"He had no choice!" August 31, 2020 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,363 |
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Re: "He had no choice!" August 31, 2020 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,363 |
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Cambion
And yeah, I would definitely assume that if he knew he'd be raising these brats as a single father, he would have thought harder about agreeing to take them.
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Cambion
The disturbing fact that families try to foist children on people who explicitly do not want them says quite a bit about how much these relatives care about these kids, as in it sounds more like "let's unload these fuckers on someone else" rather than "let's find the best possible home for these kids."
Re: "He had no choice!" September 01, 2020 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
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kittehpeoples
I find it so interesting that these "You have to put family first!" and "Children override everything!" types swear that they're the only ones who have the children's best interests at heart, but also think that a woman who never wanted kids should suck it up and be a mother because her man said so. Not just a horrible thing to do to her, but a truly awful thing to do to those kids.
Re: "He had no choice!" September 01, 2020 | Registered: 13 years ago Posts: 1,367 |
Re: "He had no choice!" September 01, 2020 | Registered: 19 years ago Posts: 9,197 |
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I'd love to know if he took in the kids after all with her gone. I'll bet he backed out.
Re: "He had no choice!" September 01, 2020 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 804 |
Re: "He had no choice!" September 01, 2020 | Registered: 18 years ago Posts: 9,965 |
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kman
You have to wonder about the family dynamics. Usually families will push a female relative, not a male, to take in children. That was the situation in the other thread, family pushing a female relative. This one is much more unusual. Did the guy's family just assume his partner would be willing to go along? Or maybe he volunteered to adopt the children and wasn't actually under any pressure?
Re: "He had no choice!" September 01, 2020 | Registered: 11 years ago Posts: 3,576 |
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Cambion
It's usually good to take anything on Reddit with a big grain of salt because plenty of people tell BS stories just to incite arguments. It's one of the times that I really hope that the story is fake or heavily embellished because if it's not, then that situation really sucks.
Re: "He had no choice!" September 01, 2020 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,363 |
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Cambion
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kman
You have to wonder about the family dynamics. Usually families will push a female relative, not a male, to take in children. That was the situation in the other thread, family pushing a female relative. This one is much more unusual. Did the guy's family just assume his partner would be willing to go along? Or maybe he volunteered to adopt the children and wasn't actually under any pressure?
That is a very good point. I'm guessing the famblee decided that since the wife/girlfriend is already at home all day long (even if she does work from home), then she's obviously doing nothing important with her life and can easily deal with a couple of kids on short notice. Or maybe there were no able-bodied/sane female relatives who could take the kids, so this guy was a last resort?
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catabat
I sometimes think that r/Chidlfree must be made up. People don't actually pull some of the shit that you read on there, right?
Then I remember this is people we're talking about.
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ladybug2203
Most men who do this expect the woman to carry the load because they're a woman, and they get to hide at their office all day while she does the grunt work. Reality will set in pretty fast for most of these men if HE has to play mommy
Re: "He had no choice!" September 11, 2020 | Registered: 10 years ago Posts: 2,363 |
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JoJo
You know damn well if you reversed the genders, the reddit neckbeards would be screaming about how this lazy gold digger was trying to use the boyfriend for his resources and telling him to break up immediately.
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Re: "He had no choice!" December 13, 2020 | Registered: 9 years ago Posts: 3,708 |
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twocents
My ex asked me once if we would take in sis in laws tardo daughter if something happened. I said 'sure' because I knew SIL would never have let me take over care for this child. She knew how I felt about kids. I got along with the tardo ok, I just avoided her when she was in a mood or sick. SIL had things worked out, a group home she was signed up for, and such.
By saying this I averted a stupid fight with stupid ex. Simply because I knew it would never happen. As it was, I was gone in a few months due to another problem. So, everything worked out.