There are some things I do not like about her, but I love it when Dr. Whora hands selfish serial Breeders their asses and asks them to actually consider how their kids might feel about a particular situation.
The other day some Moo called in with a 14 year old daughter. You could just tell she was aggrieved with her kid and when Whora probed, the Moo revealed she was divorced and the kid was going back and forth between her house and the kid's father's house. Moo was saying she and NewHusband did not want the daughter to have a phone at all, but the kid's father was not enforcing this position and other things that sounded kind of minor.
Dr. Laura probed more and it turns out, this Moo was remarried and had cranked out THREE MORE KIDS with husband #2. Dr. Laura was like, look, you called me to fix this situation, but how am I supposed to "fix" your daughter? You divorced her father and bred THREE MORE KIDS with another guy. Now she gets to watch you raise your second set of kids (who get to stay home) while she is traveling between two houses. So go ahead and pick at her and take her phone away. She also asked Moo if she ever spent time with her daughter, and how she could possibly do that when her daughter now has to go through one husband and three other kids to get this Moo's attention.
The Moo was pretty much stunned and said, "you're right." The kid's father was not remarried and the Moo said he was a caring parent and Dr. Whora said, then allow her to live there full time. At least she will have a parent who pays attention to her.
I really felt for this kid. After my father died, my mom married a drunken asshole who had FOUR fucked up kids from a previous marriage. (He had essentially abandoned them.) When his kids came to visit there was a lot of jealousy from his daughters. Although they should not have been jealous, because not having to live with him would have been a BLESSING, I can now understand their point of view. My mom also insisted that I transfer schools my junior year of high school because this asshole wanted to take an out of state job and my life was further disrupted. Although I was a good student, I was seen as the "problem" in the family when I pointed out both he and my mom were drunk assholes.
Breeders call CF the selfish, but watch the justifications regarding their own selfish behavior when dragging their kids through their serial relationships so they can be "fulfilled." I get it that some marriages fail, but if the parents created kids, they should suck it up and raise the kids they chose to have. Statistics show that stepfamily relationships have more strife, and kids are more likely to be abused by step parents. Daughters are particularly vulnerable to stepfather sexual abuse.
But that would require actually thinking prior to marriage and breeding and we know they don't do that.