do anything for her for two weeks or if he puts on his big boy pants and apologizes/communicates like an adult.
Because I get it, sometimes you just have a crappy day and get into a snit. And depending on how bad it is, EVERYTHING may wind up annoying you. And from what the author said, her husband has gotten this way a couple other times in the past, but they sat down and discussed it and he apologized.
I hope that's the case and not that her husband is adopting redpill habits. Jumping right to toxic masculinity immediately might be hasty, but I think it will depend on what he does now that he threw his little tantrum. I see the author did mention something about getting therapy with him, but they never went past the consult. So obviously there were behaviors that were problematic enough to seek out a professional. If he refuses to go, then the author should definitely go on her own to learn to deal with his bullshit.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 08, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
From the I Regret Having Children FB page.
How hard is this? Stressed out by having a pet? Then DO NOT have a child. How can anyone even entertain this question?
How hard is this? Stressed out by having a pet? Then DO NOT have a child. How can anyone even entertain this question?
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“I would love some advice from people, I’m 32 year old woman and very happily married. My husband and I are both quite adhd. We love our freedom and love cleanness and neatness. We also love the idea of having our own child together. But my deepest fear is ending up being regretful. I am terrified of having a child on the spectrum. I have struggled in the past with having a pet I find having a pet stressful and I’m scared I’ll feel the same about a baby. I don’t know how to make the decision. Is there anyone who can give me advice on how to decide or someone who went through the same doubt as I did”
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 09, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
How many times does this bint write I?
Not one single word about what the kid's life will look like and if she's prepared or had any thought about what raising a child would be like.
I WANT A BAYBEE
Not one single word about what the kid's life will look like and if she's prepared or had any thought about what raising a child would be like.
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I'm around 30, and my days are coming to an end. And I wanted a kid 10 years ago and I've been ready for years! I don't wanna wait for a man, and I plan to only date women moving forward but idk what will happen.
I just don't wanna wait for someone. I want a kid, I want to raise them and be their mom. I want them to know my mom and my grandparents.
My grandma actually suggested I get inseminated! Which was funny but also... I'm considering once I turn 32 I'll start the process. I'm ready.
Anyone else done this before? I'm not gonna be alone my mom's very adamant she's supporting too and we're looking for a large house where we can all be a family together with my other siblings and when I have kids.
Is this crazy? I want this so bad... I do want to adopt! But I really want to try having kids of my own first, especially since I have PCOS. I need to try, and I'm done waiting! I'm done pretending I never wanted kids and wasting my youth!
I WANT A BAYBEE
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 09, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
Yikes, two adult awtards who value a clean, tidy home should absolutely one thousand percent NOT NOT NOT reproduce! Especially if having a pet is something they find stressful! Holy fucking fuck, brats are tiny hurricanes. They will start making a new mess before they finish making the mess they're still working on. There is a reason why breeder homes look like pigsties all the time - I think after a while, the Moos just get tired of constantly cleaning up after the little bastards and just say fuck it, let the house stay a dump.
These two need to get a Reborn doll if they want a mess-free, stress-free child.
As far as the wanna-breeder, she sounds like she's taken the Kodak moments bait, but like you said, has not put any actual thought into the shitwork involved, especially as a single Moo. I know most men won't touch a single mother with a ten foot pole, but she says she wants to only date women. Do lesbians also turn their noses up at single mothers while dating? I honestly have no clue.
If she has PCOS, she mght very well be throwing money down the fucking drain trying to get pregnant too. She might very well need more than a turkey baster. She could need fertility treatments. At the very LEAST, it's good that her own mother is being supportive, but like how long will that last?
WTF does she mean her days are coming to an end? Is she dying? Or does she mean her fertility window is closing and she's reproductively an "old hag" because she's 30? Sounds like she's trying to beat the clock more than she's having a brat out of any actual desire to be a parent. Like buying something that's on sale that you may or may not want just because it's on sale.
I don't necessarily judge her for choosing to be a single parent on purpose because I've seen PLENTY of stories of women who have kids with male partners who basically wind up caring for two children because the fathers are lazy man-babies. They aren't all that way, but a lot are. So she might already have it easier than her hetero married peers who are wiping literal children's asses AND doing everything but breathe for the "man of the house."
I just hope she puts more thought into her decision before making it. It seems like she is only responding to the comments that encourage her to pursue single Moo-dom, so she will probably ignore the other comments and only read the ones that offer validation.
These two need to get a Reborn doll if they want a mess-free, stress-free child.
As far as the wanna-breeder, she sounds like she's taken the Kodak moments bait, but like you said, has not put any actual thought into the shitwork involved, especially as a single Moo. I know most men won't touch a single mother with a ten foot pole, but she says she wants to only date women. Do lesbians also turn their noses up at single mothers while dating? I honestly have no clue.
If she has PCOS, she mght very well be throwing money down the fucking drain trying to get pregnant too. She might very well need more than a turkey baster. She could need fertility treatments. At the very LEAST, it's good that her own mother is being supportive, but like how long will that last?
WTF does she mean her days are coming to an end? Is she dying? Or does she mean her fertility window is closing and she's reproductively an "old hag" because she's 30? Sounds like she's trying to beat the clock more than she's having a brat out of any actual desire to be a parent. Like buying something that's on sale that you may or may not want just because it's on sale.
I don't necessarily judge her for choosing to be a single parent on purpose because I've seen PLENTY of stories of women who have kids with male partners who basically wind up caring for two children because the fathers are lazy man-babies. They aren't all that way, but a lot are. So she might already have it easier than her hetero married peers who are wiping literal children's asses AND doing everything but breathe for the "man of the house."
I just hope she puts more thought into her decision before making it. It seems like she is only responding to the comments that encourage her to pursue single Moo-dom, so she will probably ignore the other comments and only read the ones that offer validation.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 14, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Here's another one who is going to end up on the I Regret Having Children FB page and wonder what happened.
I don't like the idea of needles or being pregnant and I see where having a child could ruin one's life, but I want to host Christmas Dinner!
Profoundly stupid:
I don't like the idea of needles or being pregnant and I see where having a child could ruin one's life, but I want to host Christmas Dinner!
Profoundly stupid:
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I know that eventually I want kids, but for a while I had been firmly in the no kids camp. But thinking about it when I'm oldish id probably want a big family to host Christmas or something for. From everything I've heard parenting is hell and it "ruins" your life, and I can kind of see how it could be hard to go out or have friends or have a career with kids, but I've also seen that its not so bad and they can bring joy. I also hate the idea of getting pregnant, being pregnant and all the needles and tests and not to mention pushing the thing out. So that makes me wonder should I really be having kids or is it just societal pressure. I do think my life would feel incomplete without having kids but there's so many aspects of parenting that seem so scary or "life-ruining" and maybe I don't fully understand that because I'm young but I really do want to like the idea of having kids, I just don't know how.
I've heard of people suddenly liking the idea of kids when they get pregnant, or after seeing their friends have kids, but what was the thing that made it "click" for you that you would enjoy having, or want to have children?
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 14, 2025 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 2,546 |
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When my daughter was about two, my mother gained custody of her during a very rough time in my life. People like to say I had a “drug problem,” but the truth is it was just weed. I have never been ashamed of that.
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use anything harder than weed, and I have done everything asked of me.
Well apparently you have not as you are still using. In the eyes of the court - even where it's legal that is a big NO.
I think I missed this before. Lol. "I love my child so much, I'll do absolutely anything except stop getting high."
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 16, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
And she's a great mom who didn't see her kid for five years and unfairly lost custody.
I mean, we all KNOW how courts will bend over backward to give even an abusive Moo her kid back. So I'm not buying that.
My Life Fell Apart Since I had my kid, will it ever get better?
I dunno, maybe hop into a DeLorean Time Machine?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/1oy8osw/my_life_fell_apart_ever_since_i_had_my_kid_will/
I mean, we all KNOW how courts will bend over backward to give even an abusive Moo her kid back. So I'm not buying that.
My Life Fell Apart Since I had my kid, will it ever get better?
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I don’t even know how to categorize this post… health, self, kids, parenting, romance, all in one! I know it sounds like I’m venting but I’d also love advice from anyone who has been there. I’m 38f and had my son 8 months ago. He is the best thing that ever happened to me but really everything has gone to shit since I had him.
A lifelong fit lady, I now find myself literally 30 pounds over my ideal weight. Breastfeeding did me no favors, and now even a month since weaning the scale has not budged. I’ve been working out 2-3x a week which already feels like a Herculean effort on shitty sleep. My diet could be better, and I’ve been drinking again after I was sober for 5 years. It’s not a major problem yet but it’s certainly not a positive thing to be doing.
Other than being beyond uncomfortable in my own skin, my relationship with my husband is terrible. He’s a very good person, he shares the load with me as much as he can given his high stress job. I know alot of women would be thrilled to have a guy who does the dishes, takes care of stuff around the house and even does nights when he can, But I just resent the F out of him. I often feel like I can’t stand his presence. His attempts at jokes, his physical appearance. I have to actively work to try and remember why I liked him in the first place?
Work is going well, aside from feeling like I’m a bad mom for having a nanny spend more time with my son than I do. I leave early when I can to be with him, I’m not giving 100% at work. So I’m really not 100% anywhere. I work in finance/ sales and being very personable, charming and attractive matters a lot. I feel like a fraud because it’s not coming naturally to me anymore. I feel fat, old and dull.
My son, my sweet beautiful son, is a handful and a half. He has no chill. He’s all gas all the time. I love him so much, I work so hard to make the moments we spend together count. At 8 months old he does not sleep through the night. A good night is up once to eat, but for months and months it was 2-3x a night which has really accumulated for me and has given me a bone deep level of exhaustion.
I seriously wonder who I am, what I care about. Before I was fit, loved working out and doing active things, was comfortable in my skin and felt great not drinking. Now, I’m a stressed out mess, fighting constantly with my husband, loving the hell out of my kid but also counting down the clock until bedtime.
Is this just life now? What can I do to make things better?
I dunno, maybe hop into a DeLorean Time Machine?
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/1oy8osw/my_life_fell_apart_ever_since_i_had_my_kid_will/
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices November 18, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
I wonder if Duh pushed for a brat and that's why she resents him. Because a guy who actually pulls his weight around the house seems to be a rare thing, so there must be a reason she hates his ass. Like she even hates his appearance. I assume it's because she got fat from birthing a kid and he didn't. I have heard other Moos describe a repulsion toward their husbands, especially in regard to any form of physical contact - not just sex, but any form of touching. I think they're secretly mad at them for getting them pregnant.
Of course there is the obligatory "I love my child, BUT..." mixed in. It's like those people who will start a conversation with "I'm not a racist, BUT..." and will then give you 1,001 reasons why they are, in fact, a racist. Moos will insist their children are the greatest thing to ever happen to them, and then write a novel about each and every way the child has ruined their life. But ohhhhhh they love their precious darlings! Yeah, sing yourself another lullaby, honey. Maybe after the millionth time, you'll make yourself believe it.
Sounds like it's time to get on some happy pills to chemically force her into thinking her life is swell so she doesn't commit murder-suicide. Her picking up drinking again after years of sobriety because of the fucking kid tells me allllll I need to know. And imagine if she was dealing with her kid full time! She's got a nanny spending more time with the brat than she does herself!
To answer her question: the brat's current behavior will get better, but it will get replaced with other bad behavior as the brat gets older. her ass hasn't even gotten to the terrible twos, threenager threes and fucking fours. And, you know, all the years after those that are all terrible as well, but for different reasons. Lucky for her, she can stick the brat in school in about five years so he can be an underpaid teacher's problem for most of the day.
Of course there is the obligatory "I love my child, BUT..." mixed in. It's like those people who will start a conversation with "I'm not a racist, BUT..." and will then give you 1,001 reasons why they are, in fact, a racist. Moos will insist their children are the greatest thing to ever happen to them, and then write a novel about each and every way the child has ruined their life. But ohhhhhh they love their precious darlings! Yeah, sing yourself another lullaby, honey. Maybe after the millionth time, you'll make yourself believe it.
Sounds like it's time to get on some happy pills to chemically force her into thinking her life is swell so she doesn't commit murder-suicide. Her picking up drinking again after years of sobriety because of the fucking kid tells me allllll I need to know. And imagine if she was dealing with her kid full time! She's got a nanny spending more time with the brat than she does herself!
To answer her question: the brat's current behavior will get better, but it will get replaced with other bad behavior as the brat gets older. her ass hasn't even gotten to the terrible twos, threenager threes and fucking fours. And, you know, all the years after those that are all terrible as well, but for different reasons. Lucky for her, she can stick the brat in school in about five years so he can be an underpaid teacher's problem for most of the day.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 02, 2025 | Registered: 20 years ago Posts: 9,418 |
Here's another reason to not date Breeders. Older Dud won't tell his daughter to stand on her two feet because he feels guilty.
I wonder if this person is 30.
It just goes to show if you hook up with Breeders, their kids can always come bouncing back home and you are pushed into second place.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver60/comments/1pbx5oz/boyfriend_with_dependent_adult_daughter/
And she's not wrong. It could be much worse--she could be a criminal or a drug addict.
I wonder if this person is 30.
It just goes to show if you hook up with Breeders, their kids can always come bouncing back home and you are pushed into second place.
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Seventeen months after losing my husband 5 years ago, I met a great widower on a dating site and we’re about to be together 4 years. When we met, his two adult daughters lived out of town. Then 2 years later (and 2 years ago), his older daughter lost her job and had to move in with him. She is now unemployed for 2 years, has no job prospects, very few friends, no boyfriend prospects, and a pet bird that she views as her child. She has no car but walks thousands of steps every day and only works on a small garden and sells homemade challah bread. I’ve been very patient throughout the situation, which includes the bird being very sick on and off for about 6 months and requiring hospitalization 50 miles away and daily vet visits.
I love this man very much. We get along great. We love to cook together and travel. I am just getting really tired of waiting for his daughter to get her own life and move out. He keeps saying the job market is bad and she’s applied for many jobs. But at the moment she’s just focused on the sick bird.
There are times when I want to break up with him but I really do love him and I can’t imagine being with anyone else. I just don’t know how to deal with this very needy daughter whose father enables her behavior because he feels guilty for the death of her mother (by suicide).
Any tips on how to deal with a second SO’s adult children? I know that if I were to meet someone else, their kids could be even more messed up
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver60/comments/1pbx5oz/boyfriend_with_dependent_adult_daughter/
And she's not wrong. It could be much worse--she could be a criminal or a drug addict.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 02, 2025 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 10,387 |
The guy is not likely going to stop supporting his kid. If this woman tries to get him to stop, he will almost certainly choose his daughter over her. In fairness, though, the job market IS bad. Everyone says they are hiring when they're not. Shit gets more and more expensive while wages stagnate. AI is used to filter resumes and perfectly good applicants often get glossed over as a result. Even living with roommates might not be enough to afford to live.
It may not be a matter of her not wanting to leave - it may be a matter of she isn't able to. From the comments, it seems that both the guy and the daughter hate the situation, so it sounds like it might not be that she is choosing to be unemployed, but is just trying to navigate life when no one will hire her. Like I can't fault her for struggling to find work because a lot of people are in the same situation.
Also, I'd say maybe it's good she doesn't have any boyfriend prospects. Maybe she wants to focus on caring for her sick pet and getting a job before she starts worrying about finding a mate. Or maybe she wants to stay single. And at the very least, it's kind of good to know she doesn't just rot in front of the television all day. So while I'm sure the daughter's presence is inconvenient to the author, it sounds like it could be a LOT worse. It sucks, but the truth is a LOT of people in the 20-45 age range are still living at home because they just plain can't afford to live.
But that doesn't change the fact that having to deal with someone else's kid when you're trying to be romantic really cramps your style. She's going to have to decide if she loves this dude enough to tolerate his adult daughter indefinitely. If it was such a problem, why is she still hanging around after the daughter moved back home? I can't really feel sorry for her because she is choosing to stay and then choosing to bitch about it. Maybe if things get super serious and marriage gets discussed, then the daughter issue may need to be addressed. But the author and Duh live separately, so I assume it's at least still somewhat casual. Why not have Duh come to her house to do things so the daughter isn't hanging around?
It may not be a matter of her not wanting to leave - it may be a matter of she isn't able to. From the comments, it seems that both the guy and the daughter hate the situation, so it sounds like it might not be that she is choosing to be unemployed, but is just trying to navigate life when no one will hire her. Like I can't fault her for struggling to find work because a lot of people are in the same situation.
Also, I'd say maybe it's good she doesn't have any boyfriend prospects. Maybe she wants to focus on caring for her sick pet and getting a job before she starts worrying about finding a mate. Or maybe she wants to stay single. And at the very least, it's kind of good to know she doesn't just rot in front of the television all day. So while I'm sure the daughter's presence is inconvenient to the author, it sounds like it could be a LOT worse. It sucks, but the truth is a LOT of people in the 20-45 age range are still living at home because they just plain can't afford to live.
But that doesn't change the fact that having to deal with someone else's kid when you're trying to be romantic really cramps your style. She's going to have to decide if she loves this dude enough to tolerate his adult daughter indefinitely. If it was such a problem, why is she still hanging around after the daughter moved back home? I can't really feel sorry for her because she is choosing to stay and then choosing to bitch about it. Maybe if things get super serious and marriage gets discussed, then the daughter issue may need to be addressed. But the author and Duh live separately, so I assume it's at least still somewhat casual. Why not have Duh come to her house to do things so the daughter isn't hanging around?
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