Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 28, 2020 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,560 |
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Cambion
Also, If you're going to be "beyond pissed" because of something so trivial, maybe it's time to see a shrink. I just really fail to see what this guy did wrong or how "the whole day is fucked." Like this is the hill you want to die on? The Duh doesn't sound incompetent - it sounds like Moo is a control freak who needs things 100% her own way. Then she'll be absolutely shocked when Duh starts doing less as far as child rearing.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 28, 2020 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 2,658 |
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MOOOOO!
I just finished doing dishes and cleaning the kitchen after making dinner. I'm the only one that cooks and cleans. He barely even cleans up after himself. I clean up after everyone, him, our 2 dogs, our 2.5 year old and myself. I feel like a maid all the time. I bring it up all the time and I try to talk about it all the time and he says he'll help more but since I'm a SAHM it's my job to do all this while he works all week. And I'm grateful I'm able to stay home with our son but I didn't sign up for all this. Any help at all would be appreciated but he does nothing and on the rate occasion he does, he thinks he deserves a gold medal for taking the trash out or feeding the dogs or taking our son for a few hours.
He doesn't do bedtime, he doesn't do baths, he doesn't do laundry, he doesn't do dishes, he doesn't clean or pick up anything unless I specifically ask about a million times and even then it's a hit or miss.
And to top it all off, he's been gone all day riding in his jeep instead of being home with us for the first time since Wednesday. We've been running around non stop because of the holidays and we're finally home all day and he goes off on his own.
I just can't live like this anymore and I don't know what to do that I haven't already tried
Rant over.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 28, 2020 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 28, 2020 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
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Mothers have it so much worse than a father could ever comprehend. It’s 4am and my son is restless so he’s up fussing while simultaneously trying to converse with me.. mind you he’s 1yrs old so he can barely pronounce what he’s trying to say. I’m tired 7 months pregnant and over stimulated overwhelmed & over it.
I bet you can’t guess what his father is up to.... playing video games.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 28, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,007 |
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I'm grateful I'm able to stay home with our son but I didn't sign up for all this.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 28, 2020 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
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Peace
It's called being organized, something Moos need to learn.
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bell_flower
This doesn't make any sense:Quote
I'm grateful I'm able to stay home with our son but I didn't sign up for all this.
This woman seems mystified that runtcare and housework are drudgery. I honestly think these broads want to stay home so they have a socially-acceptable reason to exit the work force, which admittedly sucks, but it only sucks for 8-10 hours a day while runt care is FOREVER.
I think they have visions of playing on the web all day, ordering out food, and having someone else raise their kids and clean the house. If that's what they expect, they need to marry a rich dude so they can have nannies and housekeepers, although a lot of high earning men now want trophy wives or wives that are pulling down money like they are, partially because this isn't the 1960's and the workplace is much different. Gone are the days of the "Company man" and lifetime employment at one company.
Nevertheless, if her story is to be believed, the guy does sound like a non-adult in that he refuses to pick up after himself and he's taking off and "riding around in his Jeep." He certainly does not sound like he's present for being a parent, or he could be checked out emotionally. She needs to pay attention and not get pregnant again, but they never do!
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 29, 2020 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,560 |
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bell_flower
This doesn't make any sense:Quote
I'm grateful I'm able to stay home with our son but I didn't sign up for all this.
This woman seems mystified that runtcare and housework are drudgery. I honestly think these broads want to stay home so they have a socially-acceptable reason to exit the work force, which admittedly sucks, but it only sucks for 8-10 hours a day while runt care is FOREVER.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices December 30, 2020 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
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I feel like a piece of shit. I read about how awful a lot of y'all's husbands are, and I'm thinking about how lucky I am, how great a guy he is - but then it hits me. I'm the lazy, useless husband in our marriage.
I'm a SAHM (this was supposed to be the year I got a job, or found something to do all day since my son is finally in kindergarten, but Thanks COVID instead I'm sitting next to him all day doing virtual kinder). The house is always a mess. I somehow can't get my shit together enough to spend thirty minutes while he's at work picking up after ourselves. I haven't even cooked this week. Every day when he gets home from work, my husband has to spend thirty minutes cleaning up because the house is a goddamn disaster and I know he hates it but I just... am not fixing it? And then all weekend is the Big Cleaning, because we can't get anything done during the week besides picking up literal garbage and dirty dishes. I don't even put out half as often as he wants. I'm bringing literally nothing to this marriage besides half-assed childcare. I've gained 50+ lbs since we met (which, granted, I was 15 - but still).
I don't need a kick in the ass. I need... idk. I don't know what I need. I'm on antidepressants and a fuckton of vitamins because I'm clinically deficient in basically all of the energy vitamins.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 01, 2021 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
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I have a newborn and 2 autistic children. My 2 children with autism are nonverbal and extremely loud. Whether they are happy or sad, they scream directly next to me all day. Whether it’s excited screaming or angry screaming, at least one of them is always screaming, without exaggeration. I get headaches every day, have lost some of my hearing, and right now my ear drums physically hurt (as they do at the end of every day). I don’t know what to do. They cannot be told to use an inside voice because they don’t know what it means. I have been to playgrounds full of children their age and that is a normal, tolerable noise level that most of you are probably familiar with. But on a daily basis, my children are louder than a playground full of children. I don’t understand the constant screaming they do. One of my children has even damaged their own voice by screaming at the top of her lungs for a full day straight, and I had no idea why, she was inconsolable. And my ears were ringing. That happens DAILY, it’s just a matter of how bad.
I have bought ear protection, from ear plugs to ear muffs designed for shooting range practice, and nothing blocks the sound enough to keep it from hurting. I know that sounds bizarre because a gun should be louder, but the ear protection designed for shooting ranges has simply not worked. I have also tried just listening to music or audiobooks with headphones, and I cannot hear the words at all over their screaming even on the loudest volume, so it’s not worth the additional ear damage to keep trying that. Has anyone with a similar problem found something that actually blocks noise, besides just running away from home...
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 02, 2021 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 2,289 |
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This doesn't make any sense:Quote
I'm grateful I'm able to stay home with our son but I didn't sign up for all this.
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Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 04, 2021 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,560 |
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toraneko
Been catching up on breaking mom since Thursday. This weekend was an avalanche of shitty life choices and regret! There's too many to post!
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 06, 2021 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
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So for background: I have maybe 5 bags of milk in the freezer. I am barely keeping up with my 8mo daughter pumping while she’s gone to grandmas house. If you’ve BF/Pumped, you know how stressful this point in it is.
Also I’m in therapy learning it’s ok to feel feelings after many years of holding it in. Also my husband and I have a great relationship. He’s not like a jerk or anything.
This morning I was packing bags and couldn’t find the milk bag for my daughter. It was still in the pile of bags from yesterday WITH A WHOLE BAG OF MILK INSIDE. Which is his thing to unpack from the day. And I just lost it. I sobbed and yelled and broke down for like 3 minutes. Husband hugged me but looked shell shocked. Then he said “what do you want me to do?” And I yelled “APOLOGIZE!” And he did, kind of. But then I pulled my act together and realized there was nothing I could do so I went and got the kids ready.
He basically ignored me after that until he was leaving. And I was like what’s up why are you mad, and he said he was just upset and scared at how wild my swing was. Which like, cool, now you think I’m a crazy person.
Arghhhhhhh.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 08, 2021 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 2,289 |
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He basically ignored me after that until he was leaving. And I was like what’s up why are you mad, and he said he was just upset and scared at how wild my swing was. Which like, cool, now you think I’m a crazy person.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 08, 2021 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
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I thought this was all I wanted. I don’t know what the fuck is wrong with this fucking kid but he’s fucking broken. All my friends have babies that at least kind of sleep. This 4 month old baby fucking refuses and fucking NOW we are fucking boycotting naps!!! He is four fucking months!! Nothing works anymore, not rocking, not feeding, not wake windows, not routines, fucking NOTHING!!!!!! Every spare fucking second I have (what a joke, it’s zero, he’s just sitting in my lap and screaming fucking probably) is me trying to figure out how to get him to sleep. I can’t learn more because he won’t fucking let me!! Why can’t I just have a normal baby!!! I regret this so much and I feel horrible. I never wanted this kind of life. I have so much to do and it takes me weeks because he gives me no rest, no breaks, nothing. I’m so fucking done.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 08, 2021 | Registered: 17 years ago Posts: 9,747 |
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The TLDR of the backstory is my 7yo has lived with my parents for 5 years. This has not done her any favors.
-she can't read
-she can't tell time
-she can't do basic skills like stack or sort
-shes defiant
-shes rude
-shes violent
Onto the meat. During every single one of our visits shes hurt her 2yo sister. Shes kicked her off the bed. Shes tripper her. Shes stolen her cup and hidden it. Shes stolen her stuffies AND TAKEN THEM HOME. Shes covered her in toothpaste and then BLAMED 2YO. Shes lied to CPS about where she sleeps. Shes sabatoged LOs meal with red pepper. Shes hurt our puppy (she created a slip collar out of rope and almost hung him). Shes over involved with diaper changes / nursing despite her being around babies in the past. She constantly strips toddler and says toddler did it (i no longer leave them alone). She makes our dogs so anxious because she chases them that we have to separate them (though shes not like this with other animals). She bit herself and then blamed 2yo. Despite the mouth size being wrong. And then threw a fit when i called her out for lying. Shes broken LOs toys on purpose. Shes dumped an entire large bottle of dish soap all over our main bathroom (and of course blamed toddler even though I caught her mid act). She almost suffocated LO by smothering her with a pillow (and when i flipped out she claimed LO was laughing despite LO being hysterical).
Yes shes ADHD. Yes shes medicated. Yes she has impulse control. No i dont feel safe with her in my house. No i dont enjoy her being here. Yes we've scheduled a psych eval for her (despite my parents missing it and needing to reschedule 3x).
I just want to enjoy our time together. And i end up crying the night before because im so terrified.
Re: Breakingmom Tales: Or A Collection of Stupidity & Dumb Choices January 08, 2021 | Registered: 8 years ago Posts: 3,560 |
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Moo throwing a bitch fit about her brat that won't sleep. Four months into her 20-year sentence and she's already done. All I can say is bed, made, lie, moron. Man I sure wish this was my life, don't you? Wonder how long she goes before she shakes the kid. To be fair, it would sleep if she did that. For a very long time.
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